Izikhokelo ezilula ezi-9 zokuzoyisa kwaye zoyise iintloni

Iintloni Ngumgangatho ovusa ukuqonda kodwa ukuziqinisekisa kwakhona akuncedi.

Sonke sinentloni ngandlela thile Kodwa xa olu tyekelo lusanda, ukuba neentloni kunokuba yingxaki. Umntu oneentloni akazithembanga kwaye uyathandabuza, engazi ukuba enze njani kwintlanganiso yomsebenzi okanye itheko nabahlobo.

Aba bantu bahlala beziva bahlukile kwabanye., bebodwa kwaye bengathathi nxaxheba kakhulu, kwaye nangona besilwa ngawo onke amandla abo ukuba babe ngabahlobo kwaye banxibelelane, bahlala bejonge phambili esiphelweni sokuhlangana ngenxa yokuba beziva bengakhululekanga, boyika ukungalunganga kwaye ihlazo eliqobayo liyabahlasela.

Indoda eneentloni izama ukungabonakali, kodwa ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye, kwaye ngenxa yesi sizathu, wonke umntu uphela emqaphela, kuba xa ezama ukuziphatha ngendlela efanelekileyo, njengoko ecinga ukuba abanye balindele ukuba enze njalo, ulahlekelwa yindalo kwaye asebenze ngokunyanzelwa.

Kukwenzeka rhoqo ukuba abo baziva beneentloni njengobunzima bathambekele kubo ukuzigxeka okugqithisileyo kunye nokujongela phantsi izakhono zabo; eneneni, abanentloni ngokwabo ngabona bagxeki babo kwaye bachitha ubomi babo befuna okungaphezulu kokuyimfuneko ukuzama ukoyisa oko bakubona njengesiphene, ngakumbi kule ndawo inzima nenokhuphiswano.

Yintoni unobangela?

Iintloni zenziwa ebuntwaneni. Nangona kukho abantwana abaneentloni kakhulu, kuxa ufikisa xa kusenzeka umzuzu obalulekileyo onokuthi ugqibezele olo phawu.
Akukho nanye into emisela ukwenziwa kweentloni kodwa zikhona Izikhokelo zemfundo kunye neemodeli zobudlelwane nabazali abanokukhulisa Bavelele phakathi kwabo:

1) Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo:

Abantu abanabazali abakhuselayo, abangabavumelanga ukuba babalise ngokukhululeka okanye bajongane neengxaki, banobunzima ekuthatheni uxanduva ngokuziphatha kwabo nokuzenzela izinto, ukuze kwiimeko ezintsha okanye ezisesichengeni abanazo izixhobo zokujongana nazo. kwaye uzijongele phantsi.

2) Ukugqithisa okukhulu:

Xa abazali befuna okuninzi kakhulu kubantwana babo, behlala behleli phezu kwabo ukuba benze izinto ngenqanaba eliphezulu lokugqibelela okanye ngendlela abayibona ifanelekile, abantwana baphela bekhulisa ukuziva bengento kwaye benetyala, bahlala beziva bengazithembanga, yenze. Oko kukhokelela ekubeni barhoxe ekuziphatheni kwabo ngenxa yokoyika ukwenza izinto ezingalunganga okanye ukungazalisekisi oko kulindeleke kubo.

3) Iintloni zabazali:

Iintloni azifunyanwa njengelifa kodwa ukuba unabazali abanengxaki zonxibelelwano kunye nokuthetha, unabahlobo abambalwa kunye nabantu onxibelelana nabo, abantwana banokulandela umzekelo wabo kwaye bangathathi nxaxheba.

4) Amava amabi:

Ukuba namava eemeko ezithile, njengokugxekwa okanye ukugculelwa ngabo ufunda nabo, ukungamkelwa kakuhle kwindawo yokusebenzela okanye ukungaphumeleli kothando kunokumenza umntu azikhuphe, abe neentloni okanye azibambe.

5) Izakhiwo:

Abantu abavakalelwa kukuzithemba malunga nokusikelwa umda ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasemphefumlweni (ukuziva utyebe kakhulu okanye ubhityile, umde okanye umfutshane, uhlobo oluthile lwempumlo ...) bahlala begqiba ukuphucula iimpawu zentloni.

Iingcebiso ezili-9 zokoyisa iintloni ekuhlaleni.

1) Qala encinci.

Ukuba neentloni akunakoyiswa ngokukhawuleza. Kulungile ukuthatha amanyathelo amancinci, uzibekele iinjongo ezincinci kunye. Ngaphezu kwako konke, zingisa. Ziveze kwiintlanganiso ezincinci okanye ekuhlaleni ngendlela ethe chu.

2) Musa ukwahlukana.

Ngamanye amaxesha kukho ukugxeka okusonzakalisayo kodwa ayisiyonto kutheni kufuneka uphule. Kuyimfuneko ukoyisa loo mizuzu ukuze uqhubele phambili.

3) Zinike uxolo.

Musa ukuzigxeka kakhulu. Khululeka kwaye ube bhetyebhetye ngakumbi nesiqu sakho.

5) Sukuzivalela.

Xa uziva ngathi uyawa kulapho kuya kufuneka ulwe kakhulu ukuze uye phambili kwaye uvulele abanye abantu.

6) Awuthathi izinto ngokwakho.

Xa sinxibelelana nabantu, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba kubekho ukungangqinelani, ukungavisisani okanye izimvo ezahlukileyo kwezakho. Ayibhekisi kuwe, akukho mntu ukuhlaselayo. Babona kuphela inyani ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunawe.

7) Ukuphumla yinto ephambili.

Awunakuba noxinezeleko kangako phambi kwendibano. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuphumla ngala maxesha: unokubona into engqondweni yakho ekuyekisayo okanye ujolise ingqalelo yakho kwinto ekunika uxolo.

Ukuthetha komzimba kufanele kube kokwendalo, kunganyanzelwa. Hlaziya imilenze yakho, iingalo zakho kwaye ugweme ukuqina.

8) Yiba yendalo.

Oku kuguqulela ekubeni nguwe. Ungazami ukuba ngumntu ongekho. Fumana indawo yakho kwaye uhlale kuyo. Musa ukuba nomsindo.

Iincwadi ezinomdla

1) "Ukhuseleko lweemvakalelo" nguGael Lindenfield (Ed. Kairós).

2) "Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo" nguLair Ribeiro (uEd. Urano).

3) "Ngokuqinisekileyo kuwe" Ngu-Beatrice Poschenrieder (Umhleli weRobin Book).

NguLourdes Mantilla (ugqirha wengqondo) kwi Umzimba nengqondo.

Ndikushiya ne Ividiyo kwezinye iingcebiso zabantu abaneentloni ezivela kwingcali kunxibelelwano lomlomo: