Ubuzali obukhulu bubonelela ngentsimi engapheliyo uburharha bemihla ngemihla kwaye, kwangaxeshanye, kuba ukufunda ngokweemvakaleloEsi siqwenga sidibanisa amaxesha amnandi kunye neengcinga ezisuka entliziyweni ezibonisa ukuba njani hleka into engalindelekanga Inokuba sesona sixhobo sibalaseleyo sokufundisa, ukuhlala kunye kunye nokunxibelelana nabantwana bethu.
Ndicebisa le kuwe intetho yakhiwe kuthotho lweenkcazo-ntetho ezinesihloko "Ukulawula Abantwana". Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana ngaphezulu kokuhleka kube kanye. Ngaphezulu kwesifundo kujongeka ngathi ngumntu omnye kwiKlabhu yamahlaya.
UCarles Capdevila ngunjingalwazi wezonxibelelwano kwiYunivesithi yaseBarcelona kunye notata wabantwana abane: intombi eneminyaka eli-19 ubudala, unyana oneminyaka eli-18 ubudala, oneminyaka eli-13 ubudala kunye no-6. Usixelela ngendlela ehlekisayo umahluko phakathi kwabantwana bakhe abadala kunye nabanye abantwana ababini abancinci.
Carles Capdevila kunye noburharha njengekhampasi usapho
Usixelela umahluko phakathi kwabantwana ababini abadala kunye nabanye abancinci. Umzekelo, xa efika ekhaya, kukho ababini abamnika a ukwanga kwaye abanye aba-2 abakwenzi:
Ukuba uyithandile le vidiyo, cinga ngokwabelana ngayo nabantu osondele kubo. Enkosi kakhulu ngenkxaso yakho.[imephu]Ezinye iiparele uCarles usishiya:
1) "Xa ndisenza isiqhulo ekhaya, abantu ababini bayahleka kwaye abantu ababini bathi ayihlekisi; andiyiqondi kuba kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo nabo bahleka.".
2) "Xa unyana wam oneminyaka emi-6 ubudala endiwola kwaye yeyona nto imangalisayo enokuthi yenzeke kuwe, ndithi kuye: 'Musa ukundanga kakhulu kuba ndiyazi ukuba uya kuba njani. Ndiye ndahamba ukuya kwixesha elizayo.'.
3) "Enyanisweni, xa umntwana wakho oneminyaka emithandathu ubudala ekwanga, ingcamango yokuba ngenye imini iyahlukana naye ibonakala ingenakunyamezeleka. Xa efikelela kwi-18, ingcamango yokuba ngenye imini iyahlukana naye ibonakala inomdla ... kwaye ingxamisekile.".
4) "Ngomntwana wethu wokuqala, sasiyicocisa i-pacifier ngalo lonke ixesha sicinga ukuba inokuthi ichukumise umgangatho. Ngeyesibini yethu, ukuba sibona i-pacifier iwele kwindawo engcolileyo, besiya kuyihlamba phantsi kwempompo. Ngeyesithathu yethu, sagqiba kwelokuba ukuba i-pacifier iwe ndaweni ithile kakhulu, ingcolile kakhulu kwaye kukho ubuncinane amangqina amathathu, sasingayi kuzihlamba phantsi komntwana wethu we-pacifier..
I-Anecdotes eyenza ubuntu: ukusuka kwigumbi lokuhlala ukuya kwintlanganiso ebalulekileyo
Phakathi amava amnandi kakhulu, ibalaselisa ukuba ngutata ohambe engxamile ngenxa yenkqubo yesiqhelo nabantwana bakhe abancinci: kumbindi wendlela waqaphela ukuba uthwele izilayidi Yaye ekufikeni kwakhe, inkangeleko engaqhelekanga yentlanganiso yayingabangelwa zizihlangu zakhe, kodwa ngenxa yeenwele zakhe ezigqunyiweyo imenyezela yesilivere, isipho se-adventure yentelekelelo kunye nentombi yakhe. Wakhetha ukuzihleka waqhubekeka. Ukumangaliswa kokugqibela: umlawuli naye wayenguyise wentsapho enkulu, kwaye uxhumano lwazalwa ngoko nangoko.
Eli bali libonisa inyaniso enamandla: abantwana badibanisa abantuUkwabelana ngee-anecdotes ngoburharha kuvula iingcango, kunciphisa uxinezeleko, kwaye kusikhumbuza ukuba emva kwesuti nganye, kukho utata okanye umama ozama ukwenza konke okusemandleni abo.
Ubuzali obuyinyani kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo: ubunyani, isiphithiphithi, kunye nokudibana
Ukunyamekela abantwana xa abazali bobabini besebenza ijuggling yolungiseleloAbazali abaninzi ngakumbi bahlengahlengisa iishedyuli zabo, bekhetha iiyure eziguquguqukayo okanye uhlale ekhaya ukuze uthathe imihla ngemihla. Umzekelo okhuthazayo ngokatata ka iintombi ezine owathi, ngenkangeleko ehlekisayo, abelane kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo ukuba kuthetha ukuthini na ukuhlala nosapho olukhulu: ikhaya liyindawo ephilileyo, enesiphithiphithi esigcweleyo. Izihlandlo ezingalibalekiyo.
Injongo yayo echaziweyo kukubonelela nge imbono eyinyani malunga nokuba kunjani ukuba ngutata: ngaphantsi kwe-sugarcoated kunye nokunyaniseka. Uthetha ngendlela igama ngasese utshintsho ulwalathiso, ukusuka kuloo mgaqo-nkqubo we iminyango evulekile ejika ishawari ibe ngumdlalo nabaphulaphuli, kunye nendlela uburharha obuphelisa ngayo ukudinwa okuqokelelweyo.
Iimpapasho zakhe, zilandelwa ngu amakhulu amawaka zabantu, ziguqule iimeko eziqhelekileyo zibe iipilisi ezincinci zokuxakeka: ukuya kulala ekugqibeleni, ukukhala ukuzola ngokuchasene newotshi, ukuthwala ukuthenga ngelixa ulawula i-tantrums okanye ukuphucula itheko lomhla wokuzalwa elingaphumi ngendlela obucebe ngayo.
Kolu luhlu lwemisebenzi engabonakaliyo, abazali abaninzi bazibona njengabo umncedi ngamaxesha athile, abaqhubi bamatekisi kwifowuni, ba qeqeshi kwindawo yokuqubha, abahlohli iphuculwe, abapheki ngexesha lokuphumla, abacebisi ngokweemvakalelo, ipali yokukhwela ngabantu, banco ukuba imali amakhadi orhwebo kunye umthengi Ngomzuzu wokugqibela. Ukuba uyayikhangela, unokuyifumana. Ndidiniwe kwipaseji yediaper ngoncumo lokwazi.
Umsonto oqhelekileyo phakathi kwendlela yezemfundo kunye nobungqina bothungelwano bucacile: i risa Sisixhobo sokufundisa sodidi lokuqala. Isebenza ukukhulula uxinzelelo, ukuba qinisekisa iimvakalelo kunye nokufundisa abantwana bethu ukuba iimpazamo, ukongamela, kunye neentsuku ezinzima nazo zinokusingathwa ngokulula.
Konke oku komeleza umyalezo wentetho ecetyiswayo: uburharha abunciphisi imiceli mngeni, bubenza babe ngaphezulu. iyalawulekaKwindlu enabantwana abane, kuya kubakho ukugona kunye neengcango ezibethekileyo, ukuhleka kunye nokuthula, i-slippers kunye ne-glitter ezinweleni; into ebalulekileyo kukugcina ukujonga okuguqula isiphithiphithi sibe ikhonkco kunye nesiqhelo kwimemori ekwabelwana ngayo.