Inkcazo: imbeko efihliweyo

Siphila kuluntu apho inkcazo ihlala ibonakala ngokungabikho kwayo. Intlonipho yomnye umntu ibonakala iyinto entle ethi abantu balibale ngokulula. Intsingiselo inokubonakaliswa kubomi babucala, kubomi bobuchwephesha… kuye nakubani na nakuwe.

Usenokungazi ukuba lithetha ntoni eli gama okanye awukhe ulive. Ukuqala namhlanje, uyakuqonda ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ube nembeko ebomini bakho kwaye uzibonakalise kwabanye. Nangona ukuphucula ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu uya kufuna ezinye izinto ngaphandle kokuchasana.

Yintoni

Xa sibhekisa kwisalathiso sithetha ngentlonipho yomnye umntu. Kuxa umntu othile ebonisa isimilo sentlonipho nembeko komnye umntu ngenxa yokumhlonipha okanye ngenxa yokumodareyitha okugqithileyo. Oku kumodareyitha kunokwenziwa ukugcina ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abasempilweni kwaye omnye umntu angacaphuki.

Ke ngoko, inkcazo inokuqondwa njengohlobo lonyango olukhethekileyo kwelinye. Inokuqondwa nezinye izithethantonye ezinje nge: imbeko, ukuqaphela, ukucinga okanye ukungakhathali.

Ke ngoko, umntu owenza into enembeko, uya kuzama ukubonisa ububele okanye imbeko emntwini ngenxa yesizathu esithile. Kuqwalaselwa ngokukodwa okanye kuthathelwa ingqalelo ngenxa yobudala, ngomsebenzi okanye nayiphi na into echaphazela umntu owenza ngale ndlela.

Yintlonipho eyongezelelekileyo emntwini ezibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ezinje ngokungaphikisani nezimvo zakhe nokuba abavumi, ukunika isihlalo umntu nokuba ukhetha ukuhlala, njl. Nokuba ku Abantu abaninzi bayayiphutha ngenxa yokuziphatha, Inkcazo isondele kwinto eyaziwa ngokuba kukuzithoba.

Intlonipho eluntwini

Intlonipho yokwenene ibaluleke ngaphezu kokuchasana, kuba intsingiselo ngandlela ithile inexesha elikhethekileyo lomnye umntu ngenxa yento ayiyo, yenziwa ngendlela engathobekanga okanye engeyiyo, kuba kumaxesha amaninzi inkcaso okanye imbeko omnye umntu wenziwa ngeengcinga ezifihlakeleyo.

Kunoko, Xa imbeko yokwenyani iboniswa kwabanye, ubudlelwane bobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu bayathandwa kwaye kuyanelisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Ukuba ubonisa imbeko, uya kuba nembeko. Kodwa ukuba ubonakalisa ukungangqinelani, unokufumana ukuqondwa, nangona kungenjalo, kuba uzakube ubonakalisa isimo sengqondo "sokungabalulekanga" kwabanye.

Intlonipho phakathi kwabantu iyanceda ukuhlala ngaphandle kwengxabano, ukwamkela umahluko okhoyo phakathi kwabo. Abantu abahloniphayo bafunda ukubeka umgama phakathi komnye nomnye, umgama weemvakalelo ekuvumela ukuba ungagwebi abanye. Omnye umntu uthathelwa ingqalelo ngokungafani kwabo, nokuba bayintoni na, nokuba ungubani na omnye umntu. Omnye umntu ayenzelwanga ukuba atshintshe nangayiphi na indlela okanye abe ngumntu owahlukileyo kunangoku.

Kukwanjalo nokuzihlonipha. Ukuba uyazihlonipha, uya kwamkela amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka, ukuphucula iindawo ezintle zobomi bakho kunye nokufunda kwezona ndawo zingalunganga. Xa uhlonipha umntu wakho, uya kwenza kuwe nakwabanye ngendlela yokwenyani, ngaphandle kokuziphatha ngokuthoba isidima, ngaphandle kokuzikholelwa ukuba ungcono kunaye nabani na okanye mbi, kwaye awuyi kwenza ngeendlela ezingezizo ezakho. Umzekelo, awuyi kwenza ngokungathandabuzekiyo emntwini ukuba ucinga ngokwahlukileyo kwaye ukholelwa ukuba uluvo lwakho kufuneka luviwe. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ujongene nomphathi ozama ukukuphikisa kodwa ucinga ukuba kufuneka ubonise uluvo lwakho, ngokuzithemba kwaye ngemfundo eninzi uya kumazisa uluvo lwakho, ngentlonipho kodwa ngaphandle kokuhlonela, ngentlonelo kodwa ngaphandle kokuzithoba.

Ukuhlonipha abanye

Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuhlonipha abanye kunye nesiqu sakho. Ukuhlonipha kukwamkela abanye, uqonde ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokukhetha ukuba ngubani kanye kanye kwindlela yakhe yokucinga, kunye nakwimbono yakhe, imvakalelo, ukwenza kunye nangaso nasiphi na esinye isizathu. Ukuba ugweba abanye, ukuba ubathobe isidima, uyayilahla indlela yabo yokwenza okanye yokucinga ... uya kuba uwela umgca wentlonipho.

Wonke umntu unelungelo lokuba yile nto ayiyo, ngaphandle kokuba abe ngcono okanye abe mbi kunabanye. Kodwa kuya kufuneka nibe ngabantu abafundileyo ... kodwa imfundo yokwenyani. Oku kuthetha ukuba ungathetha lento uyicingayo nokuba unamntu mdala okanye "uphezulu" kunaye, ukuba nje uyenza ngentlonipho nokuzithemba. Ukuba ufuna ukunika isihlalo umntu omdala okanye osidinga ngaphezulu kunawe, yenze ngokusuka entliziyweni kodwa sukuvuka ngenxa yenceba xa ungaziva unjalo entliziyweni yakho, kuba emva koko awungomntu wenene.

Abantu banokwahluka kodwa kuyafuneka ukuba senze eyethu indima ukuze sikwazi ukuhlala ngentlonipho kunye nokuvisisana phakathi komehluko. Ke ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu buhamba ngokuchanekileyo. Ukwenza ngathi abanye bacinga njengathi okanye ukuba benza into efanayo nakuthi kuba siyenzile ngaphambili kwaye sifuna ukubuyekeza oko, ayonyani. Xa usenzela abanye into, yenze ngokusuka entliziyweni kwaye hayi kuba ucinga ukuba yeyona nto ingcono onokuyenza.

Ukuhlonipha omnye umntu ngokwenyani akuyikumgweba ngezigqibo zakhe okanye indlela aziphethe ngayo. Ukungangcikivi okanye ukubabek 'esweni abanye ... kukwamkela omnye umntu ngokwenyani, ngokusuka entliziyweni kwaye ungabonisi nje imbeko ethile yenhlonipho nokuba sicinga okanye sivakalelwa yenye into. Ukusebenza ngokuchaseneyo kukubonisa imbeko efihliweyo ngesigqubuthelo sobuxoki kuba mhlawumbi kwezinye iimeko ubungayi kuyibonisa imbeko kumntu ophambi kwakho. Ngale ndlela, kubalulekile ukwenza umsebenzi wangaphakathi ukuze Ngale ndlela ungaqala ukuthembeka kwisiqu sakho nakwabanye.

Ukufezekisa oku kufuneka ubonakalise wena nakwabanye, uvelwano, unendlela yokunxibelelana yokwamkela kunye nentlonipho kwabanye. Nangona ungasoloko usabelana ngezimvo okanye indlela yobomi efanayo, oko akuthethi ukuba kufanele kubekho ungquzulwano okanye ungquzulwano.