Ngaphambi kokuba ubone ezi zinto zilishumi zimangalisayo ziya kwenzeka kwakamsinya nje xa uyeka ukukhathazeka malunga nokuba abanye bacinga ntoni, mandikubonise ividiyo eza kukwenza ucinge kakhulu. Ibizwa ngokuba sisihloko "Ukuba ungalitshintsha nje libe linye ilungu lomzimba - ungatshintsha ntoni?"
Le vidiyo isifundisa ukuba kufuneka sizamkele njengoko sinjalo, kunye nokulunga kwethu kunye neziphene zethu. Ukuba kuphela u siyazithanda, siya kuba namathuba amaninzi okwamkelwa ngokufanelekileyo ngabanye:
Ngamanye amaxesha sixhomekeke kakhulu koko abanye bakucingayoUkuba zimbi, mhlawumbi asinakukwazi ukugxila kuyo nayiphi na enye into.
Saqeqeshelwa ukukholisa: Abantu abaninzi bakhula bezama “ukulunga,” kungekhona ukuba yinkathazo, nokugcina uxolo. Oku kukhokelela kwi abantu abathandanayo, umzekelo ofuna ukulawula indlela abanye abantu abasabela ngayo ukuze bazive bekhuselekile. Nangona kunjalo, umntu ngamnye unento yakhe imbali, iimfuno, iinkolelo, ixabiso kunye neenjongo ngayo yonke intsebenziswano; yiyo loo nto wonke umntu egcina inguqulelo yakho eyahlukileyo engqondweni yakhe. Awukwazi (kwaye akufanele) uyilawule.
Inkululeko iza xa utshintshe ugxininiso lwakho indawo yangaphakathi yolawulo: Gxila kwinto engaphakathi kolawulo lwakho. Le ndlela yokucinga inciphisa uloyiko lokugxekwa, iphucula inkuthazo, yenza kube lula ukubeka imida enempilo kwaye ikuvumela ukuba uzibonise ngokunyanisekileyo ngakumbi. Chonga izixhokonxa (umzekelo, ukusetyenziswa kweintanethi zentlalo ekumema ukuba uthelekise) kwaye uziqhelanise ingqalelo epheleleyo okanye ukwalathisa ingqalelo yakho kwisenzo (iiprojekthi, ukuhamba, izenzo zobubele) someleza eso siseko.
Yiyo loo nto siye saqulunqa Izinto ze-10 oko kuya kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyeke ukuzikhathaza ngento ecingwa ngabanye abantu.
1) Awuyi kuziva unyanzelekile ukuba utshintshe nantoni na ngawe malunga nezimvo zabanye abantu
Uya kuziva ukhululeke ngokwenene. Ungaba ngubani na ofuna ngaphandle koloyiko lokugwetywa. Uzibandakanye nabantu abakuqonda ngokwenene, kwaye wonwabe ngakumbi ngenxa yoko. Ngokuyeka ukukholisa ngokucwangcisiweyo, ufumana kwakhona amandla okwenza isigqibo izenzo zakho ngokweenqobo zakho kwaye hayi ngokolindelo lwangaphandle, kwaye oko kukwenza ubambene kwaye uzolile.
2) Uya kuchitha amandla amancinci
Siza kuchitha amandla amancinci sigxile kwinto ethethwa ngabanye kwaye sibe namandla akhoyo okudala ubuhlobo obutsha. Ukongeza, uya kukhulula isidingo sokulawula lonke uhlobo lwakho abanye abanalo ngawe; ukuba ukuncama kuzisa ukukhululeka kwengqondo kwaye kukushiya ufutha oko kubalulekileyo: iinjongo zakho kunye nempilo yakho.
3) Uya kuba nomtsalane ngakumbi
Ngokungabi neengcinga ezingalunganga ezikumiselayo, uyakuqala ukuziva unomtsalane ngakumbi. Oko kuzithemba kuya kukunika isibheno esingenakuthelekiswa nanto. Ukufunda ukungamameli izimvo ezingakhiyo kubalulekile ukuze sizive ngcono ngeziqu zethu. Ubunyani buvelisa ithemba kunye noqhagamshelwano, into abanye abantu abayibona ngokuzenzekelayo baze bayixabise.
4) Uyakukwazi ukutsala abantu abakulungeleyo ... kwaye ugxothe abo bangakulungelanga.
Ngale ndlela isangqa sakho sabahlobo siya kwenziwa ngabantu abafuna ngokwenene ukuba secaleni kwakho kwaye owaziyo ukuba unokubathemba. Ngemida eqinileyo kunye a indawo yangaphakathi yolawulo okuqinileyo, kulula ukuthi hayi kwiiflegi ezibomvu kwaye wenze indawo enempilo, ubudlelwane obunentlonipho.
5) Uya kuzikholisa endaweni yomntu wonke
Uyayazi into oyifunayo kwaye uza kuyifumana njani. Anifuni ukukholisa abantu; ufuna ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho. Iimbono zabanye azisakuphembeleli konke konke; ngoku, uphenjelelwa kuphela yinto oyicingayo. Olu lwazi luyakunceda beka izinto ezibalulekileyo kwindawo yokuqala, hlala usendleleni uze ulinganise inkqubela yakho ngokwemilinganiselo yakho, kungekhona ngokuqhwaba izandla zabanye abantu.
6) Uya kuziva ukhululekile
Kufana nokuba nomthwalo omkhulu wothulwe emagxeni akho. Ngoku uyakwazi ukucinga kwaye uthethe nantoni na oyifunayo. Ubagxothile abantu abangakuxabisiyo kwaye utsale abo ubathandayo. Ngoku unokuba yile nto ubusoloko ufuna ukuba yiyo. Ziqhelise ingqalelo epheleleyo kwaye ukubuyisela ugxininiso lwakho kwisenzo kunciphisa ukuduma kwaye kukubuyisela ubukho bakho.
7) Uya kuqala ukonwabela ukuhlangana nabanye
Ngaphambili, xa ubugxile kuphela kwizimvo zabanye abantu, ubungenako ukuzonwabela iimeko. Ngoku ukuba awusayi kubakhathalela, yonke imeko ithatha incasa entsha. Ngokusebenza kwi ububele (ukuba nobubele ngaphandle kokulindela ukuqinisekiswa) kwehlisa ixhala lentlalo kwaye kwandisa ukuzenzela.
8) Uya kufunda ukuzithemba ngakumbi
Ngoku uyawathemba amathuku akho, kwaye wonwabe ngakumbi ngenxa yoko. Akukho mntu unokugungqisa loo ntembelo intsha uyifumeneyo kwakhona. Hlakulela isazisi sakho ngeenjongo zakho, jonga imisebenzi emitsha, kunye ukuqaphela amandla akho, yomeleza loo mpumelelo.
9) Abantu baya kuziva bekhululekile xa bekunye nawe
Ngoku njengoko uziva ukhululekile, abantu abakungqongileyo baya kuziva bekhululekile nabo. Uya kukhululeka kwaye unokuthatha ubuhlobo bakho bubase kwinqanaba elitsha. Xa uyamkela loo nto "Ukwenzakalisa abantu benzakalisa abantu", uyeka ukuthatha izinto zabanye abantu kwaye uphendule ngemida kunye novelwano, kungekhona ukukhusela.
10) Uyekile ngokungazi ukuba unomdla malunga nokuba abanye bacinga ntoni
Ngoku uvula indlela entsha yamathuba. Oko abanye bakucingayo akusakuchaphazeli; kuphela into ocinga ukuba ibalulekile. Ukusuka apho, iingenelo ezisebenzayo ziyatyatyamba: inkuthazo engaphezulu, imikhwa engaguqukiyo, ubuhlobo obusemgangathweni, kunye nokusebenza ngcono emsebenzini ngokuzibonakalisa njengoko unjalo.
Indlela yokudibanisa olu tshintsho kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla
Yomeleza ugxininiso lwakho ngezixhasi ezintathu: 1) Enye-igxile: yenza ngobubele kuba ixabisekile ngokwayo. 2) Atención: Ziqhelise ukuqaphela okanye uthathe inyathelo ukwalathisa ugxininiso lwakho. 3) Imida: Chonga izinto ezibangela (umzekelo, uthungelwano) kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba uziveze nini okanye wenze a i-detox yedijithaliZijikeleze ngabantu abaxhasayo, zibekele iinjongo, kwaye ubhiyozele inkqubela phambili, nokuba incinci kangakanani na.
Nika ubunzima obuncinci "kwinto abantu abaza kuyithetha" Ayikwahluli; ikunika umva amandla okukhetha ngokuzolileyo, ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obunyanisekileyo, kwaye uqhubele phambili ngenjongo. Oko kudibaniswa kokuzola kunye nokunyaniseka Ngumhlaba ochumileyo apho impilo yakho kunye neziphumo zikhula ngokuzinzileyo.