Sele siyazi loo nto ngo ubudlelwane obusempilweni Siyaqonda ukuba zezo zisivumela ukuba siqhubele phambili ngaphakathi kwethu nokuzikhulisa. Kodwa ubukho bezo nkampani zivelisa iziphumo ezichaseneyo nathi, zisivelisa uloyiko kunye nokungaqiniseki njengezithintelo zobuqu.
Ukuthintela ukwakha isangqa sethu sangaphakathi ngokusekwe kokugqibela, kuyafuneka ukuba nezixhobo kunye nobulumko ukuba sifuna ukudala imeko-bume esempilweni kunye nekhuselekileyo ngokwasemoyeni. Namhlanje siyakuthanda ukwabelana nawe nge Iindidi ze-5 zabantu ekufuneka uziphephe ukonwabela ngokupheleleyo abo bakhoyo ebomini bethu obuxabisekileyo.
1) Abo bathanda ukuba liziko lokuqwalaselwa
Abo Babonakaliswa ngokuqhuba kwezenzo kunye neemeko ezivelisa umnxeba wokuqwalaselwa ngaphandle kwesizathu. Ukuba sidibana nomntu onjalo, kungcono ukuba ungahambi nabo ngokuhlala uzolile, ngaphandle kokuhoya.
Kulungile ukukhumbula ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo ibangelwa ukungabikho kokhuseleko lomntu, kodwa kule meko kuyimfuneko ukuba ungabavumeli ukuba baqhubeke bekuchaphazela. Ukuba akunjalo, ekuphela kwento abaza kuyiphumeza kukukhathaza kwaye usebenzise kakhulu inkunkuma yamandla kwicala lakho.
2) Lowo ongazange avumelane nawe
Sukuchitha ixesha uzama ukutshintsha abantu abangavumelani nawe, kwaye sukujonga nje ekuphumeleleni imvume yabo. Kuhle ukukuqonda oko elowo kuthi, njengabantu, unoxanduva ngendlela yethu ethile yokwenza kunye nendlela yokuziva okanye yokuphila.
Asikho ngenjongo yokukholisa nabani na, kuphela thina. Eyona nto sinokuyicebisa kwezi ntlobo zabantu kukuba uyayamkela loo nto asilingani sonke kwaye nawe ngokwakho kufuneka uphile ngamava akho, nokuba abanye abayithandi.
3) Abo basusa inkohliso yakho
Ukudibana kunye nabo bantu basidelelayo, ukuhleka umbono wethu namaphupha kuya kusikhokelela kuphela kunciphise amandla ethu kwaye sikuphephe ukuzithemba kwenene kunye nokuzithemba okukhulu kwangaphakathi. Lowo wonke umntu, wonke umntu, angayonwabela ebomini. Ukuncokola ngezi ntlobo zobuntu kuya kusekelwa kumagqabantshintshi kunye nolindelo oluphantsi malunga nawe, ufuna ukonwaba ngokwabo.
Sithanda ukukhumbuza ukuba xa sithetha ukufezekisa iinjongo zethu kunye namaphupha amathuba ethu awalawulwa ziimvo zabanye. Ezo zimvo zimbi zabanye ziyabagatya, kunye nokusikelwa umda okungengokwakho.
4) Abantu abanetyhefu
Omnye umntu onetyhefu Uya kuhlala efuna ukubeka umbono wakhe kunye nokulawula iingcinga zakho ngokusekwe kukungakhathali. Ukuthintela kubo, ngalo mzuzu ukwazi ukubazi, ungafunda ukunxibelelana nabo ngendlela elula:
Ukuba uyithandile le vidiyo, cinga ngokwabelana ngayo nabantu osondele kubo. Enkosi kakhulu ngenkxaso yakho.[imephu]Olu hlobo lwabantu lufuna kuphela ukusebenzisa imeko-bume yabo befuna ukufumana izibonelelo zabo. Xa kufika ixesha lokufuna uncedo lwabo, baya kukuphendula ngokukhawuleza "hayi" okanye abanalo ixesha lokukuthathela ingqalelo.
5) Lowo angaxoleliyo iimpazamo zakho
Kuyinyani ukuba kuphela sinokuqonda kunye nokuqonda kwenzeka ntoni emntwini wethu. Ukuchitha kunye nokuchitha ixesha usenza ngathi ulawula oko abanye bakucingayo ngawe ngamampunge. Kwaye ayikuniki ixabiso ngexabiso lomntu wakho.
Kuyinyani ongenayo kwaye ngekhe ube nakho ukulawula oko abanye bakucingayo ngawe. Kodwa into iyinyani: inyani yokuba nguwe kuphela onokugqiba ukuba wenzeni ngezimvo zakho. Iimpazamo zethu zenzeka njengokufunda, kwaye kungaze kube yimvelaphi yokugweba kwabanye abantu apho isenzo sokuxolela singenobukho.
Khumbula ukuzibuza umbuzo Kutheni ungamshiyi loo mntu ngaphambili kwaye wenze ikamva lakho lihle ngakumbi?
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Kwaye ukuba umntu ongakwenzeli okuhle ngudadewenu kwaye ikwayintsapho yakho ekuphela kwayo, kufuneka wenze ntoni xa kunjalo?
Ewe oko sele kunzima ngakumbi, ngaba uhlala naye?
Isimo esibi kwizifundo ezisingqongileyo siphela (ukuba siyasivumela) siyasingcolisa, kungoko igama elithi "abantu abanetyhefu", iintlobo zabantu ekubhekiswe kuzo kwinqaku zibandakanyiwe njengeziyityhefu, izifundo ezisiphanga amandla kunye izimo zengqondo ezingakhiyo. Ityhefu yazo zonke ichaphazeleka kakhulu, yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuzichonga nokuziphepha.
Ndiyakuvuyela ngenqaku!
Andihlali naye, sobabini badala kwaye unosapho lwakhe, endandihlala ndisondele kakhulu kuye (okanye ndaye ndakholelwa).
Inyani yile yokuba besixabene ngoba iimeko ezinzima ziye zahlangana ebomini babo bobabini kwaye undingcikivile ngokungabikho apho, ngaphandle kokuthathela ngqalelo konke konke ukuba nam bendidlula kwixesha elibi.
Oko kwenzekayo, iinyanga ezintathu zidlulile, apho ndingakhange ndimbone okanye abatshana bam kwaye ndophuke ngaphakathi.
Kuya kufuneka ndongeze ngelithi ngelixesha sisahlukanisiweyo kuxa bendisazi ukuba indlela yakhe yokuhlala ibisoloko ibubeka kakuhle ubomi bam ukusukela, emnqule ngokupheleleyo, ebengumzekelo kuthi, kwangaxeshanye, Ebesoloko endicaphukisa kakhulu kuba kungekho nto ilunge ngokwaneleyo kubo, ngaphandle kokuncama uzinzo lwam nakubomi bam izihlandlo ezininzi.
Ngapha koko, libali elide kakhulu nelibuhlungu elilelosapho lwam, elingaziwa baninzi, yiyo loo nto ndizongeze ngakumbi kwaye ndiyaxolisa, kodwa andifumani ntuthuzelo ngayo nantoni na kwaye izakundinceda. Bona ezinye iimbono ukusukela, andazi nokuba ndizame ukudibana na nangona ndisazi ukuba impembelelo yakhe iyandilimaza ngokuqhubeka nokubona abatshana bam okanye ukushiya izinto zinje, okwangoku ...
Yongeza nje ukuba bobabini kunye nomlamu wam kunye nomtshana wam, oneminyaka elishumi elinesixhenxe ngoku, bandivimbile kwaye abafuni nokunxibelelana nam; omnye umtshana wam usemncinci. Kwaye mna, nangona sele ndikhulile, ndiyayithatha iyabulala kuba ubomi bam, nangona ndinabahlobo, abunanto kwaye abonwabanga.
Ndiyabulela kwangaphambili.
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