Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ukhe uzive ubambekile kwixa elidlulileyo? Ngaba ufumanisa ukuba uyazisola ngezinye zezigqibo ozenzileyo? Musa ukuba nzima kuwe, yenzeke kuthi sonke. Ukuyiqonda linyathelo lokuqala ukudala utshintsho lokwenyani.
Sonke sinexesha elidlulileyo, kwaye eyadlulayo inokuba sisizathu sokuba abantu abaninzi bangabufezekisi ubomi obanelisayo kunye obunomvuzo. Sonke sihamba ngala manqanaba ebomini bethu apho sichitha ixesha elininzi sicinga ngezinto zethu zangaphambili kwaye asikwazi ukubona amathuba amatsha azibonakalisayo mihla le. Xa oku kusenzeka, kuyanceda ukukhumbula oko ukuqonda ngoku Inciphisa i-rumination kwaye ivule indawo yezigqibo ezizolileyo ngakumbi.
Kunokubakho amathuba amaninzi aphosiweyo okanye iimpazamo ezenziwe. Kuya kufuneka sibayeke bahambe balandele la mathuba ahlala ezibonisa. Ixesha elizayo yindawo apho unokulungisa khona wonke umonakalo owenze ebomini bakho. Beka bucala ixesha elifutshane ukuze camngca, ufunde, emva koko uyeke Ithintela ukucamngca ukuba ibe yinto ethe phithi.
Le yile Izinyuko ezisibhozo ukushiya okudlulileyo ngasemva kwaye ujonge kwikamva ngolindelo olukhulu:
1. Biza iibhugi ngegama.
"Nawuphi na umntu ongazange enze impazamo akazange azame nantoni na entsha." - Albert Einstein
Ukufunda kwizinto ezidlulileyo ngaphandle kokubambelela kuyo kubalulekile. Cinga ngokwemida kwaye uzibuze imibuzo ekhokelayo guqula ubutyala ube sisifundo:
- Kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye? Gxininisa kwizibakala, kungekhona kwiingcaciso.
- Ziziphi iimvakalelo ezivelayo? Zibhale phantsi ukukhulula uxinzelelo.
- Ndingakusebenzisa njani oku ukuzixhobisa? Khangela inyathelo elilandelayo elinokwenzeka.
Mbini . Zihlonele iimpazamo zakho zangaphambili.
Iimpazamo zakhe zaziyinxalenye yamava akhe ngexesha elithile ebomini. Ngoku unexesha lokuyilungisa. Kuyinxalenye yenkqubo yokufunda. Ngoku ungumntu owahlukileyo. Ezo mpazamo zimenze ukuba abe yile nto ayiyo namhlanje. Yibhiyozele into yokuba usifunde kakuhle isifundo sakho.
Ukusuka kwisayikholoji ye ukuzicingela Siyazi ukuba siyathanda ukuzichaza ngokwethu ngezinto esizenzileyo. Libhale kwakhona eli bali: awuyiyo impazamo yakho. Nguwe ofunda kuyeIqhinga elisebenzayo kukubhala phantsi impazamo, isifundo, kunye indlela yokuziphatha eya kusebenza kwixesha elilandelalayo.
3. Sukujongela phantsi impumelelo yakho.
Xa uchitha ixesha lakho uzisola ngexa elidlulileyo, awukhathaleli konke okuphumeleleyo. Gxila kwimpumelelo yakho hayi kwiimpazamo zakho kwaye, emva koko, uyakuqonda ukuba iimpazamo zakho bezinganzulu kangako. Ukuba ugxila kuzo, uzenza zibe nkulu kunokuba zinjalo.
Ukulungelelanisa ingxoxo yakho yangaphakathi, yenza i ijenali yempumeleloBhala phantsi izinto ezintathu ozenze kakuhle suku ngalunye, nokuba zibonakala zincinci kangakanani na. Esi senzo sichasene nokuthambekela kwengqondo kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye komeleza ukuzithemba.
Zine. Sukuvumela iimpazamo zakho zibe libali lakho.
Ukuba uhlala ukhumbula malunga neempazamo ozenzileyo, iyakwenza ezo mpazamo zinombala webali lobomi bakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo awufuni ukuba amanye awona maxesha amahle obomi bakho agutyungelwe ziimpazamo zakho, eyayiyinxalenye encinci kakhulu yobomi bakhe. Ukuba ubunokucelwa ukuba ubhale ibali lakho lobomi, ngaba iimpazamo ziya kwenza uninzi lwebali? Andicingi njalo, lixesha lokuba ndiyeke elidlulileyo kwaye siqhubeke.
Kuphephe ukudlala ixhoba: yeka ukugxeka Kwabanye, iqhawula umjikelo wokukhalaza kwaye ibuyisela amandla obuqu. Faka endaweni ethi "lityala labo" ngokuthi "ndingenza ntoni ngoku?"
5. Musa ukubonakalisa ubomi bakho bangoku kunye nexesha elidlulileyo.
Musa ukusula ubomi bakho ngoku ngokuhlala ngaphambili. Awunakho ukuchitha ixesha lakho uzikhathaza ngezinto ebekufanele ukuba uzenzile ngokwahlukileyo. Njengoko uhlala kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, uhlazisa ubomi bakho bangoku. Awuyi kukwazi ukonwaba apho ukhoyo ngoku. Musa ukuluhlutha ulonwabo lwakho.
Enye indlela esebenzayo yile Yamkela okwangoku: hlala usebenzaFunda into entsha, camngca, wenze umthambo, uchithe ixesha nabahlobo. Ukuba nengqiqo kubandakanya ukujonga iingcinga ngaphandle kokubambelela kuzo. Ngokuziqhelisela, Yandisa inhlalakahle kunye nokucaca.
6. Ungaphoswa zifundo ezivela kwiimpazamo zakho.
Ungaphoswa zizifundo onokuzifunda kwezo zinto zingabalulekanga kubomi bakho ngoku. Ngelishwa, ubomi buvavanya kuthi kuqala buze busifundise izifundo. Iimpazamo zakho ziyinxalenye yenkqubo yokufunda.
"Iimpazamo zomntu ngamasango akhe okufumanisa.". - UJames joyce
Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ukuyeka ukuhamba kunzima kukunceda uqhubele phambili. ukungazithembi Kudala ukungonwabi xa oko sikwenzayo kungahambelani noko sikukholelwayo; yiyo loo nto sithethelela izigqibo ezidlulileyo. Ukongeza, sisebenzisa i ukuziphatha njenge-heuristicSithatha izigqibo namhlanje ngokusekelwe kwinto ebesiyenze izolo. Ukuchaza ezi ngxaki ziya kukuvumela ukuba... khetha iimpendulo ezintshaCwangcisa, ukuba kunokwenzeka, iikhefu ezimfutshane ukusuka kwindawo eyondla iinkumbulo zakho (impelaveki ngaphandle kothungelwano okanye kude neendawo zokuqalisa) ukufumana umbono.
7. Xolela ukuze uye phambili.
Amaxesha amaninzi siyazibamba xa singabaxoleli abanye. Ukuze uqhubele phambili, kuya kufuneka uyibeke bucala intlungu kunye nobuhlungu obuzibambile. Uxolelo likuvumela ukuba uhambe ngokukhululekileyo uye phambili. Uxolelo lwenzela wena ngaphezulu komnye umntu.
Ukuxolela kuquka ukuzixolela. Akukhomntu ogqibeleleUkuququzelela inkqubo: yamkela inyani, qinisekisa uvakalelo lwakho, wenze isigqibo malunga nokuba yeyiphi imida oya kuyibeka, kwaye wenze isivumelwano kunye nawe ukuba ungafumbi inzondo (musa ukulala unomsindo, yenza ububele yonke imihla). Ngokukhulula umthwalo, indlela ilungisiwe.
8. Sebenzisa iimpazamo zakho zangaphambili ukunceda abanye.
Sonke sinezinto kwixesha lethu elidlulileyo ezisenza sizive sinentloni. Awukahlukanga, kodwa ungavumeli ukuba ikuthintele ekwakheni ikamva elitsha. Sebenzisa amava akho adlulileyo ukunceda abanye abakwimeko ezifanayo. Bazise ukuba akukaze kube lixesha lokuba babe ngabantu abafuna ukuba ngabo.
Qalisa ku yenza iinkumbulo ezintsha Hlanganisa inkqubo yakho yokuphilisa: nikela ixesha ebantwini nakwizinto ezizisa uxolo. Ukubuyisela iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu ngamava anentsingiselo komeleza ubuni bakho ngoku.
Kutheni sibambekile kwixa elidluleyo?
Kukho imbono uyaziInkumbulo engasonjululwanga iphinda ivele ukuze ihlengahlengise kwaye iyinike intsingiselo eyahlukileyo; kunye nenqwelomoya uphinda-phindo olungekho zingqondweniIipateni eziphindaphindayo de ziphinde zichazwe (iklasikhi "Kutheni into efanayo isoloko isenzeka kum?"). Imbali yomntu, ulawulo lweemvakalelo, kunye nokomelela nako kudlala indima. Ukuchonga imeko yakho linyathelo lokuqala ukuya ngenelela ngokuchanekileyo.
Iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba ixesha elidlulileyo lithatha indawo eninzi kakhulu
- Ixesha elidlulileyo liyongamela iingcinga kunye neengxoxo malunga nomzuzu wangoku.
- Ukhetho olukhethiweyo zabantu okanye iimeko, ukunciphisa okubi.
- Ukuthatheka neenkcukacha yeziqendu ezithile, eziphila ngazo yonke imihla.
- Ukoyika entsha kunye nemvakalelo yokungakwazi ukumelana notshintsho.
Imikhwa eyenza kube lula ukuyeka ixesha elidlulileyo
Indawo yokuhlalaJonga ubudlelwane bakho. Zihlukanise nabantu abakubophelela kuguqulelo ofuna ukulushiya ngasemva kwaye usondele kwabo bakuphakamisayo.
Ukubonakaliswa ngokweemvakaleloUkuthetha nomntu oza kuphulaphula ngaphandle kokukugweba okanye ukubhala phantsi indlela ovakalelwa ngayo kunciphisa ukuxhalaba, intloko ebuhlungu nokuxinezeleka. Sebenzisa "I" iingxelo kwaye uchaze ubunzulu beemvakalelo zakho.
Ingqondo kunye nokunyakazaUkuziqhelanisa nokuba nengqiqo, ukuhamba ngokugxila kwiimvakalelo, okanye ukuphefumla ngengqondo kubuyisela ingqalelo kwixesha langoku kunye ukuhluma kuyancipha.
UkunyamekelaUkulala, ukutya, kunye nokuzilolonga zixhasa ukulungelelana ngokwasengqondweni. Ukufunda isakhono esitsha kuqinisa ingqondo ngoku.
inkxaso yobungcaliUkuba ukungonwabi kuyaqhubeka, unyango lubonelela ngendawo ekhuselekileyo yokuqhuba amava, ukuwahlenga-hlengisa, nokuphuhlisa izixhobo eziphathekayo ukuqhubela phambili.
Sonke sinezinto ebomini bethu esingazingci ngazo kwaye singathanda ukuzicima kwiinkumbulo zethu, kodwa kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba ezo zizinto ezisenza sibe yile nto siyiyo namhlanje. Ungabi nazintloni ngexesha lakho elidlulileyo kuba ezo mpazamo ziyinxalenye yobomi bakho kwaye zikwenze womelela, walumka, kwaye ukwazi ukujongana nobomi.
Yonke imihla lithuba lokuqala ngokutsha kwaye ufunde into entsha. Zithini izicwangciso zakho ngekamva? Shiya iingcinga zakho kwicandelo lokuphawula.
Ukukhetha ukuphila ngoku akuyicimi imbali, i ijika ibe nguvimbaIxesha eladlulayo elifundisayo, ingoku ekumele lonwabe, kunye nekamva eliyilwe ngosukelo olucacileyo, imida esempilweni, kunye nobudlelwane obonwabileyo. Ngamanyathelo amancinci, angaguqukiyo, kunye novelwano, ungakhulula into engasamkhonziyo kwaye yakhe ubomi abunqwenelayo.
