Kwakukho inkwenkwe eyayikwiqela lakhe lekholeji kwaye wayengafaki ndawo naphi na kufutshane nomzamo wakhe. Khange anike ngqalelo ingako kwimiyalelo yomqeqeshi. Ngenye imini i-telegram yafika isitsho utata wakhe wayesandula ukubhubha. Ngoko nangoko, le nkwenkwe yacela ukudlala kumdlalo olandelayo. «Namhlanje awuzukudlala», umqeqeshi waphendula.
Nangona kunjalo, xa umdlalo ungahambi kakuhle kwaye kwakusele imizuzu eyi-10 kuphela, inkwenkwe yanyanzelisa kwaye ekugqibeleni umqeqeshi wamvumela ukuba angene ebaleni. Kwimizuzu nje emibini, lo mfana wafaka igowuli lomdlalo, kwaye kusele umzuzu omnye, wafaka inqaku lokuphumelela. Uluntu oluchulumancisayo lwangena ebaleni lwaza lwayifunqula inkwenkwe ezingalweni zabo. Ekupheleni komdlalo, umqeqeshi wambuza: "Kwenzekeni kuwe?" Umfana waphendula wathi: "Utata wam wayeyimfama kwaye namhlanje yayingumdlalo wokuqala awakhe wandibona ndidlala."
Umzuzu wokuvuka kwaye unike okusemandleni akho
Abantu abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba loo mzuzu uchazwa yintlantsi ekhanya entliziyweni yabo, njengoko kwenzeka kwinkwenkwe ebalini. Lo mzuzu uchukumisayo, nangona unamandla, akufuneki ube lolona hlobo lokukhuthaza ebomini bethu. Akuyomfuneko ukuba silinde into ebalulekileyo okanye kade ukuba yenzeke ukuze sithathe inyathelo kwaye velisa okona kulungileyo kuthi. Umbuzo ophambili ngulo: kutheni ulinda?
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuwela kuyo ukutyhafa okanye uqheliselo, sikholelwa ukuba kuya kubakho ixesha kamva lokuthetha oko siziva sivakalelwe kuko okanye ukwenza oko sikulangazelelayo. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba namhlanje ibilithuba lethu kuphela? Xelela iqabane lakho "Ndikuthanda ngaphezu kobomi bam", ukuxhasa ngokungenamiqathango abahlobo bakho okanye ukulandela ngenkalipho amaphupha akho zizigqibo ezitshintsha ubomi.
Yamkela okunokwenzeka ngaphakathi
Xa ucinga ukuba sonke siyafana, izinto ziqala ukudibana ngokwahlukileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukukholelwa kwisakhono sakho kunye nezinto ezinokwenzeka. Le nkolelo kuwe ayiphuculi nje kuphela umgangatho wobomi, kodwa inceda nokwakha iindlela eziya ekuziphuculeni.
Ukunxibelelana nobuntu bethu ekwabelwanayo kusenza siqonde ukuba asikho ngaphantsi okanye siphezulu kunomntu. Ukujonga emehlweni abanye ngokuzola kunye nokuzithemba kuba bubuchule obuguqulayo.
Ukuphuculwa komntu njengamandla okuqhuba ubomi
Ukuziphucula Asiyongcamango nje ekhuthazayo; Yindlela yokuphila ekumema ukuba ushiye indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, ujongane noloyiko kwaye ube yinguqulelo yakho. Esi sisiseko okwakhelwa kuso impumelelo nobomi obanelisayo. Akukho mntu uthe kuya kuba lula, kodwa Inyathelo ngalinye olithathayo ukuya kwiinjongo zakho lomeleza umlingiswa wakho kunye nokuzithemba kwakho.
Kwakhona, ukuzeyisa idlala indima ebalulekileyo kule nkqubo. Ukwenza umzamo wokuphucula yonke imihla, nangona kungekho mntu ubukeleyo, kudala umkhwa wokugqwesa okukusondeza kwiinjongo zakho.
Musa ukuyishiya ingomso
Ukuphepha ukuzibekela amangomso izinto kubalulekile ukuze ufumane okona kulungileyo kuwe. Sukulinda umzuzu ogqibeleleyo; mamaxesha amaninzi, loo mzuzu awukho. Qala ngoku, thatha inyathelo kwaye uya kubona ukuba izigqibo zakho ziqala njani ukubumba ikamva elithembisayo.
Ngokomzekelo, ukucwangcisa amanyathelo amancinane okufikelela usukelo olukhulu kwenza umsebenzi obonakala ungafikeleleki lula. Funda ukubeka izinto ezibalulekileyo kwindawo yokuqala kwaye wenze isigqibo sokuba yintoni ebalulekileyo kuwe. Oku kuthintela ukuphazamiseka kwaye kukugcina ugxile.
Khumbula ukuba uyakwazi, ufanelekile, yaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukulungele ukujamelana nocelomngeni olunokuvela.
Ukwenza ngenjongo, ukuzinikela kunye nokuzithanda kuguqula ubomi. Hlakulela ezi mpawu kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kwaye uzingce ngokuba yeyona nguqulelo ibalaseleyo yakho.