Eli nqaku lichaza i iimpawu ukuba ligorha.
Sithetha ngobugorha. Ubukhulu. Loo nto ikhethekileyo izuza ukunconywa, ukunqulwa, kwaye mhlawumbi ubuso bakho kwisitampu seposi.
Amaqhawe asenokubonakala ekwixesha lakudala ixesha lokugxeka apho sisonwabela khona ngamanye amaxesha ii-icon zokuthoba.
Umzobo weqhawe
Nangona amaqhawe ethu obuqu ahlukile, sabelana ngombono ofanayo. KwiYunivesithi yaseTempile, isazi ngengqondo UFrank farley iimpawu zomlinganiswa eziqokelelweyo ezichaza i undoqo wobuqhaweAyingawo onke amaqhawe anabo bonke, kodwa okukhona uqokelela, kokukhona ungcono. Ukuba ufuna ubukhulu, kuwe okanye kubantwana bakho, kuyanceda ukuhlakulela ezi mpawu:
2) Ukunyaniseka: Inkohliso iphula indlela esicinga ngayo ngobugorha kwaye itshabalalisa intembeko yoluntu.
3) Unobubele, unothando, unesisa: Abakhulu banokulwa ngokukrakra kwinto abakholelwa kuyo kwaye babe onovelwano ekupheleni kwedabi, nabahlobo neentshaba ngokufanayo. UNjengele uGeorge S. Patton wayeyindoda yasemkhosini ekrelekrele, kodwa iwonga lakhe njengegorha lonakaliswa xa waqhwaba esidlangalaleni elinye lamajoni akhe. Uluntu lwavukela; kwakungenjalo unobubele kumadoda akheNangona uPatton esathathwa njengeqhawe ngabaninzi, ukuthandwa kwakhe akuzange kufane.
6) Inomdla: Ukuncoma akwanelanga; amaqhawe ayazuzwa iintliziyo neengqondo.
Sonke sinokuba ngamagorha
Uninzi luphupha ngokuba ligorha. Uphando kwi Zeno Franco kunye noFilipu Zimbardo babonisa ukuba phantse nabani na unokubonakalisa isimilo sobuqhawe Ukuba iimeko zilungile. Umntu owenza isenzo senkalipho akahlukanga kangako kumntu ongazange enze; Umahluko udla ngokuba phakathi yiqonde imeko, baqonde ukuba isenzo sabo sinokwenza umahluko kwaye singene kholelwa ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza okuthile.
Siyawathanda amaqhawe okwenyani okanye entsomi kuba aquka imilinganiselo esiyifunayoIqhawe lemihla ngemihla, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ngumntu oqhelekileyo owenza okulungileyo kwabanye ngaphandle kokulindela umvuzo.
Iimpawu ezili-10 eziqatshelwe kumagorha emihla ngemihla
- Uvelwano lokwenene: Bayikhathalele impilo-ntle yabanye kwaye bayayibona imfuneko.
- Ukujonga: bayayazi zibeke endaweni yomnye phambi kokuba enze.
- Ubuchule kunye nokuzithemba: babona ukuba banako lawula ingxaki.
- Isikhokelo sokuziphatha: benza kunye iikhowudi kunye namaxabiso icacile.
- Isibindi xa ujongene nomngcipheko: Ziyavezwa xa unobangela uvuma.
- Izakhono kunye noqeqesho: baye bahlakulela izakhono eziluncedo zokunceda.
- Ukuzingisa: bayayigcina inzame nangona uloyiko.
- Ukuba nethemba lokwenene: jonga iziphumo ezilungileyo kwiimeko ezimbi.
- Unomdla: babeka phambili okulungileyo okuqhelekileyo kunenzuzo yabo.
- Ukungaqiniseki: amaxesha amaninzi banjalo engaziwa kwaye zivela xa zifuneka.
I-hero complex: xa unceda uyeka ukunceda
El hero complex ichaza umntu ofuna ukuwongwa ngokudala okanye ngokulawula iingxaki ezithi emva koko azame ukuzisombulula. Injongo yokunceda ixabisekile, kodwa kukho a umgca obhityileyo phakathi kokukuxhasa kunye nokukulayisha kakhulu. Le pateni emsebenzini okanye kubudlelwane ingaba echasayo.
Iimpawu ezifana ne: ixhala malunga nokusombulula yonke into, ukuba netyala ukuba awungeneleli, ukudinwa okungapheliyo, ukucaphuka kunye nesidingo sokuba yimfunekoUkuthintela loo mpembelelo, kuyanceda ukuzibuza: Ngaba ndiyafuna ukuyenza? Ngaba luxanduva lwam? Ndingayenza ngendlela enempilo? Ngaba lithuba lam? Ingaba ukhona omnye umntu xa ndingenzi? Le mibuzo, eyaziwayo kwi-psychotherapy, inceda qhawula uxanduva.
Phakathi kweziphumo: ukuthatha ngaphezu kwesinye esinokusingatha, ukuxabana neqela ngaphezulu ulawulo olugqithisileyo, ukutyeshela usukelo lwakho nokuzenza ufumaneke kwabanye hambisa ngokuxhaphaza. Ngokweemvakalelo, umsindisi uphela ehluthi kwaye ecaphukile. Indlela yokuphuma ingenile beka imida, ikhuthaza ukuzimela geqe kwabanye kwaye iqhelisele ukufana.
Ubuqhawe ngokwengqondo
Ubuqhawe buqhelekile uzolile kwaye unengqondo. Akafuni ukodlula abanye nangaliphi na ixabiso, kodwa ukukhonza abanye nangaliphi na ixabiso. Undoqo yinkxalabo kwabo bafuna uncedo okanye isizathu sokuziphatha, nokuba ingozi yobuqu kwaye ngaphandle kokulindela nawuphi na umvuzo.
Iimpawu ezihlala zibalelwa kumaqhawe ziquka zobulumko, amandla, ukumelana, ukuthanda, umanyano, u buhlungu, ukuthembeka kunye ukukwazi ukukhuthaza. Kwakhona okusembindini kunesibindi, ithuku elikhuselayo, isigqibo nokuzincama.
UFarley wahlula phakathi ubuqhawe bukaBig H (imingcipheko ephezulu kakhulu, efana nesidima okanye inkululeko yomntu) kunye ubugorha obuncinci h (iintshukumo zemihla ngemihla ezitshintsha iintsuku kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ubomi). Ukutsiba ukuncedisa engozini, ukuyeka intswela-bulungisa, okanye ukuxhasa isizathu esingathandwayo kodwa esisesikweni yimizekelo engaxhomekekanga kudumo.
Iindidi zamaqhawe kunye nohambo lwamaqhawe
Kuncwadi kunye neentsomi kukho amanani ahlukeneyo: i iqhawe lasentsomini (uthixo ofana noHercules), i buhlungu (indoda enesidima ewa ngenxa yelishwa, njenge-Oedipus), i epic (yezenzo ezinkulu, ezifana noKumkani Arthur), i zothando (enombono kunye ne-nonconformist, njengoDon Juan) kunye ne igorha (ngamandla angaqhelekanga, njengoSuperman). Zonke zibonisa iminqweno yabantu inkalipho nobulungisa.
Inkqubo ye uhambo hero Ichaza izigaba eziqhelekileyo: ihlabathi eliqhelekileyo, ukubiza, ukugatywa, ukudibana nomcebisi, ukuwela umda, izilingo kunye nabalingane kunye neentshaba, ukusondela kuvavanyo olukhulu, uvavanyo lokugqibela, umvuzo, indlela yokubuya, uvuko, kunye nokubuya kuguqulwe. Esi sakhiwo siyakhuthaza utshintsho lomntu kunye nentlalontle.
I-Antihero: isipili esingafezekanga sobugorha
El iqhawe Uneempawu ezichasene neqhawe leklasikhi: unokurhoxiswa, ukugxeka okanye ukungahambi kakuhle. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ugqiba ukwenza izenzo ezixabisekileyo, nangona kungenxa yezizathu zobuqu okanye iindlela ezithandabuzekayo. Akufunekanga ubhideke kunye ne-villain, emele i ukungabikho kokusesikweni elisilwa neqhawe.
Ikhowudi yeqhawe ngokukaMcRaven
UMlawuli uWilliam H. McRaven ushwankathela ikhowudi esebenzayo yezinto ezilungileyo ezinokufikelelwa ngumntu wonke: inkalipho ukujongana neengxaki, ukuthozama ukuqonda imida, umbingelelo ixesha kunye neetalente, ingqibelelo phambi komthetho nemigaqo yokuziphatha, ububele ngaphandle kokulindela, nya mezela ukunganikezeli, kufuneke u yenziwe ngokugqwesileyo, esperanza oko kuyakhuthaza, ezihlekisayo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye umda ukuphilisa.
Ubugorha ayisosiseko, bu ukuzibophelela kwemihla ngemihla: hlakulela umlingiswa, uqeqeshe izakhono eziluncedo, ubeke imida ephilileyo kwimpembelelo yokulondoloza yonke into, kwaye ukhethe, xa ithuba livela, isenzo esifanelekileyo nokuba akukho mntu uqhwaba izandla. Yile ndlela i ubukhulu obungaxutywanga apho sinako sonke.
