Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo luyimfuneko kuluntu lwethu kwaye kufuneka luzalwe, kodwa oku akusoloko kunjalo. Ngokwenyani, xa abantu bezama ukunxibelelana nabanye, kukho into ehamba gwenxa kwaye unxibelelwano luwela ecaleni kwendlela, into iyasilela kwaye ayisoloko isaziwa ukuba yintoni okanye yintoni ingxaki yonxibelelwano.
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uthetha into enye aze omnye umntu eve into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo, ebangela ukungaqondani, ungquzulwano kunye nonxunguphalo lonxibelelwano, inokwenzeka njani le nto? Unxibelelwano olubi lunokudala ungquzulwano nakweyiphi na indawo ebomini bomntu. Kukho abo bafuna ukufunda izakhono zonxibelelwano ukuphucula olo lonxibelelwano alwanelanga kumaxesha amaninzi.
Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba kufuneka uphucule unxibelelwano neqabane lakho, nomphathi wakho, nabantu osebenza nabo, nabantwana bakho ... Ukuba kunjalo, kufuneka uqale ukuphucula izakhono zakho zonxibelelwano ukuphucula unxibelelwano onalo nabanye. Ngale ndlela uya kufumana ukuzithemba okukhulu kunye nentlonipho kuwe nakwabanye, nakwabanye kuwe! Uya kuziva ungcono ngokuba nezakhono ezingcono zokusombulula ungquzulwano kunye nokuphucula impilo nentlalo yakho. kwiinkalo ezininzi.
Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo; Yintoni kwaye yintoni engekho
Loluphi unxibelelwano olusebenzayo
Ukugcina unxibelelwano olusebenzayo, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba unxibelelwano alungaphezulu kokutshintshiselana ngolwazi. Imalunga nokuqonda umyalezo ewe, kodwa kunye nemvakalelo nayo yonke into esemva kwamagama. Xa uhambisa umyalezo kufuneka umamele omnye kwaye unike intsingiselo epheleleyo kwincoko, oko kuthethwayo kunye nokuviweyo kumacala omabini.
Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo ludibanisa ezi zinto zine zibalulekileyo: ukumamela kakuhle, ukunxibelelana ngaphandle kokuthetha, ukulawula uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo ezinokuthi zivele kwincoko kunye nentlonipho kwincoko esiya kuye nakwenye.
Unxibelelwano luya kuhlala lusebenza ngakumbi xa luyinto yendalo, ngokuzenzekelayo ... Kuthathelwa ingqalelo izinto ezine ezibalulekileyo kodwa ngaphandle kokuzijonga. Ezi zakhono zifuna ixesha kunye nomzamo wokuzenza kwaye ngakumbi ukuzenza ngaphakathi, kodwa ngomzamo kunye nokuziqhelanisa nezakhono zakho zonxibelelwano ziya kuphucula kakhulu.
LUNTONI unxibelelwano olusebenzayo
Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo ALULUNXIBELELO olunezithintelo kunxibelelwano ukuba luhambe ngokufanelekileyo. Oku kunokuthintela umntu omnye ekubeni akwazi ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo nomnye, kwaye kuyakuba ngoko xa iingxaki ziqala kwincoko phakathi kwabantu ababini nangaphezulu.
Izithintelo ezithintela unxibelelwano olusebenzayo zezi-4: uxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo ezingalawulekiyo kwincoko, ukungabikho koqwalaselo kwinto ethethwa okanye eviwayo, ukugcina ulwimi lomzimba olungafanelekanga kunye / okanye ukugcina ulwimi lomzimba olubi.
Ukuphucula iindlela zakho zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo
Gcina ulwimi lomzimba olulungileyo
Ukugcina ulwimi lomzimba olulungileyo kubalulekile ukuze sikwazi ukunxibelelana kakuhle. Ulwimi lomzimba lumele malunga neepesenti ezingama-55 zendlela abanye abantu abayitolika ngayo imeko yakho yeemvakalelo. Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa ulwimi lomzimba wakho ukunxibelelana nabanye ngenjongo yakho eyakhayo, eyakhayo kunye nentsebenziswano. Ubukhulu becala, akukho mntu ufuna ukusebenza okanye ukusebenzisana nabantu ababi okanye abagxekayo. Cinga ngabantu ongabathandiyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abanabuhlobo, bagxeka, baba ndlongondlongo, kwaye abanaluvelwano kwabanye. Nokuba amagama akho onxibelelwano ayathandeka kwaye anobuhlobo, ulwimi lomzimba wakho lumele ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha sento ebonwa ngomnye umntu.
Ukuba ufuna ukugcina ulwimi lomzimba kuqala bajonge emehlweni. Ukujonga emehlweni kuthetha ukuba ujonga abanye emehlweni xa uthetha okanye uthetha nabo. Ukujonga kubalulekile, nangona uthatha ikhefu ukujonga kude kwaye unike omnye umntu ithuba lokuphefumla.
Imbonakalo yeemvakalelo kufuneka ingathathi cala kwaye ibe ntle, ukuyibonakalisa ngezimbo zomzimba, izandla nobuso. Xa bethetha nawe, jonga ulwimi lomnye umntu. Zama ukunqanda ukuveza iimvakalelo ezingalunganga njengothuko, ukothuka, okanye umsindo. Ncuma xa unxibelelana ngendlela eyakhayo okanye eyakhayo. Musa ukoyika ukusebenzisa uburharha kwaye uhleke ukwakha ubuhlobo nabanye.
Umzimba wakho kufuneka uthathe inxaxheba kwincoko. Ukwenza oku, sebenzisa izijekulo ukucacisa izinto kwaye ungangeni ezingalweni zakho. Umzimba wakho kufuneka ungqamane naloo mntu uthetha naye, kwaye iinyawo zakho kufuneka zijongise ngqo kuye. Gcina ukuma nkqo kwaye ukhululekile. Uhloniphekile kwaye unxibelelana ngokomzimba ukukhupha i-oxytocin, i-neurotransmitter ethembekileyo.
Buza imibuzo evulekileyo
Obu buchule bokunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo kufuneka. Imibuzo evulekileyo yimibuzo engenakuphendulwa ngo-ewe okanye uhayi. Isizathu sokuba imibuzo evulelekileyo ibalulekile kukuba abantu bahlala becinezela okanye behluza iingcinga zabo kunye nezimvo zabo.. Ukuphuhlisa ukuthembela kwabanye, kuya kufuneka ungene kwiintloko zabo kwaye ubakhokele ekuvezeni eyona minqweno kunye neenjongo zabo. Xa ubuza umbuzo ovulekileyo kwaye uqinisekisa omnye umntu ukuba awuyi kubagweba, ungafumana bathembeke ngokupheleleyo kuwe.
Imibuzo efana nale: 'Sisiphi isisombululo esinokusifumana kule ngxaki? Okanye mhlawumbi; 'Uthetha ukuthini kanye kanye ngale nto?' Ngaba imibuzo efanelekileyo evulelekileyo. Xa ubuza ezi ntlobo zemibuzo, uyakube unika abanye abantu ithuba lokucinga malunga nento abazoyithetha ngokukuko kwaye uyakufumana ulwazi oluthembekileyo, udale intembeko.
Ukunyaniseka ngaphezu kwako konke
Kufuneka uthembeke, ucace, ube mfutshane, kwaye uhloniphe ngamaxesha onke. Le yingqondo eqhelekileyo kuba ukunyaniseka kuhlala kungumgaqo-nkqubo olungileyo wokuba abanye bakuthembe. Abantu ababathembi abantu ababonakala benganyanisekanga okanye bengaziwayo. Abantu bayayibona inkohliso ngokukhawuleza ngokunika ingqwalaselo encinci kwaye asithandi ukukhohliswa.
Ithuku ukuba ukusuka kwindawo yokuzivelela yembono kusengqiqweni ukusinda. Kumqolomba oyindumasi ukuba ubungumntu othembekileyo, abanye abantu bomqolomba bangakubulala ngasemva ukuze bathathe izibonelelo zakho baphile ngokwabo. Ngenxa yale mbali yamandulo inzima, abantu baguqukile baba namandla amakhulu okuqonda inkohliso okanye abantu abanganyanisekanga. Oku kubalulekile namhlanje ukunqanda ubuqhetseba, amasela ngokubanzi, ukuthintela abantu ababi ukuba bangene ebomini bethu.
Ungaze uxokise abanye okanye ufihle ulwazi ekusenokwenzeka ukuba bayalazi, ngaphakathi kwesizathu. Ukuthembana kubaluleke kakhulu ekusebenzisaneni ngokubambisana, kwaye kunzima ukuyakha kwakhona yakutshabalalisa. Kuya kwenzeka okufanayo kubudlelwane bakho bobuqu. Gcina oku engqondweni ukuba ukhe ucinge ngokuxoka okanye ukukhohlisa abanye. Abantu bathanda abantu abanyanisekileyo ababanika intembeko nembeko eyiyo. Kukho amaxesha apho ukunyaniseka kunokuba yinto ekhubekisayo, kodwa kule meko, unokunyaniseka ngaphandle kokukhubekisa ngokukhetha amagama akho ngocoselelo nangothando.
Ulwazi olugqwesileyo!