Ukusukela iphupha asinto ingenamsebenzi, yindlela yokulungelelanisa ubomi bakho kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, xa ekugqibeleni uthatha isigqibo sokuhamba, kuvela amazwi angaphandle nangaphakathi azama ukukunqanda. Abanye baphuma kubantu abaneenjongo ezintle, abanye kwingxolo yasentlalweni, kwaye abaninzi abavela eyakho incoko yangaphakathiApha uya kufumana imephu epheleleyo yokuchonga obu buxoki kwaye ulungise ngenyani, imikhwa, kunye nengqondo ezolileyo.
Ngaba yakha yenzeka kuwe into yokuba ubhaptizwe kwiprojekthi oyithandayo kwaye umntu othile eze akuxelele lonto uphulukana nexesha lakho? Ngokwendlela abajonga ngayo, into oyenzayo ayinaxabiso.
Ubuxoki onokubuva xa usilwela amaphupha akho
Ndiyakushiya 8 ubuxoki onokuthi uve xa usilwela amaphupha akho:
1) Unokulandela iphupha lakho ngelinye ixesha. Ngoku kuya kufuneka ujolise kwizinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi.
Elinye ixesha? Liya kuba nini elo elinye ixesha? Oko kungabikho kwenkcazo Andiyithandi. Ukutsho oko kufana nokuthi, "Uya kulibala ngexesha." Uyaphila namhlanje; ngomso, ngubani owaziyo? Ukuleqa amaphupha akho yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini. Ngoko ke, asikokungakhathali.
2) Uya kuziva kakubi ukuba ayisebenzi.
Imbi! Okona kubi kakhulu, ukuba ayisebenzi uya kwenza kwaloo nto uyenzayo ngoku.
3) Kukhuselekile ukuba awushiye umsebenzi wakho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndiyaqikelela. Kodwa uyazi ukuba yintoni ekhuseleke ngakumbi kunoko? Ukugoduka, ugungxule amaphupha akho kwindlu yangasese, kwaye uzivalele kwigumbi lakho lokulala, ungaze uphume. Khumbula, ukhuseleko akusoloko kuthetha ukuba ngcono.
4) Awuhambelani kwimeko yakho yangoku.
Iimeko okanye iimeko ezikungqongileyo zisenokungabi zezona zilungileyo kodwa ayithethi ukuba ungabi nako ukuzalisekisa iphupha lakho.
Jonga, umlinganiswa ophambili wale vidiyo wayehleli kwisitulo esinamavili iminyaka engama-20 de kwankqonkqozwa kwitekhnoloji emnyango wakhe. Ngombulelo kwi-robotic exoskeleton, ukwazile ukuhamba kwakhona.
5) Awunakho ukufikelela kwizibonelelo ezifanelekileyo.
Ayikokuba nezibonelelo ezifanelekileyo, imalunga ne ukusetyenziswa kobutyebi Unokufikelela kuzo. UStevie Wonder wayengaboni, ngoko ke wasebenzisa amandla akhe okuva ukuba athande umculo, kwaye ngoku uneeMbasa zeGrammy ezingama-25. Yifumane? ļ
6) Oko kugcinelwe kuphela abambalwa abanethamsanqa.
Kungenxa yokuba abambalwa abanethamsanqa babe nesibindi sokwenza okuthile ngaloo nto. Babenokuzimisela kunye namandla onawo ngoku. Unokuba ngomnye wabo. Kuxhomekeke kuwe kwaye kuphela kuwe.
Ngaba lo mntwana unokuba nguye umdlali ogqwesileyo webhola yomnyazi ixesha lonke? Ngoba kutheni?
7) Kuya kufuneka ugcine imali ngakumbi ukuze ukwazi ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala.
Awudingi mali ingaphezulu. Ufuna i iplaniUhlahlo lwabiwo-mali lubalulekile. Ukuphelisa zonke iindleko ezingabalulekanga ebomini bakho. Zibuze: "Ngawaphi amanyathelo endingawathatha ngoku kunye nemali kunye nezibonelelo endinazo ngoku ukuze ndisondeze kwinjongo yam endiyifunayo?"
8) Kuthatha umsebenzi omninzi.
Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba akufanelekanga. Ndicinga ukuba impumelelo ebomini ixhomekeke kwinqaku elinye eliphambili: ukufumana a ukusebenza nzima oko ukwenza ngothando. Ukusebenza nzima akukho nzima xa ugxile kwiminqweno kunye namaphupha akho.
Izitshixo zokuziqhaqha ngokuzola: ukusuka kumbono we-stoic, awuzilawuli iziphumo (impumelelo/ukusilela), kuphela into oyicingayo, ozivayo, neyenzayo namhlanje. Ixabiso lakho alixhomekeke kwisiphawuli sangaphandle. Kukho intlalo, imvelaphi, kunye nezinto ezinokwenzeka eziphembelelayo; ke ngoko, hlukanisa ubuwena kwiziphumo kwaye ugxininise amandla akho ubuhle bezinto zakho kunye nokuhambelana kwezenzo zakho.
Ubuxoki oZixelelayo Ngaphakathi (kunye nendlela yokuphendula)
- "Andinakuyenza le nto." Ngokuqhelekileyo ihamba kunye "kodwa." Guqula ugqaliselo lube: Ndingenza ntoni namhlanje? Yaphula injongo ibe ngamanyathelo anokufezekiswa, unciphise ukungqubana, kwaye ucwangcise ubuncinci bezenzo zemihla ngemihla.
- "Andizalelwanga oku." Akukho mntu uzalwa esazi. Izakhono zikhula ngokuziqhelanisa, umonde, kunye nempendulo. Vavanya inkqubela yakho nge iiyure zokuziqhelanisa ngabom, hayi ngetalente yokuqala.
- "Ndiza kuyenza ngomso." Ukuzibekela amangomso koyiswa ngeenjongo ezincinci kunye nesiqalo esicacileyo. Yila i-frictionless "first minute": ukuvula ifayile, ukubiza, ukubhala umgca.
- Ukuba bendino-X, ndingavuya. Ukubeka impilo yakho kakuhle kwizinto eziguquguqukayo zangaphandle kuyakukhubaza. Sebenza kuwe arhente ekhoyo: Chaza isigqibo esilandelayo esiphantsi kolawulo lwakho esiphucula imeko yakho nge-1%.
- "Ndimncinci kakhulu / ndimdala." Imida yokwenyani ayiqhelekanga kunokuba ucinga. Umgaqo wesithupha: Ukuba unokufunda ngokukhuselekileyo nangokuziphatha, akusekho mva okanye kusasa ukuqalisa.
Uhlobo lwemikhwa: ungakhe ulinge ucime umkhwa, yiqondise ngokutshaChonga umkhombandlela kunye nomvuzo, kwaye utshintshe indlela yakho yesiqhelo ibe yesempilweni ekunika into efanayo (amandla, ukuzola, okanye ukugxila).
Iingcinga zobuGcisa zikubambezele ngasemva (iMigibe esibhozo eqhelekileyo)
- Identityism yokugqibelela"Ndifanele ndigqibelele." Akukho mntu ufikelelayo kuloo mgangatho. Zabalazela ukwenza inkqubela kwaye uyixabise into osele uyiyo.
- Ukoyika impazamo: "Andikwazi ukwenza iimpazamo." Ukwenza iimpazamo kubonisa ukuba uyaphila kwaye uyafunda; jika konke ukusilela ube idatha ukuphucula.
- Ukukhanyela ubunyani"Oku akufuneki kube ngale ndlela." Ubomi abunakwenzeka; ukwamkela oko kukubeka kwimeko yokwenza ngokufanelekileyo.
- Ukuthelekisa okunetyhefu"Iintsapho zabanye abantu zigqibelele." Akukho ubomi "obuqhelekileyo" okanye iintsapho; gxila kunyango kunye nezixhobo zakho.
- Ukhuseleko lobuxoki"Ukuba ndilawula yonke into, ndiya kukhuseleka." Awunako ukuqikelela yonke into; tyala imali kwi imithombo yangaphakathi (ukuzola, izakhono, inkxaso yenethiwekhi).
- Ingqiqo engqongqo"Isizathu kuphela esibalulekileyo." Usisidalwa esineemvakalelo; ukumamela iimvakalelo zakho kukunika ulwazi oluphambili ukwenza izigqibo ezingcono.
- Ukuthula okukhohlisayo"Ukuba andithethi ngayo, ayikho." Oko kukhatywayo kuyakubophelela; into eyamkelekileyo iyakuguqula. Cela uncedo ukuba uyalufuna.
- Ukuthintelwa kweemvakalelo"Ukuba buhlungu okanye ukucaphuka akulunganga." Le yimiqondiso exabisekileyo; babonelela ngemikhondo kwimida, ilahleko, okanye iimfuno ezingafezekanga.
Qaphela into oyibonayo kwaye uyivayo: ulwazi lokutya kunye nokugxila
Sihlala singqongwe yimiyalezo eyenzelwe ukubamba ingqalelo yakho. Hluza into oyisebenzisayoUkuba iprofayile iyakukhathaza kuphela, yithulise; ukuba ibali alikhuthazi isenzo, nciphisa ukutyhileka kwalo. Yenza uluhlu lomxholo okukhuthaza ukuba wenze, hayi nje ukuphupha.
Umzekelo osebenzayo: Ukuba ujikela kwikofu okanye kwimidiya yoluntu ukuze usebenze ngokwakho, fumana i umsebenzi (amandla okanye uqhawulo) kwaye uzame ezinye iindlela: ukuphefumla okufutshane, uhambo lwemizuzu emi-5, amanzi abandayo, okanye ibhloko yokusebenza enexesha. Uya kuwugcina umvuzo kwaye ukhusele impilo yakho kunye nokugxila.
Intshukumo phambi kokugqibelela: Uloliwe akalindanga ukuba "uzive ulungile." Kungcono ukuthatha amanyathelo amafutshane kwaye akhuselekileyo kunexesha elide kunye noloyiko.Ukucaca kuza ngokuhamba.
Khumbula: Lwela amaphupha akho (Jonga ividiyo)
Ixabiso lakho ayilonqaku lakhoNjengoko ifilosofi ebonakalayo igxininisa, impumelelo kunye nokungaphumeleli kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi kwaye zivela kubantu abalungileyo nababi. Yintoni echaza ukuba ungubani indlela ocinga ngayo, oziva ngayo kunye nokwenza ngayo Yonke imihla. Ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uzijonge kwaye ubone iziphene kuphela, tshintsha imilinganiselo yakho: linganisa ubungangamsha beendlela zakho, injongo yakho, kunye nokunyamezela. Ukuba uyazijonga kwaye ubone impumelelo, zibhiyozele ngaphandle kokukhukuliseka: uninzi lwayo luvela kwithamsanqa kunye nakwabo bakuncedileyo.
Ixhomekeke kuwe Wenza ntoni ngoku ngale nto unayo. Kwaye oko, ngokuphindaphindiweyo imihla ngemihla, kusondeza amaphupha kwinyani.