Ubomi bethu bumiselwe ziingcinga zethuUkukhetha into oyinikela ingqalelo kunye nendlela otolika ngayo okwenzekayo kuwe kubumba iimvakalelo zakho, izigqibo zakho, kwaye, ekuhambeni kwexesha, ikamva lakho.
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Inzululwazi ayikakwazi ukutyhila zonke iimfihlelo zayo.Nangona siyazi ukuba ingqondo isebenza njengenkqubo edibeneyo kunye neplastiki. Kuthiwa sisebenzisa kuphela i-10% yengqondo yethu, kodwa Loo mfanekiso yintsomiSisebenzisa yonke imimandla, nangona ingeyiyo yonke ngexesha elinye okanye ngokuqina okufanayo kuxhomekeke kumsebenzi.
Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wesakhono sokuyiqeqesha ngenjongo: I-Neuroplasticity yomeleza iisekethe esizisebenzisa kakhulu.Ukuphindaphinda iingcinga ezithile komeleza unxibelelwano lwe-neural oluchaphazela indlela oziva ngayo kunye nesenzo sakho, ngoko kububulumko ukukhetha ngononophelo apho ugxininise khona ingqondo yakho.
Uninzi lwethu alukhathaleli amathuba okuqeqesha ingqondo yethu. Kufuneka kubekho isifundo esikolweni uzinikele ekulawuleni iingcinga, iimvakalelo kunye neenjongo, kuba ukusebenzisa ezi zakhono kuphindaphinda intlalontle kunye nokusebenza.
Ndiyinyani sebenzisa iingcinga zethu ukufezekisa iinjongo zethuNgeenkolelo eziluncedo kunye nenkuthazo ezinzileyo, unokukhokela izigqibo zemihla ngemihla ezithi, xa ziqokelelwe, zivelise iziphumo ezingaqhelekanga.
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Zonke iingcibi ezinkulu kunye neengcali zengqondo ziyavumelanaInto oyikholelwayo malunga nokwenzeka kuwe inefuthe elingakumbi kunesehlo ngokwaso. Umzekelo olula: kukho ingxolo enkulu endlwini; ukuba ucinga ukuba "umntu uye waqhekeza," uya kuziva uloyiko; ukuba ucinga ukuba "ndishiye into engekho ndawo," uya kuziva unetyala; ukuba ucinga ukuba "ibingumoya ngefestile," mhlawumbi ngumsindo. Asiyongxolo, kukutolika..
Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iimpendulo zivakala ngakumbi okanye zizenzekela (njengokothuka kwimpondo yemoto). Nangona kunjalo, incoko yakho yangaphakathi Igqiba ukubumba into oziva ngayo kunye nendlela ophendula ngayo. Yiyo loo nto iCognitive Behavioral Therapy icebisa ukwahlula iingcinga ezinengqondo (injongo kwaye isekelwe kwiinyani) ze engenangqiqo (ibaxiwe, ayinakuqinisekiswa, yintlekele).
- Iingcamango ezinengqiqoihambelana nesiganeko; imvakalelo, nangona ingathandekiyo, i eguqukayo (umzekelo, ukuxhalaba xa ujongene nengozi yangempela).
- Iingcamango ezingenangqondo: subjective, ngokugqithiseleyo okanye ukulindela okubi kakhulu ngaphandle kobungqina (umzekelo, "Ndiphazamise emsebenzini, ngoko andinamsebenzi").
Yintoni enokuyenza ngezidalwa ezingenangqondo? Ziqeqeshe ngamanyathelo ama-3 (TCC):
- Zichonge Xa ubona uvakalelo olunzulu: ndizixelela ntoni?
- ZithelekiseNgaba kusengqiqweni okanye akukho ngqiqweni ngokwezibakala?
- Zimisele endaweni yazo kwezinye iindlela ezisempilweni. Ayikokwenza switi, imalunga nokufumana ukuchaneka.
Eminye imizekelo eluncedo yohlengahlengiso: "Kuyoyikeka" → "Kuyasibuyisela umva"; "Ndiyoyisakele" → "Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyasilela"; "Bendifanele ukuba ndenze ngcono" → "ngendikhethe ukwenza ngcono, ndenze oko bendinako".
Ukuba ukucinga okungalunganga kunengqiqo (kukho ingxaki yokwenene), Yithathe njengophawu lokwenza.Ilawula izivuseleli, iguqula umsebenzi, ifune izisombululo, kwaye imelane. Le ndlela inciphisa ukuxhalaba kwaye ikhulise ingqiqo yokulawula.
Inzululwazi ikwachaza isiprofeto esizizalisekisayoOko ukulindeleyo kuchaphazela ukuziphatha kwakho kwaye kuququzelele umphumo ofanayo. Oku kwenzeka ekufundeni, emsebenzini, okanye kwimidlalo. Yiba nombono wempumelelo kwaye ulungiselele izenzo ezihambelanayo kwandisa amathuba akho okuphumelela.
Ngokwembono yoMTHETHO (Ukwamkeleka nokuzibophelela), kuyacetywa ukuphazamiseka kwengqondoIingcamango zakho zijonge njengeziganeko zengqondo, kungekhona iinyaniso ezipheleleyo. Kufana “nokubukela iintlanzi zidada” ngaphandle kokuziginya zonke; ngokuthatha inyathelo emva, ungakhetha ngcono ukuba wenze ntoni ngombono ngamnye.
Kakade ke, kukho oothunywashe abangakumbi abaphembelela impumelelo; Ndiza kugxila kwezithathu: Ukucinga okusebenzayo, inkuthazo, kunye nosukelo olucacileyoKonke kuxhomekeke kuwe. Ivili lempumelelo lisezandleni zakho.
Kufuneka siyithande impumelelo.
Umbono sisixhobo esinamandla Xa isetyenziswa njengokuziqhelanisa kwengqondo: yenza kusebenze uthungelwano lwe-neural olufana nolo lusetyenziswa kumsebenzi wokwenyani, inciphisa ixhala, kwaye iphucule ukugxila. Ayingomlingo; Iyasebenza kuba ikulungiselela ukuba wenze.Yisebenzise ekulungiseleleni intetho, uviwo, okanye ukuseka imikhwa esempilweni (kwakunye nasekutyeni nasekuzilolongeni).
Nje ukuba wenze inkqubela, Cinga kakhulu ngeenyawo zakho emhlabeniJonga izinto ozonwabisa ngazo, amandla, kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni, kwaye uzame ukugqwesa. Khumbula: Ingcinga ayithathi ndawoiyayilungelelanisa kwaye iyayixhasa.
Ukwalathisa ngokutsha ugqaliselo Ukukunceda ukuba ulawule ingqondo yakho ngamaxesha anzima, zama oku:
- ekufundeniNdingafunda ntoni kule meko?
- Khetha: dwelisa ezinye iimpendulo.
- iplaniChaza into oyenzayo ukulawula kunye nenyathelo lokuqala.
- Ingqwalasela epheleleyo: ukuphefumla, ukuphumla okanye ukucamngca ngokufutshane.
- UkujongaThetha nomntu onokuzisa ingcaciso.
- Inkumbulo eyolisayoIvuselela amava akhuthazayo akuqinisayo.
Kuphephe ukuzikhohlisa "yonke into ilungile"Ukugxininisa ngokuqinisekileyo akuyikhanyeli inyaniso, kodwa cazulula izinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga, funda kwaye wenze malunga nokuba yintoni exhomekeke kuwe.
Ndithembe, ikamva lisesandleni sakho: ukungaguquguquki, uqeqesho, inkuthazo, iinkolelo…Sigubungela yonke le miba kule bhlog. Kuyimfuneko ukusebenzisana.
Kunzima kakhulu; ngoko ke ingcamango qeqesha ingqondo yakho yonke imihlaKuninzi ekufuneka kwenziwe. Ukuba uyayifuna, unokuyifumana. Akukho mntu uthe impumelelo ilula; yiyo loo nto bembalwa abanyuliweyo.
Into endifuna ukuba uyiqonde ngokucacileyo kweli nqaku kukuba Unokuzilawula iingcinga zakhoFunda ukulawula iingcinga ezakhayo. iingcinga zamandla. Ziyindlela yethu ukuziphuculaNjengomzekelo osebenzayo, kubunzima okanye iinjongo zempilo, lungisa ngokutsha ukuzigxekaUkuziqhelanisa nombulelo kunye nokusebenzisa imiyalelo yesiqu sakho kuphucula ukwenza kwakho izigqibo kunye nokunyamezela.
Ingqokelela Ikhemesti yeengcinga kufuneka ifane nekhemesti apho unokufumana khona iyeza lazo zonke izigulo. - (UFrancois Marie Arouet).
Yonke into esiyiyo Sisiphumo sento esiyicingayo, isekwe kwiingcinga zethu kwaye yenziwe ngeengcinga zethu – (USidhartha Gautama Buddha)
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Iingcinga zakho zibalulekileAbalawuli ihlabathi, kodwa balawula ingqalelo yakho, izigqibo zakho, kunye nemikhwa yakho. Hlakulela ukuzithetha okuluncedo, ukubonwa okusengqiqweni, kwaye ugxile kwinto onokuyilawula; ngokuziqhelanisa, ingqondo yakho iba ngumhlobo wakho omhle wokuphila ngokucace ngakumbi, intlalontle, kunye nenjongo.