Igama elithi "negging" liye laziwa kakhulu kwiminyaka yakutshanje, ngakumbi kwihlabathi lokuthandana. Ukunganyaniseki akukho nto ingaphaya kwesiqhelo, apho ukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo komnye wamaqela kwenzeka, ukuze kutshatyalaliswe ukuzithemba kwexhoba, kwaye ngaloo ndlela ukwazi ukufumana ulawulo olukhulu phezu kwabo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kuthetha nawe ngokubanzi malunga negging kunye iingozi kunye nobungozi oko kubandakanya ixhoba nakuluntu ngokubanzi.
Kubandakanya ntoni ukungahoyi?
I-Negging luhlobo lokuguqulwa kwengqondo olubonakaliswa ngamagqabaza amabi okanye agxekayo ajoliswe komnye umntu, nangona aqulunqwe ngendlela ebonakala ngathi iquka ukuncoma okanye ukugxeka okwakhayo. Injongo nenjongo yokungahoyi asiyonto yimbi ngaphandle kokufezekisa ukuba ixhoba liyathandabuza ukubaluleka kwalo njengomntu kwaye, ngenxa yoku, bafune imvume yomqhubi. Lo mkhuba uye wathandwa kakhulu kwihlabathi lokuthandana, njengendlela yokutsala omnye umntu.
Ziziphi izizathu okanye izizathu zokungahoywa?
Umntu ubhenela ekufuneni uluhlu lwezizathu okanye oonobangela oko sikubona ngezantsi:
- Ukungazithembi okucacileyo kunye nokungazithembi. Umntu okhohlisayo usebenzisa ukungakhathali ngenjongo yokuziva emkhulu kunomnye umntu aze amlawule xa ebona kufanelekile.
- Ukunganyanzeli sisixhobo nje umntu onetyhefu anaso ukulawula ixhoba kwaye ngaloo ndlela bazuze ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo.
- Emva kwesi senzo kunokubakho uthotho lweempembelelo zenkcubeko nezentlalo. Ngelishwa, kufuneka kuthiwe kukho iinkcubeko ezininzi ezikhuthaza ingcamango yokuba ubudlelwane kufuneka busekelwe kwiintshukumo zamandla ezingalungelelananga ngokupheleleyo.
Iingozi kunye nobungozi bokungahoywa
Ukuziqhelanisa neggging kuya kukhokelelauluhlu lweengozi kunye nobungozi Kumntu ophethwe yiyo:
Umonakalo ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo
Ukungahoyi kunokuba neziphumo ezibi kakhulu kwimpilo yengqondo nengokweemvakalelo yamaxhoba. Ukuhlala usesichengeni sezimvo ezihlekisayo ezivela kwiqabane lakho, kunokujongela phantsi ukuzithemba nokuzithemba, kukhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu njengokudakumba okanye ukuxhalaba. Amaxhoba anokucinga ukuba akanaxabiso njengabantu, nto leyo ephela inefuthe elibi kwiinkalo ezahlukahlukeneyo zobomi ezinjengobudlelwane okanye ihlabathi lomsebenzi.
Ubudlelwane obunobungozi
Ubudlelwane apho ukungakhathali kukhoyo Ngokuqhelekileyo ziyityhefu kwaye azilingani. Umntu oqhelisela ukunganyaniseki ufuna ukulilawula ngokupheleleyo ixhoba, nto leyo ebangela ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo. Ixhoba, ukuze lifumane imvume yeqabane lalo, lithobela ngokupheleleyo kwaye lixhomekeke, nto leyo ekhokelela ekuxhatshazweni okukhankanywe ngasentla.
Ukuxhatshazwa okuqhelekileyo
Enye yezona zinto ziyingozi kakhulu zokungakhathali kungenxa yokuba ilungisa ukuziphatha okuxhaphazayo kwaye akukhuthazwa. Kolu hlobo loqheliselo, ubani uphela eyamkela into yokuba kusemthethweni ukujongela phantsi ixhoba ukuze alawule. Oku kuya kubangela ukuba kuphele ukuqhubela phambili ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kwaye akukho hlobo lwentlonipho phakathi kobudlelwane.
Iimpawu ezinceda ukuchonga ukungahoywa
Ukukwazi ukuchonga umkhuba onjengokunganaki kunokuba inzima kwaye inzima, Nangona kukho uluhlu lweempawu ezicacileyo nezicacileyo:
- Izimvo ezivela kwiqabane elenza ixhoba ndiziva ndingakhuselekanga kakhulu, Nangona xa uthi krwada amagqabaza akhayo asenokubonakala ekhohlisa.
- Ixhoba liyaqonda ukuba ipateni iyaphindaphinda xa ifika kumazwana avela kumlingane. Ezi ntlobo zamagqabaza zinenjongo yokumjongela phantsi umntu ophethwe kakubi.
- Ukuncoma kuqhelekile kolu hlobo loqheliselo, nangona lusenzeka ngaphambili yendelelo okanye intetho ethobayo.
Indlela yokuphepha ukungahoyi
Kukho iSerie yezikhokelo okanye iingcebiso oko kunokunceda ixhoba ukumelana nokungahoyi:
- Inyathelo lokuqala ukukwazi ukujongana nokunganaki kukuqonda oko ngendlela ecacileyo nevulelekileyo. Kuya kufuneka uqaphele kwaye uqonde ukuba ezi ntlobo zezimvo ziyilwe ngenjongo yokukhohlisa isibini kunye nokuthoba ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba.
- Ezi ntlobo zamagqabaza azikwazi kwaye akufuneki zamkelwe. Kungenxa yoko le nto kucetyiswa ukuseka uluhlu lwemida ecacileyo kwisibini esingenako ukugqithiselwa.
- Kuhle kwaye kuyacetyiswa ukuthetha nabahlobo, usapho okanye umntu oqeqeshiweyo ukufumana uncedo lwangaphandle kunye nokomeleza ukuzithemba nokuzithemba okulahlekileyo.
- Kwimeko apho ukuchaswa kuyaqhubeka, kubalulekile ukukuphelisa ngokukhawuleza nobudlelwane obuyityhefu kunye nokungalinganiyo.
Ngamafutshane, ukungakhathali sisenzo esisebenzisa ukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo ukulawula ixhoba. Ukungakhathali kunokuba nemiphumo emibi kwimpilo yengqondo nengokweemvakalelo yabantu ababandezelekileyo. Nangona kuninzi lwamatyala ukunganyaniseki kuguqulwe njengokukhohlisa, esi senzo siyingozi siya kuthoba kancinci ukuzithemba, sidale. Amandla anetyhefu kunye nokungalingani kwamandla kubudlelwane. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuqaphela kunye nokuchasana nokuchaswa, ukuze uthintele ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokukhuthaza ubudlelwane obusekelwe kwibhalansi kunye nentlonipho phakathi kwamaqela.
Isitshixo sokuphelisa ukungakhathali sikwimfundo nokwazisa uluntu. Ukuba into yokungahoyi iqondwa ngcono kakhulu, abantu baya kulungela ngcono xa kufikwa ekulweni nobu budlelwane bunetyhefu nobungacetyiswanga. Kufuneka ke ngoko sikhuthaze inkcubeko yentlonipho nokuxhasana ukukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo.