Abazali abanengxaki yokuxhalaba ekuhlaleni Banokwenzeka ngakumbi kunabazali abanezinye iindlela zoxinzelelo lokuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni kwabantwana babo kwaye bababeka emngciphekweni omkhulu wokuphuhlisa uloyiko lwentlalo, ngokophando olwenziwe kwiZiko laBantwana iJohn Hopkins.
Ukuxhalaba kwabazali kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo lwabantwana kodwa bekungacaci nokuba Abantu abaneengxaki ezithile zoxinzelelo babangela okanye bakhuthaze indlela yokuziphatha ebangela uxinzelelo kubantwana babo. Olu pho nonongo luqinisekisa okugqibela.
Ngokukodwa, abaphandi kwiZiko laBantwana likaJohn Hopkins bachonge iindlela zokuziphatha kubazali abanengxaki yokuxhalaba ekuhlaleni (olona hlobo luxhalabileyo) Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zibandakanya ukunqongophala okanye ukungoneli kothando kunye namanqanaba aphezulu okugxeka kunye namathandabuzo ayenzelwe umntwana. Ukuziphatha okunjalo, ngokutsho kwabaphandi, kuyaziwa ngokunyusa uxinzelelo ebantwaneni kwaye kungakhokelela ekubeni abantwana bakhule babe noxinzelelo olupheleleyo, abaphandi bathi.
«Uxinzelelo lwabazali kwezentlalo kufuneka luqwalaselwe umngcipheko wexhala labantwana, kwaye oogqirha abakhathalela abazali abanesi sifo kufuneka baxoxe ngomngcipheko nezigulana zabo. "Utshilo omnye wabaphandi.
Ixhala sisiphumo sonxibelelwano oluntsonkothileyo phakathi kofuzo kunye nokusingqongileyobatsho abaphandi, kwaye nangona kungekho nto ingako inokwenziwa kwicandelo lemfuza, ukulawula izinto zangaphandle kunokuba yinto ephambili ekudambiseni okanye ekuthinteleni unxunguphalo kubantwana babazali abaxhalabileyo.
“Abantwana abanelifa lokuthakazelelwa abanalo nje kuba nexhala ngenxa yemfuza, ngoko into esiyifunayo ziindlela zokwenza oko vimba iimeko zokusingqongileyo (kule meko, isimilo sabazali) »Utshilo omnye wabaphandi.
Abaphandi bahlalutye unxibelelwano phakathi kwabazali abangama-66 abaxhalabileyo kunye nabantwana babo abangama-66 (phakathi kweminyaka esi-7 neli-12 ubudala). Phakathi kwabazali, i-21 ngaphambili yayifumene ukuba noxinzelelo lwasentlalweni, kwaye i-45 yafunyaniswa inenye ingxaki yoxinzelelo, kubandakanya ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo ngokubanzi, ukuphazamiseka kovalo, kunye nokuphazamiseka okungafunekiyo.
Iibini zomzali nomntwana bacelwe ukuba basebenze kunye kwimisebenzi emibini: lungiselela iintetho malunga neziqu zabo kwaye baphindaphinde uyilo oluntsonkothileyo besebenzisa isixhobo sokurekhoda TeleSketch. Abathathi-nxaxheba banikwe imizuzu emi-5 ngomsebenzi ngamnye kwaye basebenza kumagumbi abekwe iliso kwikhamera.
Sebenzisa isikali sika-1 ukuya ku-5, Abaphandi balinganisile uthando okanye ukugxeka umntwana, ukubonakalisa ukuthandabuza malunga nokusebenza kwabo, ukukwazi kwabo ukuwugqiba umsebenzi, ukunikwa kwenkululeko kunye negunya labazali kulawulo.
Abazali bafumanisa ukuba banexhala eluntwini Babonakalise uthando oluncinci nothando kubantwana babo, babagxeka ngakumbi kwaye banamathandabuzo ngakumbi malunga nokukwazi komntwana ukwenza lo msebenzi.
Ukuthintela uxinzelelo ebuntwaneni kubalulekile ngenxa yokuba iingxaki zokuxhalaba zichaphazela umntwana om-1 kwaba-5 eUnited States, kodwa ngokufuthi angabonakali, abaphandi bathi. Ukulibaziseka ekufumaneni isifo kunye nonyango kunokukhokelela ekusetyenzisweni gwenxa kweziyobisi, uxinzelelo, kunye nokusebenza gwenxa kwezifundo ngexesha lobuntwana kunye nokuba mdala.
Abazali abanesifo sokuchaphazeleka koxinzelelo lwasentlalweni babonisa uthando oluncinci nothando ebantwaneni babo, babagxeka ngakumbi kwaye banamathandabuzo malunga nokukwazi komntwana ukwenza lo msebenzi.