Kutheni le nto umntu echitha ixesha ekukhuleni kwakhe?
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyifumene yile ulwazi ukulawula obona butyebi bunqwenelekayo kwihlabathi obu: ingqondo kunye nentando. Ngokulawula iingqondo zethu sinokulawula intando yethu kwaye sikwazi ukwenza izinto ezingathethekiyo.
Xa uba ngumntu ochitha ixesha ekhula ngokobuqu, ufumana utshintsho: ujongene neengxaki ubuso ngobuso, ingqondo yakho iyakhula kwaye yandise umbono wayo wehlabathi. Uyakwazi ukubonelela ngezisombululo kwiingxaki kwaye ungazivumeli ukuba woyiswe zizo. Ude ufunde nokuba ungazifumana njani izinto ezilungileyo kulo mlo.
Lonke olo lwazi ulufumanayo rhoqo yenza inzuzo kwaye, ke, bayakuvumela ukuba unxibelelane ngokufanelekileyo ngakumbi nabanye kwaye uzityebise ngokwakho.
Kukho abathile abazinikeleyo ukukhula komntu njengomsebenzi wokuzonwabisa (njengoko kunjalo kwimeko yam) kwaye abanye babandakanyeke ngakumbi kubuchwephesha, kodwa ekupheleni kosuku, nayiphi na ingcali okanye nabani na kufuneka afunde, azi ukuba angenza njani, ngawaphi amanyathelo anokuwathatha.
Oku kufana nawo nawuphi na omnye umsebenzi, imalunga nokwakha kwakho ingqondo eyomeleleyo oko kunokuvelisa okungcono kuwe kwaye kukuvumele ukuba ufezekise yonke into obeka kuyo ingqondo yakho.
Iya kukuvumela ukuba uvuke rhoqo kusasa nge Isimo sengqondo esahlukileyo, Unomonde ngakumbi kwiimeko zemihla ngemihla kwaye, ekugqibeleni, wenze iintsuku zakho zibe ngcono.
Kule nkalo yokukhula komntu ndiyahlula Izigaba ezi-2:
1) Okokuqala kufuneka ujongane neengxaki ezikhoyo ezinokumenza umntu angakwazi ukusebenza. Isayikholojisti okanye oogqirha bengqondo bayakukukhathalela oku, kuxhomekeke kwimeko nganye.
2) Emva kwexesha xa ingqondo ingasenalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okanye olulawulwayo, ungaya phambili.
Ndiqale kweli hlabathi ngenxa yeengxaki ezivele ebomini bam. Bendifuna izisombululo, ukuze ndomelele. Ngoku ndinayo izixhobo eziyimfuneko ukuze bakwazi ukujongana nayo nayiphi na imekoOko kungatsho ukuba kulula kum.
Kutheni unomdla kuphuhliso lomntu?
Baninzi abantu abathi ihlazisa ezi ntlobo zezihloko. Ndicinga ukuba banethamsanqa kwaye khange bafumane ukubandezeleka kwengqondo okubakhokelele ekuthatheni le micimbi ngokungathandabuzekiyo okanye bonwabele nje umlinganiswa owahlukileyo owenza ukuba bangacingi.
Nangona kunjalo, unomdla. Ndingakukhuthaza ukuba ucinge malunga nokuba kutheni ufuna ukungena kweli lizwe lokukhula komntu, kutheni ufuna ukukhulisa ingqondo yakho okanye yomeleza intando yakho.
Uqeqesho olusebenzayo ekukhuleni komntu
1) Ingqondo yokusebenza kwengqondo: Elinye lamasebe, ngokoluvo lwam, elinamathuba amaninzi okwenza utshintsho ebantwini.
Inkqubo ye-Neurolinguistic: uqeqesho olufumene amandla amaninzi kwaye lwenziwa zizigidi zabantu kunye neengcali. Ngokwam ndiyakholelwa kubukho bayo, nangona ndingazazi izinto ezininzi kunye nabanye endingabelaniyo ngazo kwaphela.
3) Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo: uqeqesho olubalulekileyo. Lawula yethu iimvakalelo ngoyena ndoqo xa kuziwa ekuhlaleni kakuhle ebomini.
4) Psychology efanelekileyo: Kufuneka kwakhona kunye nokufumana okukhulu. Iingcali zengqondo akufuneki zikhathazeke ngabantu kuphela xa begula. Kuya kufuneka uthintele ezi zifo kwaye uphucule izinto ezintle zomntu ngamnye.
5) Ukucamngca: ngumqolo wezinye iindlela ezine ezidlulileyo. Ukucamngca kuya kukunika ukuzola kwengqondo ongazange wakubona ngaphambili. Ngokucamngca uya kuba nakho ukufaka ngaphakathi ulwazi olufumanayo nolunye uqeqesho lwe-4.
Iingcebiso malunga nokukhula kwakho
1) Funda iincwadi ezilungileyo. Kuya kuba kuhle ukuba nencwadi ethe kratya kwezobuchwephesha nakwezobuchwephesha kuqeqesho ngalunye endikhe ndalukhankanya ngaphambili.
2) Sukubaleka: Thatha ixesha lakho. Ukukhula kwengqondo komntu kuhlala ixesha lokuphila. Yiba nomonde kutshintsho, amahla ndinyuka kwaye ungonwabi kakhulu malunga neziphumo ozifumanayo. Kancinci kancinci uya kwakha ingqondo eyomeleleyo.
3) Dibana negurus: Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba intengiso yabantu abaziinkokeli ekukhuleni komntu iqhuba njani.
4) Chitha ixesha yonke imihla kulo msebenzi: Okukhona uhlala uhleli, iziphumo ziya kuba ngcono.
5) Musa ukulindela imimangaliso: Eli phulo lihambelana no # 2. Utshintsho kubuntu lubonakaliswa kancinci kancinci. Ukuba zenzeka kakuhle kodwa iziphumo zihlala zivela kwixesha elide.
6) Ichaphazela ulawulo lweemvakalelo (ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo).
7) yenza ubuchule Kwaye ungalahli umbono wakho: uya kuva iingcebiso ezininzi kodwa nguwe oya kuthi, ngokucamngca, ufumanise ukuba unjani kanye kanye kwaye yintoni eza kukunceda okanye ikwenzakalise.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ndikuncedile kwaye ezi ngcebiso zikusebenzela kwikamva elingcono. Enkosi ngexesha lakho kwaye Ndikunqwenelela impumelelo.