Sonke sinomlinganiswa owahlukileyo, osichaza njengabantu abahlukileyo kwaye onokuthi ubunjwe ngamava aphile ixesha elingaphezulu. Inokuba nesimilo esomeleleyo okanye esilula, kodwa yintoni eqinisekileyo kukuba isimilo esinaso sisenza sahluke kwihlabathi.
Emva koko sifuna ukuthetha malunga nezo zinto zinokukwenza ube nomlinganiswa olungileyo. Ngale ndlela, ngokwazi ukuba zeziphi iimpawu, uya kuba nakho ukusebenza kumlinganiswa wakho ukuba kukho imfuneko yokuwubumba kwaye ube ngumntu odibanisa ngokwakho kunye nabanye.
Yintoni elungileyo isimilo
Ngaba unazo ezi mpawu kumlinganiswa wakho? Ngaba ucinga ukuba ungabuphucula ubuntu bakho? Uhlobo oluhle lubandakanya iimpawu ezifana nokunyaniseka, ukuthembeka, isibindi, ingqibelelo, ukomelela, kunye nezinye iimpawu ezintle ezikhuthaza isimilo esihle.
Umntu onesimilo esihle ukhetha ukwenza into elungileyo ngenxa yokuba ekholelwa ukuba kufanelekile ngokwenjenjalo. Olunye uphawu lweempawu ezintle alunanto yakwenza nokuziphatha, kodwa zichaze uphawu lomntu. Umzekelo, Ukuqina okanye ukuyila kunokuba ziimpawu ezibalaseleyo kodwa ayizizo iindlela zokuziphatha.
Xa umntu enobuntu obuhle, kuboniswa ngamazwi nangezenzo zabo. Ayikhawulelwanga kwixabiso elinye, kodwa iimpawu ziboniswa kukhetho "olulungileyo" abalwenzayo kunye nokukhetha "okubi" abakuphephayo.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba nesimilo esihle?
Ngokomlando-mbali uWarren Susman, ukusetyenziswa kwebinzana elithi "umlingiswa olungileyo" kwanda ngenkulungwane ye-XNUMX. "Uphawu yayiligama eliphambili kwisigama sesiNgesi nesiMelika", USusman uthi, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kuluntu yaphakanyiswa njengenxalenye ebalulekileyo yesazisi.
Izinto zaqala ukutshintsha kwinkulungwane yama-XNUMX, njengoko sasisiya kuluntu oluvelisa imveliso saya kokutya kakhulu. Ugxininiso luyekwe kugxilwe kubuhle nasekulungeni kugxilwe kwisiqu sakho nakwizinto eziphathekayo. USusman uthi: "Umbono wokuzincama waqala ukunika indlela yokuziqonda ngokwakho."
Kwakubaluleke ngakumbi ukuhlakulela iimpawu zobuntu, impembelelo, kunye nembono yangaphandle kunokukhulisa ubungangamsha bentliziyo, ingqondo nezenzo. Ngapha koko, u-Abraham Lincoln ngekhe anyulwe abe ngumongameli namhlanje. Kule minyaka yobundlongondlongo kunye nokungavisisani kwezopolitiko, iimpawu ezintle zibonakala ziphulukana nokubaluleka kwazo.
Ngaba ukukhula kweempawu zakho zokulunga kunye nokuziphatha okuhle kuphelelwe lixesha kwaye kulilize kwaye kulilize ngexabiso elincinci kuluntu lwanamhlanje? Akuthathi amava amaninzi obomi ukufumanisa ukuba zibaluleke kangakanani iimpawu zokuthembeka xa kufikwa kumba wokuzithemba, ubudlelwane kunye nolwaneliseko lobomi.
Ezinye zeempawu zesimilo esihle ziya kuba zezi zilandelayo:
- Inceda ukwakha intlonipho kunye nentembeko kwabanye.
- Khuthaza kwaye ukhuthaze uphawu olungcono kwabanye.
- Yakha ukuzithemba nokuzithemba.
- Ukubonelela ngesakhelo sokwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo kunye nokukhetha.
- Bonakalisa iimpawu zobunkokeli kwimizamo yobuqu neyobugcisa.
- Ukongeza, isidima somntu sisitshixo kuluntu olusempilweni nolusebenzayo.
Nangona isenokungabi luphando oluthandwayoUkuphuhlisa ezi mpawu zibalulekileyo zomlinganiso yenye yezona zinto zanelisayo kunye neemvakalelo ezikrelekrele oya kuze uzenze. Umlinganiswa olungileyo umalunga nokuchaza amaxabiso kunye nokunyaniseka okusekwe kwimigaqo evavanywe ngexesha kunye nokuzibonakalisa kwakho kunye nokuba nesibindi sokuphila ubomi bakho ngokufanelekileyo. Ke uqala njani ukuphucula ngokwakho?
Iimpawu ezintle zomntu
Apha ngezantsi uyakufumana olona hlobo lweempawu zixhaphakileyo ukuze uqale ukuphucula ubomi bakho.
- Ingqibelelo. Imfezeko luphawu lomntu olunemigaqo yokuziphatha eyomeleleyo kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni kwaye emva koko zikhokele ubomi bakho kunye nazo njengesikhokelo sakho.
- Ukunyaniseka Ukunyaniseka luphawu oluhle olungaphaya kokuthetha inyani. Kuphila inyani. Ithe ngqo kwaye ithembekile kulo lonke unxibelelwano, ubudlelwane kunye neengcinga. Ukunyaniseka kufuna ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka.
- Ukunyaniseka. Ukunyaniseka luphawu lokuziphatha nokunyaniseka kubantu obathandayo, kubahlobo bakho, nakubani na onolwalamano naye.
- Ndiyahlonipha. Ngolu phawu lwesimilo, uziphatha wena kunye nabanye ngentlonipho, ububele, inkcaso, isidima kunye nembeko. Nika imbeko esisiseko njengophawu lokuxabiseka kwakho kubo bonke abantu kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukwamkela iziphene esinazo sonke.
- Uxanduva Lo mgangatho ubalaseleyo wamkela uxanduva lomntu, olunxulumene noluntu, olunobungcali, oluntu kunye noluntu, nokuba kunzima okanye kunzima. Olu phawu lobuqu luzalisekisa ukuzibophelela kwaye lwenza okanye lwamkele uxanduva ngokuziphatha kwabo nokukhetha kwabo.
- Ukuthobeka Awuziboni "ulunge kakhulu" kwabanye abantu okanye kwiimeko. Ngolu phawu lubekekileyo, unengqondo yokufunda nokukhula kunye nomnqweno wokuvakalisa kunye namava ombulelo ngento onayo, kunokuba ulindele ukuba ufaneleke ngakumbi.
- Imfesane. Lo mzekelo weempawu zobuntu unovelwano olunzulu kunye nosizi ngokubandezeleka kunye nelishwa labanye, kwaye unomnqweno wokwenza okuthile ukunciphisa ukubandezeleka kwabo.
- Ubulungisa. Sebenzisa ukuqonda, uvelwano, kunye nengqibelelo, olu phawu lomlinganiswa luzama ukwenza izigqibo kwaye luthathe inyathelo ngokusekwe kwinto elithatha elona khondo lilungileyo okanye umphumo kubo bonke ababandakanyekayo.
- Uxolelo. Wenza izigqibo ezizizo nezinjongo zokubeka ecaleni ingqumbo kunye nomsindo emntwini ngenxa yolwaphulo-mthetho, nokuba umoni ufuna ukuxolelwa. Uxolelo lunokubandakanya okanye lungabandakanyi uxolelo, ukubuyiselwa, okanye uxolelwaniso. Inwenwela nakwabanye ngokunjalo nakuwe.
- Ukunyaniseka. Uyakwazi ukubonisa ukuba sesichengeni kunye nokuziqonda ngokwakho. Ubonisa ubuntu bakho bokwenene ngaphandle koloyiko.
- Inkalipho. Ngaphandle koloyiko lomngcipheko, ukungonwabi okanye iintlungu, olu phawu lulungileyo lomntu lufuna amandla engqondo okulandela ngokuzimisela, icebo okanye isigqibo, esazi ukuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza.
- Ukunyamezela Ukunyamezela luphawu lomlinganiswa wokuzingisa okungagungqiyo kunye nokuzimisela ukuqhubeka nenkambo yesenzo, inkolelo, okanye injongo, nokuba kunzima okanye kungonwabisi ukufezekisa injongo ephezulu okanye iziphumo.