Asikhulisi abantwana kuphela, sikhulisa abantu abadala bangomso. Into esiyenzayo njengabazali idala imeko yesiqhelo ebantwaneni bethu, ethi ingcambu yemikhwa kunye nokuziphatha okukhokelela ebudaleni. Ewe, sifuna okona kulungileyo kubantwana bethu: ukuba sonwabe ebomini, ukulungela umhlaba wokwenene, okanye ukuphucula nje isikolo. Amaxesha amaninzi sifuna baphumelele, Ke njengabazali, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nifune ingcebiso ukuze niyiphumeze.
I-Psychology inokukunceda ngayo yonke le nto, kwaye enyanisweni, kukho izinto ezithile abazali abanokuzibonisa ukukhulisa ngempumelelo abantu abadala abancinci nabalungeleleneyo. Ukuphumeza oku, isayikholoji ithi abantwana kufuneka babone kuwe oku kulandelayo sikuxelela kona.
Ukutsala nzima
Musa ukuyifihla imizabalazo yakho ukuze ubonakale ugqibelele. Kuyimfuneko ukuba abantwana babone ukuba ulwa njani ebomini, kuba ngaloo ndlela uya kuba nakho ukuhambisa ixabiso lomlo. Vumela abantwana bakho bakubone usokola, indlela owenza ngayo izinto, indlela yokoyisa ngayo, indlela ophumla ngayo okanye ucela uncedo.
Khala
Sukuba neentloni xa abantwana bakho bekubona ulila, Ngale ndlela, baya kufunda ukuhlengahlengisa iimvakalelo ezinamandla ngakumbi ezingasenzi sizive silungile. Sukuzirhoxisa iimvakalelo zakho ezibuhlungu, abantwana bakho kufuneka baqonde ukuba zonke iimvakalelo zivumelekile kwaye zonke ziyasinceda ngamaxesha athile.
Wanga iqabane lakho
Awunakufuna ukubanga iqabane lakho xa kunokwenzeka ukuba abantwana bakho babe neentloni okanye ukuze kuthi xa bekhulile, bangacingi ngokuzanga abanye abantu. Kodwa enyanisweni, ukwanga kuyimfuneko ukuze abantwana bakuqonde ukubaluleka kokuhambisa uthando oluvakalayo kubantu esibathandayo. Nokuba uncamisana esidleleni kunceda ukusondeza abantu kunye.
Ukuzilolonga
Ukuzilolonga kunceda ukugcina ingqondo nomzimba usempilweni. Kuqhelekile kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba abantu bahambe yonke imihla yobomi babo ukuze babe sempilweni. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana babone kubazali babo umzekelo wokuhamba kwaye bangaboni kuphela abo bazali abathi emva komsebenzi baziphose esofeni babukele iTV kwaye batye iichips. Ubomi bokuhlala nje buyingozi empilweni njengokutshaya, ke ngoko kubalulekile ukuba uqale ushukume wenze izinto njengosapho, ezinje ngokukhwela ibhayisekile, ukuhamba uhambo, njl.
ufunde
Ezinye zeendlela zokuziphatha ezibaluleke kakhulu kwimodeli ziyaphikisana (njengokubonisa umzabalazo okanye ukukhala) kwaye zinokudala uxinzelelo. Ukungqina ukuba ungumfundi wobomi bonke zezi zinto, kuba kuya kufuneka ubeke ixesha lokwenza oko.
Abantwana bethu baya kuthi batshintshe amakhondo amaxesha amaninzi, ke kufuneka bafumane intuthuzelo / ubuchule bokufunda izinto ezintsha. Abantwana ababona abazali befunda bathanda ukufunda ngakumbi… umzekelo wakho ngoyena titshala ubalaseleyo.
Yiba nobubele kuwe
Abantu abasekele ukuzithemba kwabo kwimithombo yangaphandle, njengokuvunywa kwabanye, badla ngokuba neengxaki zempilo yengqondo. Endaweni yokuba abo bantu basekele ukuzithemba kwabo kwimithombo yangaphakathi, (ingxoxo yangaphakathi, amaxabiso), baya kuba namabanga angcono kunye nokuncipha kweziyobisi, utywala okanye iingxaki zokutya.
Ngamanye amagama, ilizwe langaphandle libeka imiceli mngeni eyoneleyo ekuzithembeni komntwana wakho, ke kuya kufuneka ubonakalise isimilo sokuziphatha ngokwakho, kuba ukuba asiphathani kakuhle, ngubani oza kuthi? Nangona kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, kunokwenzeka.
Yiba nolwazelelelo
Oku kungangqinwa ngokwasemoyeni okanye ngokuthatha nje ixesha lokucingisisa kunye nokuzazisa. Inqaku kukuchasene nokugxila ekuphumeleleni nasekufumaneni. Unokubonakala ngathi uyasokola nomnqweno wokubanceda baphumelele, Kodwa iyabanceda abantwana bafumane elona candelo linzulu lokuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba ngumntu.
Yenza ubuchule
Abantwana bayila ngokwendalo, nakubantu abadala nabo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi bayalibala. Ngale ndlela, njengomzali, zama ukuba nomkhwa wokuqala wendlela onwabe ngayo ukwenza izinto ezintsha zokuba neengcambu kubantwana bakho. Ayisiyo malunga nokufezekisa into, kodwa malunga nokuchaza kunye nokuziva ngelixa iyilwa.
Lonwabele ixesha
Esi sisiseko sayo yonke into. Kufuneka uchithe ixesha nabantwana bakho rhoqo, uthathe umdla kwizinto abazithandayo nakwiingxaki zabo, kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, mamela izinto abazithethayo. Ayizukufunda kuphela ngobuntu bonyana okanye bentombi yakho eyahlukileyo, Endaweni yoko, izenzo zakho ziya kubonelela ngomzekelo wendlela yokubonisa inkathalo kunye noqwalaselo kwabanye.
Sombulula iingxaki ungazibalekisi
Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ugqibe ngesiquphe ukuba ufuna ukuyeka ukuziqhelanisa nebhola ekhatywayo, mcele ukuba achaze ukuba kutheni efuna ukwenza oko, kunye noxanduva analo kwiqela lakhe. Ukuba usafuna ukuyeka, mncede afumane into entsha yokubonisa ukuthanda kwakhe.
Yiba nombulelo ngomsebenzi wesikolo
Abantu abasetyenziselwa ukubonisa umbulelo kunokwenzeka ukuba babe nemfesane kwabanye, banesisa ngakumbi, kwaye bathande ukunceda. Ke ngoko, kufanelekile ukuphuhlisa iseti yemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla anokukunceda ngayo umntwana wakho ekhaya, onokuthi umbulele kuwo onke amabakala emini. Iingcali zengqondo zikwacebisa ngokuvuza abantwana ngokubonisa kwabo ububele kunye nomzamo abawenzayo ekuncedeni wena.
Ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezingalunganga
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ekubeni ukukhathalela abanye kucinezelwa ziimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezinjengomsindo, intiyo, iintloni kunye nomona. Ngokunceda abantwana baqonde ezi mvakalelo zingathandekiyo, uya kubanyanzela ukuba basombulule ukungavisisani kwabo ngaphakathi. Ukuzihlaziya kolu hlobo kuya kukubeka kwindlela ende yokuba nemfesane kunye nokukhathalela. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuseka ukuzinza kwengqondo.
Qonda ukuba umhlaba mkhulu kwaye unzima
Ngokutsho kophando olwenziwe ngoochwephesha bengqondo, phantse bonke abantwana banomdla kuphela kwihlabathi elincinci losapho kunye nabahlobo. Kubalulekile ukuba bafunde ukukhathalela abantu kunye neziganeko ezingaphandle kwesangqa esilinganiselweyo, ezinokwahluka kwinto abayaziyo ngokwasentlalweni, ngokwenkcubeko nangokwendawo. Ungabanceda abantwana bakho ngale nto ngokufunda ukuba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo onokuzibeka ezicathulweni zomnye umntu kwaye azive enovelwano, makube ziimovie, iifoto okanye iindaba.
Enkosi ngengcebiso elungileyo.