Enye yezona ntetho zikhuthazayo zivela kwisazi sezengqondo uShawn Achor, owathi, kwintetho yakhe enempembelelo “.Imfihlo eyonwabileyo yoMsebenzi oNgcono«, iphakamisa indlela yenguqu yokuqonda ubudlelwane phakathi lonwabo kunye mpu melelo. U-Achor umisela ukuba siye sabhidanisa ifomula yempumelelo ixesha elide: sityekele ekukholelweni ukuba ukusebenza nzima kuphela kwendlela eya empumelelweni, xa enyanisweni, imfihlelo yokwenene ilele ekubekeni phambili ulonwabo lwethu ukuze impumelelo iza njengesiphumo sendalo.
Ifomula yemveli kunye nembono entsha
Kangangeminyaka, siye sabethelelwa ngombono wokuba impumelelo yandulela ulonwabo, kodwa uShawn Achor ucela umngeni kuthi ukuba siphinde sicinge ngale fomula. Ngokutsho kwengcamango yakhe, ingxaki yokuphishekela impumelelo ukuba ujabule kukuba ibha yempumelelo ivame ukuhamba rhoqo: xa sifezekisa into ethile, sibeka ngokukhawuleza enye, injongo enzima ngakumbi. Oku kusigwebela kumjikelo ongapheliyo wokunganeliseki, ongafane usivumele ukuba sonwabele ixesha langoku.
Kunoko, u-Achor uthi ukuba silawula ukonwaba kuqala, ingqondo yethu ikwimeko engcono yokufezekisa impumelelo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. Izifundo ze-Neuroscientific zibonisa ukuba ingqondo ephilileyo isebenza ngcono kakhulu kunomntu ophantsi koxinzelelo okanye ongalunganga. Oku kuguqulela ekubeni mkhulu mveliso, ubuchule kunye nokomelela xa ujongene nemingeni.
Luyintoni ngokwenene ulonwabo?
Ulonwabo alupheleli nje ekuhlekeni rhoqo okanye ukuphepha iingxaki. Ngokutsho kweengcali ezahlukeneyo, kuquka neengcali zengqondo ezifana noSonja Lyubomirsky noJulia K. Boehm, Ulonwabo yimeko yangaphakathi enokuhlakulelwa ngemikhwa eyakhayo. ULyubomirsky, umbhali we "Indlela Yolonwabo«, ichaza ukuba ulonwabo luxhomekeke kwi-50% kwi-genetics, i-10% kwiimeko zangaphandle kunye ne-40% kwimisebenzi yethu enenjongo.
Oku kuthetha ukuba sinethuba elininzi lokuphembelela impilo-ntle yethu yeemvakalelo, nokuba iimeko zethu azifanelekanga. Izinto ezicetyiswayo zokwandisa ulonwabo lwethu ziquka ukubulela, ukwenza izenzo zobubele, ukuziqhelanisa nokucamngca, nokuzibekela usukelo olunentsingiselo.
Ikhonkco phakathi kolonwabo nempumelelo
USonja Lyubomirsky noJulia K. Boehm benze uphando olubonisa indlela abantu abonwabileyo abanokuthi baphumelele ngayo. Ingqondo ephilileyo ayinyusi nje ukusebenza komsebenzi, kodwa iphucula ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye nempilo yomzimba.
Ukongeza, impumelelo ayisoloko ilinganiswa ngeenjongo eziphakamileyo njengokunyuselwa umsebenzi okanye ibhaso elikhulu. Impumelelo encinci yemihla ngemihla, njengokusombulula ingxaki, ukufaka isandla kwintlalontle yeqela, okanye ukuseka imikhwa enempilo, kufuneka iqatshelwe. kwaye babhiyoza. Olu tshintsho kwimbono luvumela ulonwabo lwethu ukuba lungaxhomekeki kuphela kwiziganeko ezinkulu.
Umzekelo, i-Achor igxininisa ukubaluleka kokuchaza kwakhona impumelelo ukuze ihambelane nexabiso lomntu endaweni yokuyikhuphela ngaphandle. Injongo enentsingiselo, idityaniswe nokugxininisa ngoku, inokuvelisa kokubili ukwaneliseka kwangoku kunye nokukhula kwexesha elide.
Amacebo asebenzayo okuhlakulela ulonwabo
Kukho amaqhinga amaninzi onokuwabandakanya kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla ukubeka phambili ulonwabo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, uququzelele impumelelo:
- Ukucamngca: Ukuchitha nje imizuzu embalwa ngosuku ukucamngca kunokwenza ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuphucula amanqanaba ngqalelo. Oku kulungiselela ingqondo yakho ukuba ijamelane nemingeni ngokucace ngakumbi.
- Umbulelo: Ukugcina ijenali yokubulela, ukubhala phantsi ubuncinci izinto ezintathu ezilungileyo imihla ngemihla, kunceda ukubuyisela ingqondo yakho ukugxila kwizinto ezilungileyo zobomi.
- UQhagamshelwano Loluntu: Ulwalamano lwabantu lwenza ubomi bethu bube mnandi. Tyala ixesha ekuphuhliseni nasekomelezeni uqhagamshelwano olunentsingiselo.
- Ukuzivocavoca umzimba: Nangona inqanaba leembaleki lingafunwa, imisebenzi elula efana nokuhamba ngaphandle ikhuthaza ukukhululwa kwee-endorphins, iihomoni zolonwabo.
Ukubaluleka kokuchaza iinjongo ezinokufikelelwa
UShawn Achor kunye nezinye iingcali zengqondo zigxininisa ukuba iinjongo esikuchazayo kufuneka kube yinyani, ngokuthe ngqo kwaye ihambelane neyethu xabiso. Le ndlela, eyaziwa ngokuba yindlela ye-SMART, iqinisekisa ukuba yethu iinjongo yiba:
- Ngqo ngqo: Cacisa ngokucacileyo yakho iinjongo.
- Ukulinganisa: Ukumisela izalathi zokulinganisa inkqubela phambili.
- Ukuzuzwa: Qiniseka ukuba bangaphakathi kwamandla akho.
- Ifanelekileyo: Zinxulumanise neenkalo ezibalulekileyo zobomi bakho.
- Okwexeshana: Misela ixesha lokuziphumeza.
Ngokuphumeza le ndlela, awugcini nje ukudala isicwangciso esicacileyo nesisebenzayo, kodwa nawe unjalo unciphisa uxinzelelo olunokuthi lubekho ngenxa yokujongana neenjongo ezingaqondakaliyo okanye ezingenakwenzeka. Oku kucaca kukuvumela ukuba ufumane ukwaneliseka okuqhubekayo, ukuqinisa ukukhuthaza kwakho kunye nokuzithemba kwinkqubo.
Ukubeka phambili ulonwabo akuthethi ukungazihoyi iingxaki okanye imingeni. Ngokuchasene noko, kukulungiselela ukuba ujongane nazo ngengqondo eyomelela ngakumbi kunye nokuyila. Ngokwenza njalo, awuvuleli kuphela iingcango zempumelelo, kodwa nobomi obugcweleyo, obunenjongo novuyo.