Umzekeliso ophambili
Ngamanye amaxesha kukho izifundo ezingaqondwa ngokuthe ngqo kwaye kufuneka sizenze izafobe ezinamandla ukuwafanisa. Enye yezona ziyaziwa kakhulu kwaye kuyakhuthaza Eli libali lemithi emibini oya kuyifunda ngezantsi. Ubulula bayo sintshayelelo kuphela kwisiphelo esikumemelayo cingisisa ngezigqibo zakho, ukukhula kwakho noko unqwenela ukukuzuza.
Sicebisa ukuba uyifunde ngokuzolileyo kwaye ume apho umyalezo ongundoqo Iyadlulisela. Inokuba yikhampasi kukhetho lwakho, ngakumbi xa ucinga ukuba uqhubeke ngendlela ekhuselekileyo okanye wamkele imiceli mngeni ekwandisayo. Ithwele ingcamango ebalulekileyo: uku phila ngokupheleleyo Kufuneka uzakhele awakho amaphupha hayi nje ukuxhasa awabanye abantu.
Imithi emibini
Ngenye imini, inkwenkwana eneminyaka esibhozo ubudala, ekrelekrele ngokweminyaka yayo, yatyelela utatomkhulu wayo njengoko yayidla ngokwenza iimpelaveki zonke. Ngeli xesha wayenombono oqinileyo: wayefuna ukuphumelela ebomini kwaye wayezimisele ukwenza nantoni na ukuze aphumelele.
UTatomkhulu wayengumntu ophumeleleyo, ngoko wambuza: Xa ndikhulile, ndiza kuphumelela kakhulu. Tamkhulu ndicela undiphe ibhunga ngendlela yokufikelela kuyo?
Wanqwala intloko engathethi. Wambamba ngesandla umfana baya e nursery apho wayedla ngokuthenga izityalo. Wamcela ukuba akhethe imithi emibini.
Ukubuyela ekhaya, bawatyala kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo: enye egadini y enye embizeni ngaphakathi.
Emva koko utamkhulu Ndiyabuza: Yiyiphi kwezi zibini ocinga ukuba iya kuphumelela ngakumbi?
Umntwana wayebathanda izikhweleEmva kokucinga imizuzu embalwa waphendula wathi: Lo usembizeni. Ikhuselwe kwaye ikhuselekile; lowo ungaphandle uya kujamelana nomoya, imvula, nelanga, yaye oko kunokuthintela ukukhula kwawo.
Utat'omkhulu ushwabene wanyusa amagxa wathi: Siza kubona.
Lahamba ixesha Kwaye utatomkhulu wayezikhathalele izityalo zombini ngokulinganayo. Kwiminyaka kamva, le nkwenkwana, ngoku ekwishumi elivisayo, yaphinda yamtyelela.
Eneneni zange uphendule kumbuzo wam - wathi-. Ndingaphumelela njani xa ndimdala?
Indoda endala yayithatha ukubona imithi emibini kwaye wabuza: Yeyiphi enkulu?
Akanangqondo —waphendula emangalisiwe. Le ingaphandle inkulu...kodwa le ingaphakathi ineemeko ezilula.
Ewe — utatomkhulu wancuma—, kodwa isibindi sokujongana imiceli mngeni Itshintsha yonke into. Ukuba uhlala ukhetha ukhetho olukhuselekileyoAwukhuli. Endaweni yoko, imingcipheko ethatyathwe kakuhle ikutyhalela ukuba wandise kude kube kukuphela komda wakho ubonakala ngathi sisibhakabhaka.
Ukuba unesibindi soku thatha umngcipheko ngento okholelwa kuyo, uya kuvusa amandla akho okwenene kwaye ube mpu melelo kuyo nantoni na ozimisele kuyo. Le ntsomi ibonisa ukuba ukhuseleko olusisigxina luqinisekisa kuphila, kodwa phantse ubomi obuninzi; imingeni, kwelinye icala, yenza njengomoya owomeleza iingcambu.
Iimeko ezintlanu ezibalulekileyo ekukhuleni nasekuphileni ngokupheleleyo
Iinkcukacha zomfuziselo
Isikweko sale mithi mibini sisikhumbuza ukuba nangona maxa wambi sinqwenela ukuphila ubomi obungenamvisiswano, kanye kanye ubunzima eyenza kusebenze izixhobo zangaphakathi kwaye ikhawulezise uphuhliso lwethu lwengqondo. Kweli bali, iindlela ezintlanu eziphambili ziyavela, ezingabandakanyi ukutsibela kwisithuba esingenanto ngaphandle kweparashute, kodwa kunokuba sicinge. iingozi ezilinganisiweyo ukukhula ngentsingiselo:
- Injongo phezulu: nabani na ogqithisa imida uyazivumela phupha kakhulu kwaye ubuze ulandelelwano olumiselweyo. Ngaphandle kolwalathiso, akukho moya ulungileyo.
- Shiya indawo yo thuzelo: ukhuseleko oluhlala luhleli luhamba. Phonononga imimandla emitsha, yamkela ukungaqiniseki kwaye ithatha imingcipheko elinganisiweyo ukufezekisa iziphumo ezahlukeneyo.
- Ukuguqula imiqobo ibe yimingeni: Ubunzima bunokuba bubunzima obufileyo okanye amandla, ngokwesimo sakho sengqondo. Khetha ukufunda, ukulungisa, kwaye uqhubeke ukukhanya.
- ukubamba amathuba: ayilothamsanqa; yiyo ukuqondaQeqesha ukujonga kwakho ukubona izinto ezinokwenzeka kwaye uzijonge ngaphaya kweemeko zangoko.
- Thembela ngamandla akho: i ukuzithemba Ikugcina ukhuthazekile ngamaxesha anzima. Ngaphandle kwayo, kulula ukutyibilika kwisiphelo esifileyo.
Ukujolisa phezulu kukwabandakanya ukwenza isigqibo sokuba ngawaphi amaphupha awakho: ukuba awuwakhi, uya kugqiba ukwakha ezabanye abantuKwaye xa ujongene nobunzima, khumbula umfanekiso we amatye endleleniUnokuzithwala ude udinwe okanye uzibeke ecaleni ukuze zihlale zilula; ukhetho sisimo sakho sengqondo.
Isikweko segadi kunye nokusetyenziswa kwayo kwengqondo (ACT)
Omnye umfanekiso ohambelanayo ngu isikweko segadi, isetyenziswe kwi-Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wegadi eneentyantyambo nokhula. Ukuba ugxininisa onke amandla akho krazula into engafunwayo, ukhula luvela kwakhona kwaye ulibale khathalela oko kuxabisekileyoUMTHETHO uphakamisa ukwamkela ukuba ukungonwabi kukho kwaye uzibophelele kuko. Iimpawu zobuqu, ukuhlakulela okubalulekileyo ngaphandle kokuvumela umzabalazo ochasene nokungonwabi uhlasele ubomi bakho bonke. Lo mbono awuphiki intlungu: uyayidibanisa ukuze kungabikho misela izenzo zakho.
Ukutolika okusebenzayo: iintyatyambo zimela imisebenzi kunye nobudlelwane; ukhula, iingxaki ngokungenakuthintelwa. Ngamanye amaxesha bayawafihla amathuba, njengokuphucula unxibelelwano emva kwengxabano. Undoqo kukuba musa ukuvumela ingxaki ibe liziko, kodwa ukunkcenkceshela into ebalulekileyo kuwe kwaye uthathe amanyathelo ahambelana nemilinganiselo yakho. Xa ukhetha ukwenza ukusuka kumaxabiso, ugxininiso luyatshintsha ukusuka ekupheliseni ukungakhululeki ukuya ukwakha ubomi.
Umthambo osebenzayo: umthi wokuzixabisa
Ukumisela ezi ngcamango, zoba eyakho umthi wokuzithemba kwaye uyigcwalise ngolwazi lomntu. Lo msebenzi ukhuthaza ukucaca, ukugxila, kunye nokuzixabisa.
- Iingcambu (iimpawu): Bhala phantsi iimpawu, imikhwa kunye namandla akuxhasayo. Basisiseko sakho.
- Iziqhamo (impumelelo): Rekhoda impumelelo onebhongo ngayo; babonisa oko iingcambu zakho sele zinikwe amandla.
- Isiqu sasekhohlo (iithagethi): Chaza iinjongo ezintathu zexesha elifutshane, eliphakathi kunye nexesha elide ukukhokela isenzo sakho.
- Isiqu sasekunene (amaxabiso): ichonga isithathu amaxabiso akhokelayo oko kuya kukhokela indlela yokuqhubela phambili, nokuba kuvela imiqobo.
Ukuwuqinisa, hlola umzobo wakho ngamaxesha athile kwaye uzilolonge kube kanye. microaction yonke imihla ihambelana nemilinganiselo yakho: umyalezo wokubulela, imizuzu ye-15 yokufunda, okanye ukuhambahamba. Okukhona ukhathalela iingcambu zakho, ngakumbi ukomelela Umthi wakho uya komelela xa ujongene nembalela kwaye uya kuthwala isiqhamo esingaguqukiyo.
Ukuba unesibindi soku thatha umngcipheko kwaye ubheje kwinto okholelwa kuyo ngokwenene, unokuqiniseka ukuba uya kuvula amandla akho yaye uya kuphumelela kuko konke ozimisele ukukwenza. Isafobe sika ukukhula komntu Ngemithi emibini, idibanisa umnqweno wokujolisa phezulu, isigqibo sokushiya indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, ukukwazi ukufunda amathuba, kunye nokuzola ukwamkela into engenakuphepheka ngelixa uhlakula okubalulekileyo. Zeziphi izifundo ozithathayo namhlanje ukuze uthathe inyathelo lakho elilandelayo? inyathelo elinesibindi?
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