Abantu abaninzi bakoyika ngokunzulu ukufa. Nangona kunjalo, kuninzi, kuyoyikeka ngakumbi ukuphulukana ne ukuthandwa abaye babelana nabo amashumi eminyaka obomi. Ukuchitha iminyaka engama-20, engama-30, engama-40 okanye engama-50 nomntu kwaye uvuke ngenye imini ufumanise ukuba abasayi kuphinda babe secaleni kwakho yinyani ebuhlungu abantu abaninzi abajongana nayo kwaye enokoyikwa ngakumbi kunombono wokufa uqobo. .
Ukujongana nelahleko kunokukhokelela kwintlungu engathethekiyo. kodwa ekuphela kwendlela yokuwoyisa kukuqhubeka usiya phambili. Nangona kunzima, inkqubo yokuba buhlungu isifundisa ukuba ukungqengqa ebhedini ukulila imihla ngemihla akusombululi nto; Kuyimfuneko ukuqhubeka nobomi kwaye ufunde ukuhlala nokungabikho.
Ukomelela njengeNdlela yokuhlangabezana nelahleko
Ukomelela kukukwazi kwethu ukuziqhelanisa nokoyisa iimeko ezinzima. Xa sijongene nokulahlekelwa ngumntu esimthandayo, sijamelana nenkqubo yeemvakalelo eyahluka ngokwexesha kunye nobunzulu bomntu ngamnye. Obu buchule abupheleli nje ekusincedeni siqhubeke, kodwa bukwasifundisa ukuliqonda ixabiso loko siphulukene nako.
Amanxeba oMphefumlo: Ubungqina bothando
"Izibonda zam zibubungqina bothando kunye nobudlelwane endinabo naloo mntu. Ukuba isiva sinzulu kakhulu, kungenxa yokuba uthando lwalulukhulu kakhulu..
Obu bungqina buchukumisayo obuvela kwindoda esele ikhulile Isikhumbuza ukuba amanxeba angokweemvakalelo yimbonakaliso yamaqhina abalulekileyo ebomini bethu. Ezi "zibazi zomphefumlo" azibonisi nje intlungu yethu, kodwa kunye nobunzulu bothando lwethu kwabo bafayo.
Izicubu ezibomvu, nangona zingayithathi indawo ebilahlekile, Inokuba sisikhumbuzo sokuba siyakwazi ukuthanda ngokunzulu kwaye, ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukuphilisa. Luvavanyo lwamandla ethu eemvakalelo namandla ethu okuqhubeka siphila nothando, nasemva kokulahlekelwa okukhulu.
Intlungu Njengenkqubo Yobuqu
Intlungu yinkqubo ekhethekileyo kunye nomntu ngamnye. Nangona kukho izigaba ezamkelekileyo (ezifana nokukhanyela, umsindo, ukuxoxisana, ukudakumba kunye nokwamkelwa), umntu ngamnye ufumana indlela yakhe. Ukwamkela kunye nokucubungula le ntlungu kubalulekile ukuqhubela phambili.
Kwabanye abantu, ukukhumbula umntu omthandayo kunokuba luncedo olukhulu. Ukutyala umthi kwinkumbulo yakhe, ukugcina ifoto ibonakala okanye ukwenza imisebenzi ebeniyinandipha kunye ziindlela zokugcina ubukho bakhe buphila ezintliziyweni zethu.
Amaza Eentlungu: Indlela Yokujongana Nawo?
Intlungu esiba nayo xa sifelwe idla ngokufana namaza olwandle. Ekuqaleni, loo maza makhulu, amalunga neemitha ezingama-20 ukuphakama, yaye ayesoloko esibetha, engasiniki kuphumla. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, siqhubeka nokujongana nala maza, kodwa ngamaxesha amade phakathi kwawo.
Akukho mntu uyaziyo ukuba yintoni eya kubangela la maza: Ingoma, ifoto, ivumba, okanye indawo inokusibuyisela kulwandle lwenkumbulo. Nangona kunjalo, ubukhulu bamaza buyancipha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kancinci kancinci, ziba ziinkumbulo ezisidibanisa nothando esabelana ngalo kwaye, ngendlela yazo, zisinika amandla okuqhubela phambili.
Indlela yokuqhubela phambili Inyathelo ngenyathelo
Nangona inkqubo yokoyisa ilahleko yahlukile kumntu ngamnye, Amacebo athile anokukunceda umelane noku:
- Zivumele uzive: Qaphela iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uzivumele ukuba zihambe. Ukukhala yinxalenye yenkqubo yokuphilisa yendalo.
- Thetha kwaye wabelane: Thetha nabahlobo, usapho, okanye ingcali ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ukuthetha ngesalamane sakho esilahlekileyo kunokukuzisela intuthuzelo.
- Fumana injongo: Yenza imisebenzi eya kukunceda uqhubele phambili, njengokuthatha inxaxheba kumsebenzi wokuzithandela, ukuziqhelanisa nokuzonwabisa, okanye ukunyamekela abanye.
- Amasiko kunye nezikhumbuzo: Ukwenza amasiko kunokukunceda ugcine inkumbulo yomntu omthandayo.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, izibazi zomphefumlo ezishiywe yilahleko ziba yinxalenye yebali lethu, ubungqina bokuba sithanda ngokunzulu kwaye sakwazi ukuphilisa. Nangona le nkqubo inzima, ikwalithuba lokufunda nokukhula ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukujongana nentlungu kuthetha ukukhumbula, ukuhlonipha, kunye nokuqhubela phambili. Uthando owabelane ngalo nomntu omthandayo luya kuhlala lunawe, lukubonisa ukuba nasebunzimeni, siyakwazi ukufumana amandla okuqhubela phambili.