Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ukuba ezona zinto zibalulekileyo zenzeka kwabo banethamsanqa. Nangona kuyinyani, kwaye kukho abantu abanethamsanqa ebomini okanye abenza lula ... ama-90% abo bantu babonakala ngathi "banethamsanqa" ngenene ngabantu abangazange babenomlingo okanye nantoni na enjalo ebomini babo… Bavele baphuma kwindawo abaphila kuyo kwaye bajongana noloyiko nokungaqiniseki.
Ukuba ungomnye wabantu abafuna utshintsho ebomini babo kodwa ohlala esenza into enye ... ucinga ukuba uza kufumana iziphumo ezahlukeneyo? Akukho nto malunga ... awuyi kuba neziphumo ezitsha kwaye ubomi bakho buya kuqhubeka ngokufanayo. Abantu ngokubanzi abanabuganga bokwenza izigqibo kwaye kuncinci xa kuza okulandelayo kunokuba nzima okanye ukungaqiniseki, kodwa ukuba ungomnye wabantu abenza izigqibo kwaye batshintsha ithamsanqa labo ukuba libe ngcono, ke ubomi bakho buza kuthatha ikhondo elitsha nelingcono.
Uloyiko
Indawo yokuthuthuzela yindawo apho uziva ukhululekile, apho kungekho tshintsho kwaye apho kungekho nto intsha eyenzekileyo. Ukuze uqhubele phambili kuya kufuneka ushiye eyakho indawo yokuthuthuzela kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, yazi ukuba ebomini kuyakufuneka ujongane noloyiko amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuze ukwazi ukufunda izinto ezintsha okanye ubuncinci, ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubela phambili okanye ukukhangela le mpumelelo uyikhangelayo kodwa ungoyiki ukuyifumana ngenxa yokuba uloyiko lukhubazeka ngakumbi kunokuba ubungathanda.
Kwindawo yokuthuthuzela ulungile, ukhululekile, akukho mntu okanye akukho nto ikukhathazayo ... kodwa uyazi ukuba ngokwenyani umile kwaye ukuba uyaqhubeka apho, ngekhe ukwazi ukufezekisa amaphupha akho. Uloyiko lotshintsho yinto eyenzeka rhoqo kubomi babantu, ke ayinguwe wedwa umntu emhlabeni onengxaki yezi mvakalelo zinamandla.
Uloyiko lotshintsho lunokulunga kwezinye iimeko, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba luyakukhubaza, luyakuthintela ukuba uqhubele phambili. Uloyiko lunokukunceda uziqhelanise neemeko ezintsha, kodwa kufuneka ulumke xa usenza esona sigqibo sihle ... Oko kukuthi, utshintsho lunokuhamba nemingcipheko, kodwa ukuba ulumke kakhulu ngekhe ubutshintshe ubomi bakho kwaye uyakuhlala unje.
Ukuba uhlala ubona utshintsho njengomngcipheko endaweni yethuba, uloyiko aluyi kukuvumela ukuba utsibe imiqobo enokukunceda uye phambili ebomini bakho. Ukuqhubela phambili kubalulekile ukuba ujongane nokungaziwayo kwaye uphume kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela.
Shiya indawo yo thuzelo
Sele uyazi ukuba kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela uya kuziva ukhuselekile kuba uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kuloo ndawo. Inokuba yindawo yomzimba okanye yengqondo, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ikunika imeko yokhuseleko kunye nokuthuthuzeleka kwengqondo, nangona oko kungasoloko kuthetha impilo yomzimba. Ukuba kwindawo yentuthuzelo akukubi ngokwakho, kodwa kunokuba kubi ukuba uhlala kuyo ixesha elide okanye ukuba kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela ayiloncedo kuphuhliso lwakho.
Kuya kuba yimfuneko ukuba uphume kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kwaye kuqala kuya kufuneka uyicingisise le nto, ngaba ukwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela ngaphandle komkhwa okanye ngenxa yemfuneko? Ngaba uyoyika, ngaba ukhululekile, okanye ufuna nje ukuziva ukhuselekile? Ukuba awuzenzi utshintsho ebomini bakho kubonakala ngathi umngcipheko uyaphela, kodwa ngokwenyani kuphela bahlala befihlekile ngelixa ungaqhubeki nokukhula kwaye awufezekisi olo lonwabo kuba usoyika ukulufikelela.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuthatha umngcipheko nokujongana noko ubukoyika ekuqaleni kuyakwenza umahluko omkhulu ebomini bakho. Kuqala kungabonakala kunzima okanye kuyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha uyakuqonda ukuba sesona sigqibo sibalaseleyo ubukhe wakwazi ukusenza. Kungenxa yokuba nantoni na, ukuba ihamba kakuhle ... iya kuba yinto elungileyo kwaye ukuba iyonakala, nayo! Kuba uya kuba nokufunda okuninzi kwaye uya kuyazi indlela oza kwenza ngayo kwixesha elizayo ukuze ungangeni kwiimpazamo ezifanayo.
Utshintsho alusoloko lubi
Cinga: Yeyiphi eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka? Mhlawumbi ukhe wawalahla amathuba ukuze uphephe ukuthatha umngcipheko wokucinga ukuba into embi inokwenzeka, kodwa kuya kuthini ukuba kwenzeka ntoni? Ngokutshintsha loo nto ujolise kuyo, unokutshintsha ubomi bakho bonke. Ngamanye amaxesha unokwenza izigqibo zokungaphumi kwimeko oziva ulungile kuyo, kwaye ukhetha ukuba kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kunokuba ujongane neziphumo ezibi zolu tshintsho ... Ukushiya bucala konke okuhle ekunokukubonelela ngako.
Xa konke oku kusenzeka, uyakube ulushiya bucala ulonwabo lwakho ecaleni, kuba awuyi kuzixolela ngokuba "uligwala kangaka" kwaye ungathathanga inyathelo eliya phambili lokufumana olo tshintsho oluza kukuhambela kakuhle kwixesha elizayo.
Ubomi butshintsha rhoqo
Kuyimfuneko ukuba wazi ukuba ubomi buhlala butshintsha kwaye awunakukuphepha. Ukuba ufuna ukukhula ngokobuqu kuya kufuneka wenze izigqibo kwaye uthathe umngcipheko bobabini, ngokomsebenzi, njengesibini, kusapho ...
Utshintsho lunokukoyikisa ngenxa yokuba luza kunye nokungaqiniseki, kwaye olovakalelo alumnandi. Kodwa cinga ukuba mhlawumbi kulungile kwaye ezo ziphumo zingalunganga onazo engqondweni yakho, ngokulula ... azenzeki. Kukho amaxesha ebomini apho kuye kufuneke uthathe umngcipheko othile ukuze uqhubele phambili kwaye uthathe la mathuba athiwa thaca kuwe phantse ungaqondanga. Kwaye ukuba la mathuba awaziswanga kuwe kodwa ufuna ukuba yenzeke ... kuya kufuneka uphume kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela uyile!
Iyakhula!
Ngale nto asithethi ukuba uthatha yonke imingcipheko eza kwindlela yakho ebomini, kude nayo! Kodwa inobunzima kunye nobubi kwimeko nganye ukuze ukwazi ukukhetha loo mathuba, nangona utshintsho lukhona ebomini bakho, Iziphumo ezinokubakho ezinokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwindlela yakho.
Landela ubume bakho ukuze uvelise utshintsho, kuba ukuba wenza izigqibo ngentliziyo yakho, nokuba zizigqibo ezingalunganga, enyanisweni, ngekhe ube uphosakele ... Uya kuhlala ukhula kwaye uziphuhlise.