Zibuze lo mbuzo: Ukuba akunjalo ngoku, nini? Kuyimfuneko ukuba awuvumelekanga ebomini bakho ukulinda izinto zenzeke kuwe ... kuba azizukwenzeka kuwe! Kuya kufuneka uphume uye kubo, ulwele into ofuna ukuyifezekisa, wenze isicwangciso sokwenza ukuze amaphupha akho ayeke ukuba yinyani!
Ngokwenyani, sonke sinamaphupha amakhulu kunye neenjongo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, senza izinto esingathandiyo ukuzenza ukuya kwiindawo esifuna ukuba lapho. Kungenzeka ukuba ngezinye iintsuku uvuke ungafuni nto okanye wenze izinto ongazithandiyo ... Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi oku kuyimfuneko ukuze ufezekise impumelelo, kwaye kufanele ukuba uyonwabele apha endleleni!
Awusoloko usenza into oyithandayo okanye uziva ngathi ufuna ukuyenza
Sikwindawo apho kucingelwa ukuba i-100% yexesha umntu kufuneka enze izinto azithandayo okanye afuna ukonwaba, kodwa akukho nto! Isiqingatha sexesha kufuneka wenze izinto ongaziva uthanda ukuzenza okanye ongazithandiyo kakhulu ukufikelela kwiinjongo zakho. Awuyi kuhlala ufuna ukuqeqesha kodwa ufuna ukuba yimbaleki elungileyo okanye ube nomzimba olungileyo, awuyi kuhlala ufuna ukupeyinta, kodwa ufuna ukuba ngumzobi olungileyo ... Ukunyamezela, umzamo kunye noqeqesho zizitshixo zempumelelo!
Ukuba awuzinyanzeli ukuba wenze izinto, akekho omnye umntu oya kuzenza. Akufanele uvumele ubuvila bangene endleleni yamaphupha akho kwaye ufumane oko kukufaneleyo. Kuya kubakho iintsuku ezingcono kunye neentsuku ezimbi, kodwa leyo yinxalenye yempumelelo, leyo yinxalenye yokwenza izinto. Into ongenakukwazi ukuyifumana kukuba xa ikamva lifika, uya kuzisola ngokungayenzanga into obusoloko uphupha ngayo. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba usemandlalweni wokufa kwaye uyazisola ngazo zonke izinto ongakhange uzenze? MUSA ukuyivumela loo nto ukuba yenzeke kuwe.
Gxila kwiingcinga zakho
Ukufezekisa amaphupha akho, kufuneka ucace gca malunga nokuba ziyintoni kwaye ke ulwele ukuwafeza! Azifezekiswanga ngokukhawuleza, Kungathatha iinyanga kunye neminyaka, kodwa kufanelekile ukugxila kwinjongo yokukufezekisa kwaye ugxile kubomi bakho ekuphuculeni kancinci kancinci kuloo ndawo, nokuba awubakhathaleli abanye.
Yonke imihla iya kuba lidabi elahlukileyo, kuba ayizizo zonke izinto ezibengezelayo ezisoloko zenziwe ngegolide. Ubomi abunakulindelwa, kwaye yindlela okhetha ukwenza ngayo kwezona ntsuku zinzima nalapho inkqubela phambili yakho ichazwe khona ... Kuxhomekeka kwindlela otsiba ngayo imiqobo, ungafezekisa izinto ezinkulu. Ubunzima ziimvavanyo zokuba amandla akho avele kwaye uphumelele idabi lobuvila.
Ukulandela amaphupha akho akuyona indlela ekhuthazayo ngalo lonke ixesha
Kukho umkhuba okhulayo wokukholelwa ukuba inkuthazo kufuneka ihlale ihleli ngalo lonke ixesha, Ngokwenyani, inkuthazo inokuncipha amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa kuthatha amandla ukuyenza inyuke kwakhona. Ukuba ulandela into oyifunayo, ubomi bakho buya kutshintsha. Ukuba ukhetha ukusebenza kwinto oyithandayo, ngekhe uphinde usebenze ebomini bakho! Kuba ngekhe uvakalelwe kukuba le nto uyenzayo inyanzelekile, ukuba ayisiyontsikelelo!
Ukuzingisa, ukuzingisa kunye nomnqweno wokufezekisa iinjongo zakho kufuneka zihlale zikukhapha. Kuya kufuneka usebenze nzima ukuyiphumeza, kodwa kuphela into enzima yeyona nto ifanelekile! Ilula, ihlala ... ayilunganga okanye ayifanele. Ukuba ngumntu okhutheleyo, ozingisayo nonomdla yinto ekufuneka uyikhethile. Gxila kwinkqubela phambili yakho, kwiinjongo zakho, kwinto onayo ngoku kunye nento ofuna ukuyiphumeza ... kokubini ngokuzikhethela nangokubaluleka.
Uzimisele ukuya phi?
Akukho ndlela ilula xa isiza nokuleqa iphupha elikhulu. Yonke imihla iya kuba ngumzabalazo kwaye kuya kufuneka uhlale uphucula yonke imihla. Utshintsho kwingqondo yakho lunokukunceda wenze izinto okanye uphinde urhuqwe umva ngendlela ongayifuni ngenene. Unokuhamba ukusuka kwi-mindset ephumeleleyo ukuya kwi-mindset elahlekileyo. Y unokuqhubeka ngokulula kwaye uzinikezele kwimizabalazo, ubunzima kunye nobunzima, kwaye yonke into mayinqumle kwaye ifikelele kuwe ngendlela engalunganga ... Kodwa akusekho njalo! Ubomi yindlela okhetha ukuphila ngayo ... kwaye ube ngulo mntu ufuna ukuba nguye. Olo lukhetho lwakho kwaye usebenze njengenkuthazo kwabanye abantu, kwaye nakubantwana bakho ukuba unabo.
Kuya kubakho iintsuku apho uqhubela phambili ngakumbi kwaye abanye baya phambili kancinci, kodwa ngokubanzi, ukuba ukhe wasilela, khumbula ukuba kutheni uqale kwindlela yokufezekisa amaphupha akho. Ngale ndlela uyakuqonda ukuba ungafezekisa kwaye kutheni ufuna ukuyiphumeza! Oku kuyakukhuthaza ukuba uye phambili kwaye ungalahli yonke into osele uyifumene.
Khumbula ukuba kuqhelekile ukwenza iimpazamo, wenze iimpazamo kwaye usilele, kodwa sukuvumela ezi mpazamo zikuhlise ... Kuba kufuneka babe ngootitshala bakho! Nangona le nto uyenzayo ingasoloko ilula, khumbula ukuba yinto eyinyani kuwe, uyayila ... uzenzela amaphupha akho kwaye ungawaphumeza, unganikezeli!
Ubakhetha njani ubomi bakho?
Kukho ibinzana elivela kuAlice Walker elinokukwenza ubonakalise: 'Eyona ndlela ixhaphakileyo yokuba abantu banikezele ngamandla abo kukucinga ukuba abanayo.' Awunakulinda ukuleqa amaphupha akho. Hayi, kuya kufuneka ubalandele ngenqindi lesinyithi ukuba ufuna ukuzibona zizaliseka ebomini bakho. Kuya kufuneka uzimisele kwaye uzicingele ukuze ubone amaphupha akho ebomini bakho. Ngokwenza njalo, ubanika ithuba lokuba bachume kwaye bakhule.
Ubomi benzelwe ukuba ubuphile, kuba unayo kuphela kwaye kufanelekile ukuba ubufumane. Ubomi bakho akufuneki bufane nabanye abantu, kufuneka uzive kamnandi ngelixa ubuphila. Awudingi ukuhamba ujikeleze umhlaba ukuze wonwabe okanye ufezekise iinjongo zakho, iinjongo zakho zinokuba lula ... Yiyo le nto ikwenza uzive kamnandi namhlanje. Amaphupha akho akulindile kwaye akufuneki uwavumele adlule kuwe.
Musa ukuwanikezela amandla akho, kuba ubomi bakho kufuneka bukhethe indlela oza kuphila ngayo. Ufanelekile ubukhulu onokuthi ubufezekise. Ukuba ufuna ukuphila ubomi bakho ngcono, kufuneka ukhethe, kufuneka uthathe izigqibo, kufuneka wenze oko kukwenza uzive ulungile ... nokuba kukho imiqobo endleleni okanye awusoloko unayo khuthazo kwanele ukuqhubeka. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuhlala obona bomi bakho ubalaseleyo, kuya kufuneka ukhethe. Kuya kufuneka ubheje kwibango lakho. Kuya kufuneka ukhethe iimfazwe zakho kwaye udlale amakhadi akho kakuhle xa ufuna njalo.
Chaza iphupha ofuna ukulifezekisa kwaye emva koko uhambe ungakhange unqandwe nantoni na! Akukhe kushiywe lixesha ukwenza into elungileyo kwaye umamele intliziyo yakho ukuyilandela ngamandla akho onke. Bonisa umhlaba kwaye ngakumbi ngokwakho, yintoni onokukwazi ukuyiphumeza ngokuzingisa, uqeqesho kunye nokuzimisela.