La indawo yokuthuthuzela Ingachazwa okanye ihlelwe njengemeko yengqondo apho umntu eziva ekhululekile nokuba ukwimeko embi; oko kukuthi, bakhetha ukuhlala kuloo meko nangona kukho izinto ezimbi ezibangqongileyo. Emva koku kuhlala kukho uloyiko lokuya phambiliukukhula nokukhula njengomntu, kunye nesidingo sokhuseleko nolawulo.
Ngelixa ukuhlala kulo mmandla kunokunika intuthuzelo yexesha elifutshane, kukwathintela ukufunda, kuthintele amathuba, kwaye ekugqibeleni kudala ukuziva ungento yanto. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukufunda Phuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela ngeengcebiso ezisebenzayo Yenye yeentsika ezisisiseko zophuhliso lomntu kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokweemvakalelo.
Kulo lonke eli nqaku siza kuthetha malunga iinzuzo zokuphuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela Kwaye, ukongeza, ezinye iingcebiso eziya kukuvumela ukuba uzenze ngokulula. Kufuneka nje ungaguquguquki, uqeqesheke, kwaye uzame ukonwabela ubomi ngokupheleleyo.
Yintoni kanye kanye indawo yokuthuthuzela kwaye kutheni isibambise?
La indawo yokuthuthuzela Yiyo imeko yengqondo Kule meko, umntu uziva ezolile kwaye ekhuselekile kuba eyazi into eyenzekayo ngeenxa zonke kuye, alindele phantse yonke into, kwaye aphephe ukujongana neyona nto ibangela ukuba boyike okanye ixhala. Isebenza njengohlobo "lwe-autopilot" oluvumela ukusebenza okufanayo, kodwa ngaphandle kotshintsho olubalulekileyo okanye imingeni.
Kule meko, iindlela ezifanayo zigcinwa, imikhwa efanayo iphinda iphindwe, kwaye ingozi iyancitshiswa. Ngexesha elifutshane, oku kuvelisa ixhala eliphantsi kunye nomoya wokulawula; nangona kunjalo, xa ithatha ixesha elide, iziphumo ezifana nezi zilandelayo zivela: ukungakhathaliukukruquka okungapheliyo, ukuswela inkuthazo, kunye nokuziva ubambekile.
Ngokwemigaqo yengqondo, le ndawo yokuthuthuzela inxulumene nokukhangela a ukuxhalaba okungathathi hlangothiAyingoxinzelelo olukhulu okanye izivuseleli ezininzi. Ingxaki kukuba, ngokuhlala apho, sincama ukukhula kwaye sijonge izinto ezintsha ezinokwenzeka ezinokusisondeza kubomi obanelisayo.
Phakathi kwam nawe…mhlawumbi sele ufuna ukutsiba, yiba nesibindi, kwaye uloyise ihlabathi, kodwa awukakwenzi oko. Usenokuba uyabandezeleka kwaye awuphakamisi nomnwe ngenxa yokuba usekwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Ukuba ukushiya ixesha elidlulileyo emva kokulwela oko ubusoloko uphupha ngako kuyakoyikisa kwaye kukwenza ube nexhala, musa ukuzibetha: olo loyiko lungumntu, kodwa unokuloyisa. thatha inyathelo eliya phambili kwaye uthathe amanyathelo angaphandle.
Eminye imimandla engaphandle kwentuthuzelo: ukufunda, ukuphakuzela, kunye nendawo "yomlingo".
Xa uthatha isigqibo sokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala ukuya shiya indawo yokuthuthuzela, ufaka oko kubizwa ngababhali abaninzi indawo yokufundaKulapho kuvela khona imingeni, utshintsho, izinto ezingalindelekanga, kunye neempazamo. Yindawo apho... wandise amava akhoUyaqaphela, uyazama, uyazenza iimpazamo, kwaye uyazama kwakhona. Nangona inokuvelisa ukungakhuseleki okuthile, ikwazele zizinto ezifunyenweyo, izakhono ezitsha, kunye namathuba.
Ukuba umceli mngeni owuthathayo mkhulu kakhulu okanye uzibeke esichengeni sotshintsho oluninzi ngexesha elinye, udlulela phambili indawo yovaloKule ndawo, uloyiko lunamandla kangangokuba unokufumana ukukhubazeka, uxinzelelo oluphezulu, kunye nomnqweno wokubaleka okanye ukunikezela. Ukuhlala apha akucebisi, kuba amanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo aluzinzeki kwaye asempilweni.
Okokugqibela, xa ukwazi ukoyisa olo loyiko kwaye uqhubela phambili ngenkxaso, inkuthazo, kunye nobuchule, ufika kwindawo ebizwa ngokuba indawo yomlingoKulapho uqala khona ukubona iziphumo, iingcango zivulekile ongazange ucinge ngaphambili, uziva unebhongo ngawe kwaye ufumanise ukuba unamandla ngakumbi kunokuba ubucinga.
Ukuqonda ezi zowuni kukuvumela ukuba uhlengahlengise ngcono imiceli mngeni yakho: ayikokutsibela kwindawo engenanto ngaphandle kweparashute, kodwa malunga nokuzibeka. imingeni ngokuthe ngcembe ezikugcina ukwinqanaba "lokuxhalaba elilelona liphezulu", oko kukuthi, kwinqanaba loxinzelelo olunemveliso olukunceda ukuba wenze ngcono kwaye uqhubeke ukhula.
Kutheni le nto kufuneka ushiye indawo yokuthuthuzela?
Esi simo sengqondo, ngoxa sinokumkhusela umntu kangangexesha elithile, sinempembelelo embi emva kwexesha elide, njengoko imikhwa nezithethe zinokukhokelela kwimiphumo engathandekiyo. Ngaphaya koko, uninzi lwabantu abahlala kweli lizwe badla ngokukhula ukungakhathali kunye neemvakalelo ezifanayo nezo zifunyanwa ngabantu abadandathekileyo okanye abanengxaki yeemvakalelo.
Ngoko ke, ukushiya loo mmandla ubukhulu becala kuphelisa ukuba kunokwenzeka okanye kubutshintshe ubomi bomntu ogqiba ukwenjenjalo. Leyo yeyona nto iphambili kunye neyona nto iluncedo kwabo bazama ukutsiba. Kodwa kukho nezinye ezininzi. izizathu ezibambekayo ukushiya ukudodobala.
Uya kuba namandla ngakumbi kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo
Njengoko ubomi buqhubeka, buyasibumba ngamava esinawo. La mava asikelwe umda kakhulu xa sihlala kwindawo esitofotofo; ngenxa yoko, siyaphoswa zizifundo ezininzi ezibalulekileyo kwaye sithintela ukukhula kwethu. uphuhliso njengabantu ngabanye.
Ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kunokukoyikisa okanye kubangele unxunguphalo, kodwa ukujongana noloyiko Yinto ekuvumela ukuba uqaphele ukuba ibingeyonto imbi njengoko ubucinga. Ukuziva ungakhuselekanga kuyindalo; inokuba luncedo kuba iyakulumkisa ukuba indlela engaphambili ayizukuba lula. Kodwa xa uloyiko lukwenza uphelelwe ngamandla, iba sisiqhoboshi esikuthintela ekufikeleleni kwisakhono sakho esipheleleyo.
Wakuba uloyisile olunye okanye ngaphezulu kolona loyiko lwakho lunzulu (njengoloyiko lokungaphumeleli, ukuphulukana nezinto onazo, okanye ukuba mbi ngakumbi kunokuba unjalo ngoku), uya kukwazi ukuqhubela phambili ngokuzimisela okukhulu. Kwaye oko kuzimisela kwandisa kakhulu amathuba akho okuphumelela kuyo nayiphi na indawo yobomi bakho.
Kwelinye icala, sonke siyayidinga ukufunda ukuwa nokuvuka kwakhonaKungenxa yokuba kukule nkqubo yokubuyela phezulu apho iinzame zethu zingaphaya kwemida yethu kwaye sifezekisa izinto ezimangalisayo. Ukuba awuzivumeli ukuba uwe kwaye uphume ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, uzivalela ithuba lokomeleza ukomelela kwakho.
Uya kuphuhlisa ubuchule bakho
Ngokubeka ecaleni i yesiqhelo nangemihla ngemihlaUya kuba nakho ukuphuhlisa ifayile yakho ye- ubuchule bokuyilaKuya kufuneka ulwe okanye ujongane neentlobo ezahlukeneyo ze-stimuli zangaphakathi nangaphandle oza kuba nazo endleleni.
Ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kuvuselela ubuchule ngokukubonisa amathuba amatsha kwaye uhlukane nesiqhelo. Izifundo ezahlukeneyo zengqondo zibonisa ukuba abantu abavuleleke ngakumbi kumava, oko kukuthi, abo bazama ukuzama izinto ezintsha kwaye bathathe umngcipheko ofanelekileyo, badla ngokufumana. impumelelo enkulu yokuyila.
Kuloo nkqubo, uya kufumana izisombululo ongazange wazi ukuba zikhona; mhlawumbi awuzange ucinge ukuba uneengxaki ezithile, okanye ukholelwa nje ukuba azinakusonjululwa kwindlela yakho yokuphila yangaphambili. Ukanti, ngokuzinyanzela ukuba ucinge ngokwahlukileyo, ingqondo yakho iyavelisa iindlela ezintsha.
Uya kuphuhlisa ukuzithemba kunye nokukhuseleka kuwe
Abantu abangenakuphuma kwindawo yabo yokuthuthuzela babonakaliswa ngokuba uyoyikeka kwaye ungazithembiKuba uloyiko lwabo luyababamba kwaye bayathandabuza amandla abo okujongana nawo. Nje ukuba ukwazi ukutyhutyha eso sithintelo kwaye ujongane nehlabathi ukuze ufezekise zonke iinjongo, iinjongo, kunye namaphupha owake wawabekela wona, kulapho uya kuqala khona... kholelwa kuwe.
Ngalo lonke ixesha uthabatha inyathelo elincinci ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela uze ufezekise into ethile, nokuba ibonakala ilula kangakanani na, uyomeleza ukuzimelaOko kukuthi, inkolelo yokuba unako ukuthatha amanyathelo asebenzayo ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho. Le nkolelo inxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo oluncinci, ukuxhalaba okuncinci, kunye nokukwazi ukucwangcisa kunye nokulindela iziphumo ezilungileyo.
Wakuba uqalile ukuzibona usombulula iingxaki kwaye uthatha inyathelo elingakumbi kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, uya kuqonda ukuba unako ngokwenene ukufezekisa izinto ongazange uzicinge. Uza kuqala ukuthemba izakhono zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngakumbi, eziya kukhuliswa ngamava oza kuwafumana endleleni.
Uya kukwazi ukukhula njengomntu
Ngamanye amaxesha sigxila kuphela kwintoni izinto (singasathethi ke ngamaxesha amaninzi), sikutyeshele ukukhula nokukhula kwethu kwangaphakathi. Nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukukhulula amandla ethu apheleleyo ngaphandle kokuba siqale sisebenze ukuba singoobani, into esiyifunayo, kwaye zeziphi iinqobo ezisikhokelayo.
Uninzi lwabantu abaphumeleleyo banokuqonda okucacileyo ngokwabo, bathathe umngcipheko, kwaye bakholelwa kwiiprojekthi ezininzi ezithandabuzayo. Bakhetha ukuthatha amathuba ukuze baphumelele, besazi ukuba xa bewile, kufuneka bavuke baphinde bazame. Baqalise uhambo olude Kwaye umngeni ngamnye owoyisiweyo wandisa indawo yabo yokuthuthuzela kwaye utyebisa ubomi babo ngamava amatsha, abafowunelwa, izakhono, kunye nokufunda.
Ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kuyakuvumela Ndazi ngconoUfumanisa iitalente obungazi ukuba unazo, ujongene nemida yakho, ufunda ukulawula ngcono iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye uyazi ukuba zeziphi ezona zinto zibalulekileyo kuwe.
Uya kuba namava anomvuzo ngakumbi kunye nobudlelwane
Enye into ebalulekileyo kukuba ngokuqhekeza imiqobo yakho yangaphakathi uya kukwazi dibana nabantu abatshaZama imisebenzi ongazange uyizame ngaphambili kwaye uzivulele kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo. Oku kwandisa amathuba akho okwenza ubuhlobo obunentsingiselo, ukufumana amathuba emisebenzi, ukufumanisa izinto ozithandayo ozithanda kakhulu, okanye ukudibana neqabane elifanelekileyo.
Ukuhlala ukwindawo efanayo, nabantu abafanayo kunye neencoko ezifanayo, kuyawuthintela kakhulu umhlaba wakho wangaphakathi. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, qhawula inkqubo Kwaye ngokuziveza kwiinyani ezahlukeneyo, imephu yakho yengqondo iyakhula, uvelwano lwakho luyakhula, kwaye imbono yakho ngobomi iba nzulu kwaye iguquguquke ngakumbi.
Iingcebiso zokuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela
Nje ukuba ufunde izibonelelo okanye izibonelelo zokushiya indawo yakho yokuthuthuzelaMhlawumbi uya kuziva ukhuthazekile yaye ukhuthazwa ukuba ukwenze. Nangona kubonakala kucacile, kwiimeko ezininzi sifuna uncedo okanye inkxaso ukuze sityhale; ngoko ke, olu lwazi lujolise ekuncedeni uqonde ukuba yintoni kwaye kutheni kufuneka ulandele ezi ngcebiso.
Ukuphuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela ayingomlingo, kwaye akwenzeki ngobusuku; yinkqubo edibanisayo izigqibo ezincinci zemihla ngemihla, utshintsho kwimikhwa kunye nendlela entsha enxulumene noloyiko kunye nokungaqiniseki.
Zama ukulawula amasiko
Bathi abantu bayakwazi ukuqhela phantse nantoni na kwiiveki ezimbalwa; nto leyo ethetha ukuba ngexesha elifutshane a okusingqongileyo okutsha Inokuba yinto yesiqhelo. Ukuba songeza kwiinyanga okanye iminyaka kwimeko efanayo, kulula ukucinga indlela imikhwa ethile enokuthi yendele ngayo kumntu ngamnye.
Lo mzekelo ubonakala umsulwa usenokuba uchaphazela ubomi babantu abaninzi; kuba, ngokungayishiyi loo meko... ifulethi elitofotofo okanye kuloo msebenzi uqhelekileyo, banokuphoswa ngamathuba awodwa, njengokunyuselwa kwesinye isixeko, iprojekthi eyahlukileyo, nokuba nobudlelwane obunempilo.
Kufuneka kucace ukuba yonke into kobu bomi umkhweli Yaye ukuba sibambelela ngokuqinileyo kwizithethe, siya kuba sichitha ixesha elixabisekileyo esinokulityala ekuzuzeni amava amatsha anikela ulwazi neenkumbulo zekamva.
Guqula iindlela zakho
Ukuthathela ingqalelo ingcebiso yangaphambili, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uqalise ukuphuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, utshintshe iindlela zakho ezifanayo okanye ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo. Ezi zinokusetyenziswa kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bakho, njengokutya kwakho, ubudlelwane bakho, umsebenzi wakho, okanye izifundo zakho, phakathi kwabanye.
Awudingi ukuguqula yonke into ngexesha elinye; ungaqala ngayo iinguqu ezincinci Akufuneki ukuba bakugqithise, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka bakukhuphe kwi-autopilot. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ingqondo yakho iya kuqhelana nezinto ezintsha kwaye uya kukwazi ukujamelana nemingeni emikhulu ngokwemvelo.
Eminye imizekelo ye tshintsha iindlela zakho Banokuba zezi:
- Guqula indlela otya ngayo Hlanganisa izitya ezintsha. Yiba nesibindi sokubhaka ikeyiki ngewaka leelekese ozibone kwi-intanethi kwiveki ephelileyo, okanye uzame ukutya okwahlukileyo kwindlela okhwela ngayo.
- Phuma uye kwiindawo ezahlukeneyoapho unokunxulumana nabantu abahlukileyo kwisangqa sakho sesiqhelo. Lahla uloyiko lwakho lokuthetha nabantu ongabaziyo: emva koko, wonke umntu ngumntu ongamaziyo de uqalise incoko. Ngubani owaziyo, loo mntu wasemzini unokuba ngumhlobo omangalisayo okanye umntu onxibelelana naye ngendlela ekhethekileyo.
- Bhalisela iiklasi Imisebenzi yabucala okanye ekhethiweyo yokongeza ukwahluka kwindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla. Ungazama nezinto ongazange uzenze ngaphambili: ithiyetha, umdaniso, ukufota, iilwimi, inkqubo, njl.
- Guqula iindlela zakho zemihla ngemihla: tshintsha indlela eya emsebenzini, yehla kwindawo enye ngaphambi kwexesha, hamba kwindawo eyahlukileyo, okanye sebenzisa enye isithuthi.
- Lungisa indawo yakho ngokutshaGuqula ubume begumbi lakho okanye idesika ukunyanzela ingqondo yakho ukuba iqhelane nendawo eyahlukileyo kancinane.
Xoxa ngento onokuyenza ukuzicelomngeni
Abantu abangazinzanga kwindawo yokuthuthuzela i-static babonakaliswe ngo umngeni ngokwabo Rhoqo rhoqo (abanye rhoqo). Olu luphawu olufanele ukukopishwa, njengoko luluphawu oluya kukuvumela ukuba uzame ngokupheleleyo ukuzibonakalisa kuwe nakwabanye ukuba uyakwazi ukuphumeza oko ubuzimisele ukukwenza.
Qala ngokuchonga ukuba zeziphi iindawo zobomi bakho ezikubangela ukungonwabi kakhulu okanye utshintsho oye walubeka: incoko elindileyo, isigqibo somsebenzi, iprojekthi yobuqu, umkhwa ophilileyo, njl. Ukusuka apho, cinga malunga nokuba yintoni na. encinci, umngeni obambekayo Ungathatha izintambo kwiveki ezayo.
Ekuqaleni kunokuba nzima okanye ungakhululeki, kodwa kancinci kancinci uyakufumana ukuxhoma kuyo. Ngaphezu koko, le mingeni inokukunceda ukuba uphume kwiimeko ezimbi, ezifana ubudlelwane obunetyhefu okanye umsebenzi apho uziva ungonwabanga.
Zifezekise iinjongo zakho kwaye ucinge ngokutsha ubomi bakho
Ngokuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yethu yokuthuthuzela, sifuna sisukele usukelo lwethu kwaye ngokufuthi ukukhula ngokobuqu nangokwemali. Ngale ndlela, sizama ukuphishekela usukelo lwethu, oluthi, ngamaxesha amaninzi, sibe nako ukulufikelela.
Xa ufezekisa injongo ebalulekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba uzivumele yibhiyozele Kwaye uyonwabele, kodwa ujonge nokuba loo nyani isahambelana na nale nto uyifunayo namhlanje. Kuqhelekile ukuba, emva kwethuba, into obuyilangazelela kakhulu ibe yindawo entsha yokuthuthuzela kwaye iqala ukuphulukana nentsingiselo yayo.
Kuloo meko, endaweni yokuzinza kubomi obungasakuvuyisiyo, kungcono ukuba uphinde ucinge ngekhondo lakho kwaye uzibekele usukelo olutsha. imingeni emitshaAyikokuphila ungonelisekanga ngonaphakade, kodwa malunga nokungabambeki kwiimpumelelo ezidlulileyo ezingasadibaniyo nobuwena bakho bangoku.
Ungasoloko uphuma kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela
Kulungile ukuba uphume ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela ngenxa yazo zonke iingenelo kunye neenzuzo ezichazwe, kodwa ingcamango ayiyikuhlala ngaphandle kwayo ngonaphakade; ayinakwenzeka loo nto kwaye ayinampilo. Ukuba uhlala usenza izinto ezahlukeneyo kunangaphambili, unako Thatha ikhefu kwaye ufumane amandla.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukubuyela kuloo ndawo, siphumle, okanye sonwabele impumelelo yethu, size sibuyele ngaphandle ukuze sijongane nehlabathi. Ukutshintshana phakathi kwamaxesha omngeni kunye namaxesha okuzola yinto evumela... ukukhula okulinganayo ngaphandle kokuwela kuxinzelelo olungapheliyo.
Ungazi njani ukuba ubambekile kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela
Ngaphambi kokuba wenze utshintsho, kubalulekile ukuchonga ukuba ngaba ubambeke ngokwenene kwindawo yakho yokuzola ngendlela ethintelayo. iimpawu rhoqo Zizo:
- Uyiyeke idlule amatsha mathuba ngenxa yokoyika ukuthatha ingozi.
- La ukuzinyameka Yinxalenye yobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla: uhlehlisa iiprojekthi kunye nezigqibo ezibalulekileyo ngokungenasiphelo.
- Uhlala kwimowudi I-autopilot kwaye ufumana ukungakhathali okunzulu.
- Unenkqubo efanayo ixesha elide kwaye uvaleleke ekuzameni izinto ezintsha.
- Awufane ube nento eyahlukileyo onokuyixelela abahlobo okanye usapho lwakho.
- Unamaphupha okanye iingcamango, kodwa Awuthabathi nyathelo ukusondela kubo.
- Ukholelwa ukuba akukho nto inokuphucula okanye "kusemva kwexesha" ukutshintsha.
- Awuboni mahluko phakathi komntu onguye namhlanje nomntu ozicingela ukuba unguye kwiminyaka embalwa.
- Ucinga ukuba awukwazi ukuphumeza izinto ezinkulu okanye ezibalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Ukuba uyaziqaphela kwiimeko ezininzi kwezi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uguqule indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela yaba luhlobo lwekheji. Inyathelo lokuqala yazi Inyathelo lokuqala kukwenza oku ngaphandle kokuzigweba, kwaye okwesibini kukuqalisa ukwazisa utshintsho oluthe chu.
Kutheni sisoyika ukushiya indawo yethu yokuthuthuzela?
Uloyiko lokushiya indawo yokuthuthuzela, eneneni, luphawu lomnye uloyiko olunzulu leyo iphelela ekusibopheleleni kwindawo esidanisayo kwaye inokusenzakalisa. Nangona isenokubonakala iphikisana, ngamanye amaxesha sikhetha ukuhlala kwinto esiyiqhelileyo, nokuba isenza singonwabi, kunokuba sijongane nokungaqiniseki.
Phakathi uloyiko oluqhelekileyo Izinto ezisibuyisela umva ziquka:
- Uloyiko lokuphulukana nolawuloIndawo yokuthuthuzela yindawo apho sikholelwa ukuba yonke into iphantsi kolawulo lwethu. Ukuyishiya kuyasinyanzela ukuba samkele ukuba asinakukwazi ukubona kwangaphambili yonke into okanye ukulawula yonke imiphumo.
- Uloyiko lokungaqinisekiOkungaziwayo kuphakamisa imibuzo engaphendulekiyo, kwaye oko kunokubangela unxunguphalo. Noko ke, ekuphela kwendlela yokutyebisa ubomi bakho kukufunda ukuphila ngomlinganiselo othile wokungaqiniseki.
- Uloyiko lokusilelaInyathelo ngalinye elingaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela lithatha ithuba lokwenza impazamo. Ukuba utolika iimpazamo njengezinganyamezelekiyo, uya kukhetha ukungazami kwaphela ukunqanda ukujongana naloo mvakalelo.
- Ukoyika ukwaliwaUkuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kunokuthetha ukwenza izigqibo ezahlukileyo kwezo zilindelwe ngabo bakungqongileyo. Ukoyika ukuphoxa abanye okanye ukugxekwa kunokukhokelela kwindlela engeyiyo eyakho ngokwenene.
- Ukoyika utshintsho lomntuMaxa wambi sibambelela ngokuqinileyo kumfanekiso wethu wobuqu kangangokuba sigatye nawaphi na amava anokucel’ umngeni. Noko ke, ukukhula kubandakanya ukutshintsha ubuntu bethu.
Ukuchonga ukuba loluphi olu loyiko lunzima kakhulu kuwe kuya kukuvumela ukuba uyile amaqhinga abambekayo Ukuyilawula: sebenza kwiingcamango zakho, funa inkxaso, fumana uqeqesho, cela uncedo lweengcali, njl.
Iingcebiso ezongezelelweyo zoqeqesho ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela
Ukongeza kwiingcebiso esele zikhankanyiwe, unokusebenzisa ezi izimvo ezisebenzisekayo ithathwe kwinto esebenzayo kwisayikholoji yenguqu kunye nophuhliso lomntu:
- Cela umngeni ngokwakho kwaye wenze ngokusemandleni akhoAkukho ngqiqweni ukucinga ukuba uya kufika apho ufuna khona ngokuhlala usenza ubuncinci obuncinci. Yamkela ukuba ixhala elincinci linokuba lihle kwaye lichaze kwakhona loo mvakalelo ngokuthi "uchulumanco" kunokuba "imithambo-luvo."
- Yenza izinto umva ngokwendlela yakho yesiqhelo.Ukuba unengqiqo kakhulu, zivumele ukuba wenze isigqibo ngokusekelwe kwi-intuition ngamanye amaxesha; ukuba uzibekele bucala kakhulu, zama ukuba nenxaxheba ngakumbi kwincoko; ukuba uhlala uthi "hayi" kuyo yonke into, yithi "ewe" kwinto enengqondo oyonqenayo ngayo.
- Zilinde kwangaphambili izizathu zakhoXa uzibekela umngeni, bhala phantsi zonke izizathu ozaziyo ukuba ingqondo yakho iza kuza nazo ukuze uphephe ukuyenza. Ngale ndlela, unokuzibona xa zivela kwaye ungazithathi njengenyaniso epheleleyo.
- Bandakanya okusingqongileyoUkuba abahlobo bakho okanye usapho lwakho luyazi ukuba ufuna ukuphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, banokukuxhasa, bakukhumbuze ngeenjongo zakho, kwaye babhiyozele nawe. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu omnye okukhuthazayo wenza umahluko omkhulu.
- Zama eyona "yeyona ndlela ilungileyo nembi kakhulu"Zibuze ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto imbi kakhulu enokuthi yenzeke xa uthatha inyathelo (kwaye unokuyiphatha njani) kwaye yintoni eyona nto ilungileyo enokwenzeka. Uya kubona ukuba, kwiimeko ezininzi, eyona nto imbi kakhulu iyalawuleka kwaye eyona nto ibhetele iyifanele.
Yonke le nkqubo ayikho malunga nokugqibelela okanye ukuphelisa uloyiko, kodwa imalunga nokufunda ukuqhubela phambili. ngaphandle kwabo nangesantya sakho.
Ukuvala olu hambo ngombono ocacileyo kunokukunceda: zonke ezo zinto uzifunayo kodwa ongekabinazo, zisoloko zikho, ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzelaUkudlala ngothando ngoloyiko, ukuthatha amanyathelo amancinci kodwa azinzileyo, kunye nokuzivumela ukuba ufunde endleleni yeyona ndlela ingqalileyo eya ekwakheni ubomi obuyinyani, obuvuselelayo obulungelelaniswe noko ukufuna ngokwenene.
