Ulwimi lwethu lwangaphakathi lunamandla amakhulu kuthi, kwaye into abantu abasoloko beyilibala kukuba olo lwimi lulawulwa sithi. Sinamandla amakhulu kunye nokuxhotyiswa ezandleni zethu kangangokuba amaxesha amaninzi siyachitha. Ngamanye amaxesha la mandla amoshwa ngenxa yoloyiko, ukungafuni ukujongana neemeko ezisongelayo, okanye kuba sisoyika ukuphulukana nolawulo lwezenzo zethu.
Xa ungazi ukuba uwenza njani umsebenzi othile ngexesha elithile, kodwa ungawenza kwindawo ethe cwaka, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wanemvakalelo yokudana ngaphakathi. Xa oku kusenzeka, ukunqongophala kwenkuthazo kulo msebenzi othile kuyavela kunye noxinzelelo oluveliswa kukufuna ukunqanda iingxaki ezikwenza uzive umbi okanye ungaqinisekanga. Konke oku kunokukuchaphazela ngokobuqu.
Yintoni kwaye uyisebenzisa njani indlela yokuzifundisa
Ukuze ubuchule busebenze, njengoko kusaziwa, kufuneka benziwe kwaye buqheliswe rhoqo, ukuba akunjalo, kunokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba kungabi naluncedo kuwe. Inkqubo yokuzifundisa okanye yokuziyalela kuya kukunceda ujongane neemeko ezinzima kuwe, uzilawule kwaye ngaloo ndlela wandise ukuzithemba kwakho kunye namandla akho.
Iqukethe ukuba nencoko ejoliswe kuwe. ngokwakho, ngaphambili, ngexesha nasemva kwemeko oziva ngathi woyikisa. Ukuba awuyenzi ngabom, kusenokwenzeka ukuba incoko yakho yangaphakathi ayibi kwaye ayisebenzi, oko ke konakalisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Kuya kufuneka uyalathise ingxoxo yakho yangaphakathi kwaye utshintshe isimo sakho kwingxaki okanye kubuchule bakho ukuze ubone imeko njengomngeni nanjengethuba lokufunda, ngaphandle kwesiphumo. Kuya kufuneka uyibeke ecaleni ingcinga yokuba iyingozi okanye isisongelo kuwe.
Ukuba kufuneka ujongane nemeko ocinga ukuba imbi kuwe, Kuya kufuneka uzinike imiyalelo ngokwakho kwaye ukhokele indlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye ke ujongane nemeko ngendlela eyiyo. sebenzisa ulwimi lwangaphakathi nolukhuthazayo. Kufuneka ube ngoyena mntu ukukhuthaza kakhulu ukuba wenze izinto ngeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo! Eminye imizekelo yemiyalelo yakho yile:
- Konke oku kuyakudlula
- Yigcine, ukwindlela elungileyo
- Bala ukuya kwishumi kwaye wehlise umoya, emva koko ufumane isisombululo
- Phumla, uyakuyifumana kodwa awufuni ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza okukhulu
- Uyenzile impazamo kwaye kulungile, ufunde ntoni koku?
- Ngamanye amaxesha uphume kwiimeko ezimbi ngakumbi
- Ndingafunda ntoni koku?
- Okukhona ndiziqhelanisa neziphumo ezibhetele endiya kuzifumana
- Ukuba oku akusebenzi, ndihlalutya iziphumo kwaye ndizame ukuphucula elinye ixesha
- Okwangoku andinakukwazi ukuyilawula, kodwa ndingayifumana
Enye indlela yokwenza olona hlobo lobuchule kukuba ubhale la mabinzana ashukumisayo kunye nokuzifundisa kumakhadi amancinci kwaye uhlala unawo. Ngale ndlela, ngalo lonke ixesha uyifuna, unokukhetha eyona ilungele wena ngexesha elithile kwaye ngale ndlela, unokuzixelela ukuba ufuna ntoni ngale ndlela.. Uya kuyila ingqondo yakho kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo ngokunika ngokwakho imiyalelo efanelekileyo yokuphucula ukusebenza kwakho kunye nendlela ocinga ngayo. Okukhona uzixelela, ngokukhawuleza uza kubangenisa ngaphakathi kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kuqala uzive ngcono, unomoya ongcono kunye nokuzithemba ngakumbi.
Izigaba ezibalulekileyo okanye amaxesha obuchule bokuzifundisa
Zintathu izigaba eziphambili okanye amaxesha apho kufuneka uqaphele ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe ukuze uqalise ubuchule bokuzifundisa. Ngale ndlela ungayisebenzisa kwaye ujikeleze ingqondo yakho ngeengcinga ezintle ezikunceda ukuba uphile usempilweni.
Isigaba sokuqala okanye umzuzu: iimvakalelo ziqala
Ngaphambi kokuba uqalise imeko yoxinzelelo, ungaqala ukuba neemvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo. Xa oku kusenzeka kufuneka usebenzise ezi mvakalelo njenge uphawu lokulumkisa ukuqala ukuphumeza isicwangciso sokuzilawula, oko kukuthi, ukusebenzisa indlela yokuzifundisa. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngeenjongo zakho: ukuba ngcono ngokwasemoyeni ngeengcinga ezilungileyo. Umzekelo: 'Ngomso ndinenkomfa phambi kwabantu abangama-300. Kuya kufuneka ndiyilawule imithambo-luvo yam ukuze ingandisokolisi. '
Isigaba sesibini okanye umzuzu: ngaphambi nangexesha lemeko
Eli linqanaba lokuya kwinqanaba. Kuya kufuneka uqale isicwangciso sakho sokuzibamba kunye nobuchule bemiyalelo. Kuya kufuneka ukhokelwe ngamagqabantshintshi aqinisekileyo (alungiselelwe kwangaphambili) ukuba kuya kufuneka ucaphule ngaphakathi. Usenokuba uzibhalele kwikhadibhodi, incwadi yokubhalela okanye nantoni na ofuna ukuyikhumbula ngelo xesha. Umzekelo (ngaphambi kwale meko): 'ndiza kuphefumla kambalwa kwaye ndibala ukuya kwi-10, ke ndiza kuzola. (Ngexesha lemeko): 'Ndiyalawula, ndiyayenza, ndiyakwazi', 'Ukuba ndenza iimpazamo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, ndiza kuzilungisa ndifunde kubo'.
Isigaba sesithathu okanye umzuzu: emva kwemeko
Kuya kufuneka uzincome ngokujongana nale meko kwaye uzivuze ngayo. Umzekelo: 'ndiphumelele, ndikwazile ukuyenza', 'ndinethuba lokufunda, nangona ingakhange ihambe njengoko bendilindele, ndenze kakuhle', 'ubuncinci, ndikwazile ukuzama'.
Ngokwesiqhelo abantu xa sithetha sodwa, asiqondi ukuba siyayenza kuba yindlela yokunxibelelana ngaphakathi engazi. Kodwa kunyanzelekile ukuba unakekele incoko yababini, singabantu esithetha nabo emini! Ukwengeza kwi into esizixelela yona ibaluleke ngaphezu kwento asixelela yona omnye umntu.
Ngaba unokucinga ukuba umntu usendlebeni yakho imini yonke esitsho ukuba awunamsebenzi? Kuya kuba buhlungu kwaye buhlungu! Endaweni yokuba nomntu akuxelele ukuba ungayifumana, ayinamsebenzi ukuba uyasilela, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba uzame, kwaye wenze umzamo ... iya kuba yinto enomdla ngakumbi! Kuphela awufanelanga ukulibala ukuba loo mntu uthi zonke ezo zinto kwaye ziya kuthi zichaphazele imeko yakho kunye nempilo yakho ngokweemvakalelo ngokubanzi ... Ungu! Ngaba uza kuqala namhlanje ukutshintsha ukucinga kwakho komnye ulungele ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho?