Xa sithetha ngokuqiniseka, sibhekisa kubuchule babantu thetha ngeemfuno zakho, iimfuno, okanye iingcinga zakho ngaphandle kokwenzakalisa okanye ukukhubekisa abanye abantu.
Ukuzithemba kuhambelana nezakhono ezifanelekileyo zentlalo, kodwa kukwavumela ukuba sibe nezixhobo eziyimfuneko zokukhusela amalungelo ethu ngaphandle kokuhlasela abanye okanye ukuhlaselwa.
yintoni ukuzithemba
Ukuzithemba kunokuba yinxalenye yobuntu bakho, yendlela oqhele ukunxibelelana ngayo nawe nakwabanye. Zizakhono ezibonakaliswa kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kwaye ziphephe ubundlongondlongo balo naluphi na uhlobo (olusebenzayo okanye olwenziwayo) kodwa ukwazi ukumisela imida nokukhusela amalungelo ethu.
Uvelwano nangayiphi na imeko, lunendima ephambili kwinkqubo yokuzithethelela. Sisiseko sokukwazi ukugcina ukuhlalisana okuhle kuba unokuvakalisa uluvo lwakho ngokuqinileyo ngaphandle kwesidingo sokwenzakalisa abanye abantu.
Ukuzithemba ikuvumela ukuba uveze iingcinga zakho, iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo, izimvo… ngendlela efanelekileyo, uzihloniphe kwaye ngaphandle kwesidingo sokusebenzisa ubundlongondlongo okanye ubundlobongela. Ukuziphatha kwakho kuya kusekelwa kwintlonipho kuwe nakwabanye.
Imizekelo yokusebenzisa ukuzithemba
Ukuqonda ngcono ukuba yintoni ukuzithemba kunye nendlela yokuyisebenzisa ebomini bakho, siza kukunika imizekelo. Ngale ndlela, uya kuba nakho ukubalandela ukuze uqalise ukusebenzisa obu buchule bubalulekileyo boluntu ebomini bakho kwaye uqaphele utshintsho oluhle kubudlelwane bakho phakathi kwabantu.
Umzekelo we1
unxibelelwano olungaqinisekanga
Awunamsebenzi, usoloko uphosisa ngento enye (kwesi sigwebo ugweba kwaye uphangalele, ube ndlongondlongo komnye umntu)
Unxibelelwano lokuqinisekisa
Ndiqaphele ukuba anizalisanga ngokuchanekileyo iifomu kwaye oku kubangele ulibaziseko kweli sebe, niqaphele? Ngaba ufuna uncedo lwalo naluphi na uhlobo? (Libinzana eliqinisekisayo kuba lithetha ngesenzo somnye umntu, ifuthe eliye labangela kwaye liqinisekiswa ngokunika uncedo.
Umzekelo we2
unxibelelwano olungaqinisekanga
Awuzimiselanga emsebenzini, isoloko isenzeka kuwe. (Kwesi sivakalisi kuyagwetywa kwaye kwenziwe ngokubanzi)
Unxibelelwano lokuqinisekisa
Ndiqaphele ukuba kule veki ulibazise kwi-condications zethu kabini, ndingathanda ukuba ulibambe ixesha. (Libinzana eliqinisekisayo kuba oko kukukhathazayo kubonisiwe kwaye isicelo senziwe kumntu wokuqala wokuziphatha ukuphucula).
Umzekelo we3
unxibelelwano olungaqinisekanga
Usoloko undibeka kakubi. (Libinzana eligxeka omnye umntu kwaye isithethi sizibeke kwindima yexhoba).
Unxibelelwano lokuqinisekisa
Xa uthetha nam ngolohlobo undenza ndive kakubi, ndifuna uthethe nam ngelizwi elingcono. (Libinzana eliqinisekisayo kuba oko kukukhathazayo kubonisiwe kwaye isicelo senziwe kumntu wokuqala ukuba enze utshintsho).
Umzekelo we4
unxibelelwano olungaqinisekanga
Awundihoyanga undikhuphele ngaphandle ebomini bakho. (Omnye utyholwa kwaye umntu othethayo uzibeka kwindima yexhoba).
Unxibelelwano lokuqinisekisa
Xa ungandimemelanga kwitheko lakho ndaziva ndililolo kwaye andiqondi ukuba uyenzile ntoni, indenza buhlungu kakhulu le nto uyenzileyo. (Umntu othethayo uthatha uxanduva ngeemvakalelo zakhe, uchaza into ebakhathazileyo, impembelelo ebenayo kwiimvakalelo zabo).
Umzekelo we5
unxibelelwano olungaqinisekanga
Anindimameli nanini na nindihoye, noba yinto enihlala niyithetha iyenziwa okanye akwenziwa nto. (Omnye umntu uchazwa ngokubanzi kwaye ugwetywe).
Unxibelelwano lokuqinisekisa
Xa ndikuxelela ngoluvo lwam olwahlukileyo kolwakho, kwabonakala kum ukuba uye wacaphuka, akunjalo? Luthini uluvo lwakho ngalo mba? (Thetha kumntu wokuqala, chaza okwenzekileyo, qinisekisa ingcamango yomnye umntu kwaye ufune ukuvumelana).
Imizekelo yeempendulo eziqinisekisayo
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzithemba kufuneka kwenzeke ngokuphendula kwizicelo ezenziwe kuthi okanye kwincoko esintywiliselwa kuyo. Eminye imizekelo:
- Impendulo eqinisekileyo kwingxabano yomlomo: Uxolo, kukho into endifuna ukukuxelela yona kodwa uyandiphazamisa; Thetha nam ngaphandle kokukhwaza ukuba ndithetha nawe ngethoni yelizwi elihle, njl.
- Impendulo ecacileyo ibonisa ukuba kufuneka: Ndiyayiqonda into oyithethayo/undenza yona kodwa...
- Impendulo ndiziva: Xa usenza, ndiziva; xa wawundixelela, ndaziva; Ndikhetha ukuba undixelele, njl.
- Impendulo eqinisekileyo kubundlobongela: Ngokuya ucaphuka/undingxolela andizukwazi ukuziveza kakuhle. Xa umile kwaye uyakuva into endikuxelela yona, siphinde siqalise incoko.
- Phendula AKUKHO ukumamela okusebenzayo: Andikwazi ukuya kwisidlo sasemini senkampani, nangona ndiyazi ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuba ndihambe, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba ndihambe.
- Phendula HAYI ukuqiqa: Ndiyabulela ngokundimema kowenu nangona ndikhetha ukungayi kuba ngalamini ndinezinye izicwangciso.
- Yethutyana AYIKHO impendulo: Ndiyabulela ngokundimema kowenu nangona ndikhetha ukungayi kuba ngalamini ndinezinye iiplans, sizoyibona ngenye impelaveki?
- Impendulo kukhangelo loxanduva lomntu wesithathu: Uthetha ukuthini nge…?
- Impendulo yokukhumbula amalungelo akho: Ndinelungelo loku...
Njengoko ubona, sichaze imizekelo emininzi yokuqinisekisa onokuyisebenzisa kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, kubudlelwane bakho bobuqu kunye nasemsebenzini. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba unokuhlala uzolile. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba unelungelo ehlabathini lokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngokucacileyo nangokufutshane.
Ude ube nelungelo lokuphazamisa incoko kwimeko apho kufuneka bakunike iingcaciso ngesizathu esithile. Kufuneka uzenze uhlonitshwe ngabanye, kodwa ngaphezu kwako konke, kufuneka uzihloniphe ukuze oko kwenzeke.
Ukuzithemba kukugcina unxibelelwano oluhloniphekileyo kunye nolwelo kunye nabanye, kuthathelwa ingqalelo iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zabanye ... kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, kukuthathela ingqalelo iingcinga zakho, iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo kunye namalungelo. Unokuba ngumntu ozimelayo ngakumbi ngale mizekelo yokuqinisekisa kwaye uphucule ubudlelwane bakho bomntu namhlanje!