Kutheni uziva ulutshaba kwaye wenzeni ngayo

Ubundlobongela bunxulunyaniswa nomsindo, uburhalarhume, umsindo, okanye uxinzelelo. Xa le mvakalelo iviwa rhoqo, abantu banokuba semngciphekweni omkhulu wesifo sentliziyo kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi. Uxinzelelo luyaziwa ukuba lubangela iingxaki zomzimba kunye nezeemvakalelo ngokunjalo, kwaye ubutshaba yingxaki eyongeziweyo. Ukongeza, zikwanxulumene nengxaki zesisu.

Inqanaba eliphezulu lomsindo kunye nobutshaba ebomini sisilumkiso esomeleleyo sokugula kwanokufa. Abantu kufuneka bayiqonde ukuba yintoni kwaye ibachaphazela njani kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla kunye nakwimpilo yabo ukuze bakwazi ukuyilungisa ngokukhawuleza.

Ubutshaba nomsindo ebomini bakho

Umsindo kuninzi lwamatyala awufanelanga kwaye awunasiqhamo. Kuya kufuneka uzenzele ngokwakho ukuba umsindo wakho ugqithisile kwaye ukuba uyakuchaphazela kunye nobudlelwane bakho. Kuya kufuneka uthembeke kwisiqu sakho kuba wazi ngcono kunaye nabani na ukuba umsindo nobutshaba obava kwabanye… buyinyani.

Ukuba neemvakalelo njengezona zibalulekileyo kuneziphumo kubomi boluntu njengoko inokonakalisa kakhulu kwinqanaba lomlomo okanye kulwimi lomzimba. Intiyo egqithisileyo yomlomo okanye yomzimba yingxaki kwabaninzi.

Kutheni uziva ubutshaba nomsindo

Bahlala bezama ukulawula isenzo okanye indlela yokuziphatha kwabanye ukwanelisa iimfuno zakho okanye iimfuno zakho. Sisiphumo sonxunguphalo xa ungayifumani into oyifunayo okanye oyilindeleyo kwabanye. Umsindo ohamba nobutshaba uhlala ulicebo lokulawula.

Yintoni ebangela umsindo nobutshaba? Ndiyoyika. Olona loyiko luqhelekileyo kukuziva ungalawuleki kwabanye okanye usiya kwiimeko. Ezi mvakalelo zililinge lokulawula ilizwe lakho kunye nokuzama ukulawula izenzo zabanye. Ukunciphisa uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo oziva ngalo, kungcono ukuba uziphathe ngokuchanekileyo nabanye, ngaphandle komsindo kunye nembeko. Ngale ndlela uya kuziva ngathi uphantsi kolawulo, ukuba ulawula imeko ngcono kwaye ke, imeko yakho yeemvakalelo iya kuphucuka phantse ngokuzenzekelayo.

Xa ubundlobongela buva, ngokungangqalanga 'ukhutshelwa ngaphandle' ngokuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo '. Ngale ndlela yokuziphatha uzama ukohlwaya abanye ngezizathu ezihlala zingenantsingiselo. Emva koko umsindo uhlala uvela ngasemva, uyenziwa kuba ulawulo lulahlekile kwaye 'luqhushumbe' kumntu ohlasela ngomlomo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni.

Ukuba uziva ulutshaba, uyakuhlala uveza umsindo onokonakalisa impilo yakho kunye nolwalamano onalo nabanye. Amagama anomsindo kunye nezenzo azinakuze zifumaneke kubudlelwane nomnye umntu njengoko iziphumo zinokuhlala iminyaka.

Iimpawu zobutshaba

Ubutshaba yimeko eqhubekayo kunye nehlala ihleli kwimo yomntu onobutshaba. Kusetyenziswa ukugxeka, ukungabathembi abanye okanye ukujongela phantsi abanye. Uziva unenzondo kunye nobundlobongela kwiimeko ezithile, nangona ngamanye amaxesha iboniswa ngendlela ecekeceke ngokuziphatha okungalawulekiyo.

Xa uziva ubutshaba, uneenkolelo ezimbi kwabanye abantu ngendlela eyityhefu ebangela ingqumbo kunye neengcinga eziphazamisayo. Ukuququmbela, umntu oziva enobutshaba kukuba uneemvakalelo ezimbi kwabanye, kwaye xa enendlela yokuziphatha enoburharha uhlala enesimo sengqondo sokungenzi nto kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukungqubana.

Omele ukwenze kunye nendlela yokuphucula ubomi bakho

Ukuba uyazi ukuba uhlala nale mvakalelo ngaphakathi kwakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba awuhlali ngokonwaba. Sukuziva unomsindo ngokungeyomfuneko kwaye cinga ngako konke onokukuzuza ngokusebenza ngaphakathi kuwe. Ukufezekisa oku, landela la maqhosha.

Yamkela uloyiko oluqhuba ubutshaba bakho

Uloyiko yinjini ekuqhubela ekubeni ube nokuziphatha okubi kwaye uzive unentiyo. Kuya kufuneka uzibuze: 'Ngaba ndiyoyika ngoku? Ngaba ndinexhala kuba ndicinga ukuba andilawuleki?'

Yamkela isidingo sakho solawulo njengoko kunokuba yinto engeyonyani kwaye inokuba nemveliso kuwe. Ukuba unexhala kwimeko, kuya kufuneka uzame ngakumbi. Funda ukulawula uloyiko lwakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho zobutshaba ziya kuncipha.

Vumela ukuba woyike

Emva kokuba ufumene uloyiko emva kobutshaba bakho, kufuneka uvumele ukuba uzive. Ukwenza oku kuyakuvumela ukuba uqonde iimvakalelo kwaye uhambe kude nawe kancinci kancinci. Yeka ukuchitha amandla akho kwaye uwasebenzise ukonwabela ubomi. Xa uchonga uloyiko lwakho, unokunciphisa uxinzelelo.

Sebenza ngokuzithemba kwakho

Wonke umntu ufumana umsindo kunye nobutshaba ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ingxaki kuxa uziva ngale ndlela uninzi lwexesha. Ukuzithemba okuhle kunye nokusempilweni kubalulekile ekuchaseni ukusetyenziswa komsindo. Ukuzithemba kuyaphucuka xa ujonga okuhle okukuwe hayi okubi, enesiphene okanye engafanelekanga.

Yeka iimvakalelo ezikukhathazayo

Ukuyeka iimvakalelo ezikukhathazayo wakuba uzibonisile, ziya kukunceda uzikhulule kuloo msindo ugqithisileyo ungaphakathi kuwe. Ngokukhulula ", uzuza ulawulo kuwe! Xa uqaphela umsindo ogqithisileyo ngaphakathi kuwe, ungaqala ukuthetha wedwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

Lungela utshintsho

Ukuzilungiselela kuthetha ukucinga malunga nokuziphatha kunye neengcinga zakho. Bhala okanye wenze inowuthi yengqondo xa uziva unomsindo ogqithisileyo, ubutshaba okanye uwubonakalise ngaphandle kwabanye okanye ngaphakathi kuwe. Yazi iimeko ezibangela impendulo yakho kwaye uzilungiselele ngengqondo ukuze zenzeke kwixesha elizayo.

Ziqhelaniseni indlela eniza kuyiphendula xa sele iqala ukubonakala intiyo yenu. Ke xa imeko ivela, unokwenza utshintsho olululo kuwe. Ungangasoloko uphumelela, kodwa uya kuqhubela phambili, ngakumbi xa uphumelela kancinane.

Cinga ukuba umntu ngamnye wahlukile kwaye abanye akufuneki baziphathe ngendlela olindele ngayo ukuba ucinga ukuba ithathe ubomi bakho kwaye uziva ungalunganga kuyo yonke into nakubo bonke abantu, funa uncedo kwingcali ukuze ufumane imvelaphi ezi mvakalelo kwaye ufumane isisombululo sokulinganisa ubomi bakho kwakhona.