Indlela Yokuchonga kwaye Ukoyise I-Toxic Perfectionism

  • I-Toxic perfectionism ichaphazela ukuzithemba kwaye yenza ixhala kunye neengxaki kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu.
  • Kubalulekile ukwahlula phakathi kokusukela ukugqwesa kunye nokuthanda izinto eziyityhefu ngokugqibeleleyo.
  • Ukwamkela amacebo afana nokwamkela iimpazamo, ukubeka usukelo olusengqiqweni, kunye nokucela uncedo kunceda ukoyisa ukugqibelela okuyingozi.

imfezeko eyityhefu kunye nendlela yokoyisa

Sihlala kwi uluntu lwanamhlanje esoloko iphakamisa amanqanaba emfuno. Le meko-bume yokhuphiswano isiqhubela ekubeni senze konke okusemandleni ethu, enoba kukufuna ukugqama okanye ukuhambisana. Nangona kunjalo, olu xinzelelo lunokuba likrele elintlangothi-mbini, ngakumbi xa lifakwe ngaphakathi ngokugqithisileyo, libe yi- ukugqibelela okuyityhefu. Olu hlobo lokulindela ukugqibelela alujongeli phantsi nje kuphela ukuzithemba, kodwa ikwachaphazela i ubuhlobo bomntu, ukusebenza komsebenzi kwaye kuvelise iimvakalelo ezinzulu zokunganeliseki.

Ukufuna ukugqibelela kolona hlobo luyityhefu kukhokelela ekubeni siphile phantsi kokuzigxeka rhoqo kunye noloyiko lokusilela. Oku kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki ezifana uxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka kunye nobudlelwane obuyingozi phakathi kwabantu. Nangona ukuzabalazela ukubalasela kuliphawu, ukucinga ngemfezeko kunokuba sisifo sengqondo esiphazamisa impilo yethu yeemvakalelo neyengqondo.

Incwadi ethi "Xa usenza kakuhle akwanelanga" Ingena kule nto kwaye yahlulwe yangamacandelo amane asikhokele ukuba siqonde kwaye soyise le ngxaki.

Umxholo wencwadi

  • Inxalenye yokuqala: Ichaza ukuba yintoni na into yokufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo, imiba yayo emihle kunye nendlela enokukhokelela ngayo ekuzicingeni nasekuphulukaneni nokuzithemba. Ngaphezu koko, ihlela ubuntu obugqibeleleyo kwiindidi ezimbini eziphambili: "okugqithisayo" kunye "nokwakha."
  • Inxalenye yesibini: Uphonononga iinkolelo eziphosakeleyo nezingekho ngqiqweni abadla ngokuba nazo abantu abafuna imfezeko eyityhefu, ebonisa indlela ezi zigqwetha ngayo iimbono zabo.
  • Inxalenye yesithathu: Inika iinkcukacha ngendlela ityhefu yokugqibelela echaphazela ngayo iindawo eziphambili zobomi ezinjengosapho kunye nomsebenzi, kwaye inxulumanisa le ndlela yokuziphatha kunye neengxaki ezinje ngoxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba.
  • Inxalenye yesine: Inika izixhobo ezisebenzayo zokwamkela ukugqibelela okunempilo, okukuvumela ukuba ufumane ibhalansi phakathi kokuphishekela iinjongo kunye nokwamkelwa kokungafezeki kwabantu.

uphononongo olunobuthi olugqibeleleyo

Indlela yokuchonga ukugqibelela okuyityhefu?

I-Toxic perfectionism ixhaphake kakhulu kunokuba ibonakala kwaye inokuchongwa ngezi mpawu zilandelayo:

  • Ukuzifuna ngokungalinganiyo: Zibekele imigangatho engenakwenzeka kwaye uzigxeke ngokuqatha ngokungafezeki.
  • Ukuzibekela amangomso izinto: Ukulibazisa imisebenzi ngenxa yokoyika ukungaphumeleli okanye ukuba umphumo awuyi kufezeka.
  • Ukunqongophala kokuguquguquka: Jonga umhlaba omnyama nomhlophe, ngaphandle kokwamkela umhlaba ophakathi.
  • Ukungakwazi ukonwabela impumelelo: Uhlala uziva ngathi "into ebinokwenziwa ngcono."
  • Ukoyika ukugxekwa: Ukuba ne-hypersensitive kwizimvo zabanye abantu.

Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha azichaphazeli kuphela umntu ohluphekayo kodwa kunye nabathandekayo babo. ubudlelwane obunxulumene nabanye, ekubeni ngokuqhelekileyo ufuna kwabanye inqanaba lemfezeko efana naleyo ayifunayo kuye, ukuvelisa intsapho, umsebenzi kunye neengxabano zentlalo.

Idatha yezobugcisa

  • Umshicileli: Urano
  • Inani lamaphepha: 216
  • Ukubopha: softcover
  • ISBN: 9788479537364
  • Unyaka wokukhutshwa: 2010
  • Ixabiso: i-13 euro

Izitshixo zokoyisa ukuthanda ukugqibelela okuyityhefu

Thatha indlela enempilo yethu iinjongo Kuyenzeka ngezenzo ezihambelanayo ezikuvumela ukuba uqhekeze iipatheni ze-toxic perfectionism. Nazi izicwangciso eziluncedo:

  1. Kwamkele ukungafezeki kwakho: Ukuqonda ukuba imfezeko ayinakufikelelwa linyathelo lokuqala. Funda ukuzixabisa ngemigudu oye wayenza, kungekuphela nje ngenxa yeziphumo ezifunyenweyo.
  2. Zibekele usukelo olusengqiqweni: Yahlula iinjongo ezinkulu zibe zincinci, iinjongo ezinokufikelelwa. Bhiyozela yonke inkqubela phambili, nokuba incinci kangakanani na.
  3. Musa ukoyika ukwenza iimpazamo: Yonke impazamo iza nesifundo esibalulekileyo. Ukubona ukusilela njengamathuba okufunda ngundoqo ekukhuleni komntu.
  4. Cela uncedo xa lufuneka: Ukuqonda ukuba akuyomfuneko ukuba wenze yonke into ngokwakho kuluphawu lobulumko. Ukwabela abanye umsebenzi kunokuwenza lula umthwalo kwaye kunikeze iimbono ezintsha.

imfezeko eyityhefu kunye nendlela yokoyisa

I-Toxic perfectionism inokukulawula, kodwa akufuneki ikuchaze. Yamkela ingqondo ebhetyebhetye kwaye ufunde ukwamkela ukungafezeki Njengenxalenye yenkqubo yomntu linyathelo elikhulu eliya kuxolo lwengqondo. Olu tshintsho aluyi kukuvumela ukuba ukhule njengomntu, kodwa luya kuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho nabanye, kukunceda ufezekise ibhalansi kunye nentlalo-ntle oyilangazelelayo.


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