I-Demisexuality luhlobo olutsha oluthile loqhelaniso lwezesondo oluye lwakhula ekuthandeni kwiminyaka yakutshanje. I-Demisexuality ibhekiselele kumtsalane wesondo ovelayo, ngenxa yobudlelwane obuqinileyo ngokweemvakalelo kwenzekani nomnye umntu. Abantu abaninzi abaluqondi ngokupheleleyo olu hlobo lwesini, kuba namhlanje kukho into ephambili yokutsaleleka ngokwesini ngoko nangoko.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kukucacisela ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ne-demisexual kunye nezona mpawu zibalulekileyo zokuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo.
Kubandakanya ntoni ukungabikho kwesini?
I-Demisexuality luhlobo loqhelaniso lwezesondo apho umntu aya kuba nomtsalane ngokwesondo kuphela kumntu abanonxibelelwano oluqinileyo ngokweemvakalelo. Umntu ojongwa njenge-demisexual soze azive enomtsalane ngokwesondo kwabanye ukuba unxibelelwano alwenzeki. Ngokukhawuleza ndi kwiimpawu eziphambili Kolu hlobo lokuziqhelanisa nesondo oku kulandelayo kufuneka kuqatshelwe:
- Abantu abathandana besini esinye abayi kulinge umtsalane wesondo ngoko nangoko. Kufuneka bazive benonxibelelwano oluqinileyo ngokweemvakalelo ukuze bazive benomtsalane kwabanye abantu.
- Nangona i-demisexuals ingaphakathi kwe-asexual spectrum, Abajongwa njenge-asexual.
- Umtsalane ngokwesondo uya kwenzeka kamva bomanyano lweemvakalelo. Olu lwalamano lunokuquka ubuhlobo obukhulayo okanye ukuthembana okubalulekileyo.
- Uhlobo loqhagamshelwano lweemvakalelo iya kwahluka ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye. Kwezinye iimeko uxhulumaniso olubaluleke ngokufanelekileyo luyimfuneko kwaye kwezinye imfuneko ayinkulu kangako.
- Ubudlelwane babantu abathandanayo Ngokuqhelekileyo ziba qatha kakhulu ngokubhekiselele kwinkalo yeemvakalelo.
Umahluko phakathi kwe-demisexuality kunye ne-asexuality kunye ne-alsexuality
Kufuneka kutshiwo ukuba ubudoda buza kuba sembindini phakathi kweentlobo ezimbini zokuziqhelanisa nesondo: i-asexuality kunye ne-alsexuality. La magama mathathu ahlukile kwaye aneempawu zawo:
- Abantu abane-asexual abanamava alukho uhlobo lomtsalane ngokwesondo. Banokuba nobudlelwane bothando kunye neemvakalelo, kodwa umtsalane wesondo awuyonxalenye yabo.
- Abantu abanezini ezahlukeneyo amava umtsalane ngokwesondo kwaye abafuni kuqhagamshelwano lweemvakalelo kwangaphambili ukuze babe nako ukuthetha umtsalane. Le ngcinga ibandakanya uninzi lweendlela ezaziwayo zesini, ezifana nokuthandana kwabantu besini esahlukileyo, ubufanasini, okanye ukuthandana kwabantu besini esinye.
- Abantu abathandana besini esinye baya kufuna unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo ukukwazi ukufumana umtsalane othile ngokwesondo kwabanye abantu.
Ungazi njani ukuba ungumntu osweleyo
Kukho inani leempawu ezicacileyo ezinokubonisa ukuba ungumntu osweleyo:
- Musa ukuziva naluphi na uhlobo umtsalane ngokwesondo nakubani ngokukhawuleza okanye ekuqaleni kokubona.
- Zive umtsalane wesondo kuphela emva kokumazi umntu ngokucokisekileyo kwaye ukusuka apho, qala ukuphuhlisa uqhagamshelwano oluqinileyo ngokweemvakalelo.
- uzive ngokwahlukileyo kubahlobo abathetha ngomtsalane wesondo ngokukhawuleza kwaye bengaqondi ukuba kutheni umtsalane uthe yenzeka.
- Xabiso kakhulu uqhagamshelwano olunzulu ngokweemvakalelo ngaphezu komtsalane womzimba kubudlelwane.
Imiceli mngeni kunye neentsomi zokungabi nazini
Njengoko iluhlobo olunqabileyo lokuziqhelanisa nesondo eluntwini, umntu ozijonga njengesini kufuneka ajongane kuluhlu lwemingeni:
- Ukujongana noxinzelelo lwasekuhlaleni Ngokumalunga nomba wokutsaleleka ngokwesondo ngoko nangoko, kunokuba nzima kubantu abathandanayo.
- Ukunqongophala kolwazi olukhoyo namhlanje malunga nokuziphatha ngokwesini kunokukhokelela ekungaqondini okuthile ngabantu abaphila ngokwesini.
- Cacisa olu hlobo lokuziqhelanisa nesondo kumntu onokuba liqabane Ayizi kuba lula okanye ilula konke konke, ngakumbi ukuba omnye umntu akazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba yintoni na i-demisexuality.
Ngokunxulumene neentsomi, oku kulandelayo kufuneka kuqatshelwe:
- Intsomi yokuba abantu abanesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo bafuna kakhulu. I-Demisexuality ayizukubandakanya ekubeni nemigangatho ephezulu. Kukuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo okusekelwe kwimfuno yonxibelelwano lweemvakalelo ukuze ufumane umtsalane othile ngokwesondo komnye umntu.
- Uninzi loluntu lucinga ukuba olu hlobo lwesini Yinto yokwexeshana ngokupheleleyo. Uburheletya asiyonto eya koyiswa ngokuhamba kwexesha. Yinto engaphakathi kubuntu bomntu ngokwesini.
- Kukho intsomi yokuba abantu abathandana besini esinye abazi ukuba bafuna ntoni. Abantu abanezisini baluqonda kakuhle uqhelaniso lwabo kunye nento abayifunayo ukuze bazive umtsalane wesondo okhankanywe ngasentla.
Iingcebiso ukukwazi ukuba demisexual kuluntu lwanamhlanje
Ukuba uzibhengeza njengomntu onesini, kulungile ukuba uqaphele kwezi ngcebiso okanye iingcebiso zilandelayo:
- Kubalulekile ukubonakala evulelekileyo kwaye enyanisekile malunga nokuziqhelanisa nomntu kwasekuqaleni, ukuze kuthintelwe ukungaqondani okuthile kunye nokukwazi ukuseka ulindelo oluyinyani kubudlelwane.
- Ukukwazi ukufumana kunye nokunxulumana nabanye abantu abasweleyo kunokubaluleka xa kufikwa ekufumaneni inkxaso ethile yeemvakalelo kunye nokuqonda.
- Kucetyiswa ukubeka phambili obo budlelwane obuxabisa kwaye buhlakulele ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo, kuba oku kunokukhokelela ekudaleni unxibelelwano olwanelisayo nolunentsingiselo kuyo yonke imiba.
- Ngale ndlela, ukukwazi ukwamkela isazisi sikabani sokunganyaniseki kubalulekile kwaye kubalulekile. xa kuziwa ekuziveni kamnandi ngawe. Oku kuya kubandakanya ukuqaphela ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo xa kuziwa kolu hlobo lokuziqhelanisa nesondo, kuba yinto esebenzayo kunye nesemthethweni.
Ngamafutshane, ubuni luhlobo lokuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo apho ukudibana ngokweemvakalelo kubalulekile xa uziva utsalelekile ngokwesondo komnye umntu. Ngethamsanqa, olu hlobo lwesazisi ngokwesondo liya lisanda ngokwamkelwa yinxalenye enkulu yoluntu. Ukuba ngumntu ophila ngokwesini kuya kuthetha ukukwazi ukujamelana nothotho lweengxaki kwihlabathi elidla ngokubeka eyona nto ibalulekileyo kumtsalane wesini ngoko nangoko. Ukukwazi ukuqaphela kunye nokwamkela i-demisexuality njengendlela efanelekileyo kunye neyokuqhelanisa ngokusemthethweni ngundoqo wokuba nempilo enhle yeemvakalelo kunye nokukwazi ukunandipha impilo-ntle ekudala ilindelwe.