Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, uphando oluninzi luye lwagxila kwindlela Izinto azithandayo zinefuthe ekuqineni ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokukwazi ukuhlala uzolile phantsi koxinzelelo. Ngokuchaseneyo nengcamango eqhelekileyo yokuba uphuculo lomntu siqu luvela kuphela ekubekeni imikhwa engqongqo, abantu abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba ukuzinikela ngexesha kwinto abayithandayo kunokuba sisixhobo esinamandla kakhulu Ukunyamekela impilo yengqondo, ukuhlela ubomi bemihla ngemihla, nokufumana ukuzilawula.
Kunokuba zibe yinto nje yokuzonwabisa, izinto ozithandayo, xa zihlanganiswe kakuhle kwisiqhelo somntu, zisebenza njengendawo yokufumana impumelelo, ukuziqhelanisa nokunyamezela, nokufunda ukulawula ukukhungatheka. Ingqondo igxininisa ukuba olu hlobo lwemisebenzi lunceda... ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, ukuqinisa ukuzithemba kunye nokuphuhlisa amaqhinga okujongana neengxaki nto leyo eya kuthi emva koko isasazeke nakwezinye iindawo zobomi, njengomsebenzi, izifundo, okanye ubudlelwane bomntu ngamnye.
Izinto ozithandayo njengenjini ethuleyo yokuziqeqesha
Ingqondo yanamhlanje, enamazwi anjengala UDkt. Alice Boyes —eyaziwa ngomsebenzi wakhe wokuxhalaba kunye nemikhwa—, uthi ukuziqeqesha Akusoloko kuvela kwizithintelo okanye kuluhlu lwemithetho engqongqoIdla ngokuvela njengesiphumo esingesihle somsebenzi osichukumisa ngokwenene kwaye usenze sifune ukuphucula ngenxa nje yokungaguquguquki koko sikunandiphayo.
La Umbutho wezeMpilo waseMelika Igxininisa ukuba ukuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi yokuzonwabisa enentsingiselo kusebenza njengesikhuthazo sempilo-ntle yeemvakalelo: Iyanciphisa uxinzelelo, yonyusa ukuqonda ukusebenza komntu ngamnye, kwaye iqinisa uvakalelo lokulawula. ngobomi bomntu. Konke oku kukhuthaza ukuqina kunye nokukwazi ukuxhasa imizamo kwixesha eliphakathi nelide, ngaphandle kokufuna ukukubona njengoxanduva oluhlala luhleli.
Xa umntu ebandakanyeka kwizinto azithandayo ezizisa umngeni okanye ezisa ulonwabo—nokuba ngumdlalo, uqeqesho lobugcisa, okanye umsebenzi owenziwa ngesandla—udla ngokuziqhelisela cwangcisa ixesha lakho, lawula iminqweno yakho, kwaye unyamekele impilo yakho ngcono ukuze bakwazi ukwenza ngcono kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kubo. Ngamanye amazwi, uqeqesho luvela ngaphakathi, luqhutywa yinkuthazo nomdla wokwenene.
Umzekelo ocacileyo ngowomntu onyuka amatye ngempelaveki okanye oqeqesha neqela lezemidlalo elingaqeqeshwanga. Ngaphandle kokuba umntu amnyanzele, kuqhelekile ukuba loo mntu... Nciphisa utywala obuselayo okanye uphucule ubuthongo bakho. ukufika kwiiseshoni kwimeko engcono. Utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha alubangelwa kakhulu yisicwangciso esiqinileyo sokuzincama, kodwa lubangelwa yingqiqo yangaphakathi yale nto ndiyithandayo: ukuba ndifuna ukuyonwabela, kufuneka ndizinyamekele.
Kwenzeka into efanayo kwizinto ozithandayo ezifuna iindleko ezithile zemali, njengemidlalo ethile, umculo, okanye imisebenzi ethile yokuyila. Umnqweno wokugcina loo nto uyithandayo kwixesha eliphakathi udla ngokukhokelela ekubeni Hlola iindleko, phepha ukuthenga izinto ngokungxama, kwaye ucwangcise ngcono imali yakhoXa umsebenzi othile uba yinto ephambili, iindlela zokuziphatha eziwenzakalisayo ziyaphela kancinci kancinci.
Imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla exhasa ukuqina
Esinye seziphumo ezilungileyo zezinto ozithandayo kukuba ukusekwa kweenkqubo ezizinzileyoImisebenzi efuna ukwenziwa rhoqo, njengokunyamekela isilwanyana sasekhaya, ukuqeqeshwa ngeshedyuli emiselweyo, okanye ukuya kwiworkshop veki nganye, inceda ekwakheni ubomi bemihla ngemihla kwaye ingenise ulwakhiwo olunokuthi, kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, lusebenze njenge-ankile.
La Ikliniki yaseMayo Igxininisa ukubaluleka kokudibanisa ezi ndawo zokuzonwabisa kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Iyanciphisa amanqanaba oxinzelelo, iphucula ukuphumla, kwaye inika isakhelo esiqikelelweyo. apho zonke ezinye iimbopheleleko zihlelwe khona. Olu luvo locwangco aluchaphazeli nje kuphela impilo-ntle yeemvakalelo kodwa lukwaqinisa uvakalelo lolawulo, enye yeentsika zokuqina kwengqondo.
Ityala eliqhelekileyo lelo labantu abahlala nenja. Ukuhamba phantse ngokungabonakaliyo kuyaguquka kube ukuqeshwa okusisigxina kwi-ajendaKufuneka uphume, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na, nokuba kushushu okanye kubanda. Ngaphaya kweenzuzo zomzimba zokuhamba, olu xanduva lwemihla ngemihla luzisa isigqi ebomini bomntu, luphawula ukuqala okanye ukuphela kwexesha elithile, kwaye ludala ukuqikelelwa okukhulu kosuku.
Oku kuphindaphinda kwezenzo ezincinci ezinxulumene nomsebenzi okanye uxanduva olunxulumene nokuzonwabisa—iseshoni yoqeqesho, ukuziqhelanisa, intlanganiso neqela labakhweli beentaba—kuyaqinisa imikhwa yokucwangcisa izinto, ukufika ngexesha kunye nokungaguquguqukiNgokwembono yokumelana nobunzima, ukuba nezi zakhiwo zincinci endaweni yazo kwenza kube lula ebantwini ukuba babe nezixhobo ezisisiseko xa kuvela iimeko ezinzima, nto leyo ebanceda bahlale bezinzile kwaye baphephe ukuxinezeleka ngokupheleleyo.
Kwangaxeshanye, imisebenzi yokuzonwabisa ibonelela ngeyona nto iphambili: imvakalelo yokuphumelelaUkugqiba uhambo olunzima, ukugqiba iprojekthi yobugcisa, okanye ukubona ukusebenza kwakho kwezemidlalo kuphucuka kukhulisa ukuzithemba kumandla akho okujongana nemingeni. Olu kuzithemba, olwakhiwa kancinci kancinci kwimeko yokuzonwabisa, ludla ngokutshintshela kwimisebenzi, kwizifundo, okanye kwimingeni yobuqu.
Imigangatho, ukhuseleko, kunye nengqondo ecocekileyo
Izinto ezininzi zokuzonwabisa, ingakumbi ezo zibandakanya inqanaba elithile lomngcipheko okanye isakhono sobugcisa, zifuna ukuthotyelwa ngokungqongqo kwemithetho yokhuseleko kunye neenkquboOku kunjalo ekunyukeni, ukunyuka intaba, ukubhabha ngokuzonwabisa, kwanakweminye imidlalo yasemanzini. Kule meko, ukutsiba inyathelo okanye ukungajongi izixhobo kunokuba nemiphumo emibi kakhulu.
Le mfuneko yokulandela iinkqubo ezicacileyo ifuna uphuhliso indlela yokucinga ehlelekileyo, ethintelayo nenoxanduvaUkwenza uluhlu lokuhlola, ukuqinisekisa izixhobo, ukujonga imeko yendawo, okanye ukuphonononga imiyalelo kuba yinxalenye yendalo yesiqhelo, kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha loo ndlela ifanayo yokwenza izinto iphelela kwezinye iindawo zobomi bemihla ngemihla.
Abantu abanomkhwa wokujonga iihashe, iintambo, iintloko, okanye izixhobo zokubhabha badla ngokusebenzisa loo ngqwalaselo xa becwangcisa umsebenzi wabo, belawula imisebenzi yasekhaya, okanye bejongene nezigqibo ezibalulekileyo. Ngale ndlela, lo mkhwa usebenza njengendawo yoqeqesho apho baziqhelanisa khona. ingqwalasela kwiinkcukacha kunye nolawulo lomngcipheko, izakhono ezimbini eziluncedo kakhulu xa ujongene neemeko ezinzima okanye ezingalindelekanga.
Ukulandela imithetho akugcini nje ngokukhusela ukhuseleko lomzimba, kodwa kukwakhuthaza imvakalelo yokhuseleko lwangaphakathi: ukwazi ukuba amanyathelo afanelekileyo athathiweyo kunciphisa ixhala lokulindela kunye nokukhathazeka okugqithisileyo. Olu xolo xa ujongene nokungaqiniseki sisithako esisisiseko... ukuqina kwengqondokuba ivumela ukusabela okuzolileyo kwiziganeko ezingalindelekanga.
Ngale ndlela, ezinye izinto ozithandayo zisebenza phantse njengesixhobo sokulinganisa apho umntu efunda khona ukuvavanya iingozi, enze izigqibo ezilumkileyo, kwaye amkele uxanduva. Olu qheliselo luqhubekayo luqinisa amandla okugcina ingqondo ipholile, isixhobo esibalulekileyo xa kuvela iingxaki kumsebenzi, kusapho, okanye kubomi bentlalo.
Umzamo, ukungonwabi, kunye nokunyamezela ukukhungatheka
Enye into ebalulekileyo kulwalamano phakathi kwezinto ozithandayo kunye nokuqina inxulumene umzamo womzimba okanye wengqondo Uninzi lwezi zinto zifuna umgudu. Ezemidlalo, izifundo zobugcisa, okanye iiprojekthi ezinkulu zobuchule zikwenza ujongane nokudinwa, iimpazamo, kunye nenkqubela phambili ecothayo, into engathandekiyo rhoqo.
Ukuziqhelanisa rhoqo kunceda ukwahlula phakathi kokudinwa okuqhelekileyo okunxulumene nokuzibhokoxa kunye neempawu ezibonisa ukuba kufuneka uyeke. Lo mahluko ubaluleke kakhulu kubantu abadla ngokuzibhokoxa kakhulu. ixhala okanye ukuphaphama kakhulu malunga neemvakalelo zomzimbaNgokuqeqeshwa kwindawo eqhelekileyo nekhuselekileyo, bafunda ukuba ayizizo zonke iingxaki ezibangela ingozi, nto leyo enciphisa umkhwa wokuphepha nayiphi na imeko engathandekiyo.
Iinkqubo zokuzilolonga eziqhubekayo kunye nezinto ozithandayo ezifuna ukuhambelana ziye zanxulunyaniswa kwizifundo ezahlukeneyo kunye uqeqesho olungcono kwezinye iindawoUkususela kwimisebenzi yasekhaya ukuya ekulawuleni ixesha kunye nokufezekisa izibophelelo zomsebenzi, ngokuphinda umjikelo womzamo-ukuphumla-ukuphucula, umntu uqonda ingcamango yokuba iziphumo zihlala ziza emva kokunyamezela, kungekhona ukwaneliseka kwangoko.
Ngokwembono yokumelana nobunzima, ukuhlala noxinzelelo oluncinci kwimeko yokuzithandela—ukungaphumeleli ukunyuka, ukwenza impazamo kumculo, ukuphinda uzobe umfanekiso izihlandlo ezininzi—kuvumela umntu ukuba aphuhlise ukunyamezela okukhulu iimpazamo kunye nokusilelaAsikuko ukuphepha ukungakhululeki nangayiphi na indlela, kodwa kukufunda ukuyilawula, ukuyilawula, nokuqhubeka nayo.
Kwangaxeshanye, impumelelo efunyenweyo kulo mdlalo wokuzonwabisa iqinisa inkolelo yokuba umntu unako ukoyisa imiqobo nokuba indlela iba nzima. Loo myalezo wangaphakathi othi "Ndiye ndoyisa imiqobo ngaphambili" ubonakala uxabisekile xa ubomi buzisa imingeni engenakukhethwa okanye engayi kuhlehliswa.
Ubuwena, ukuzithemba, kunye nokuqonda injongo
Izinto esizithandayo azitshintshi nje kuphela oko sikwenzayo, kodwa zikwatshintsha indlela esizibona ngayoUkuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi efuna ukusebenzisana, ubunkokeli, okanye ukuzibophelela okuqhubekayo kunokutshintsha ubuntu bomntu, kutshintshe ekubeni ngumntu ongaziboni njengomntu oxakekileyo okanye ongazinzanga ukuya ekubeni ngumntu onoxanduva okwaziyo ukujongana nemingeni.
Amaziko afana ne Kliniki yaseCleveland Bathi izinto ozithandayo nezibalulekileyo zinegalelo ukuqinisa ukuzithemba, ukucacisa injongo yobomi kunye nokwakha ukuqinaUkufikelela kwiinjongo kwindawo yokuzonwabisa—umzekelo, ukugqiba indlela, ukubonisa umsebenzi, okanye ukufunda umsebenzi onzima—kudala isiseko samava amahle apho kulula khona ukujongana nezinye iinjongo ngaphandle kokuzonwabisa.
Xa umntu eququzelela iqela lezemidlalo elingaqeqeshwanga, elungiselela uhambo lokuhamba ngeenyawo, okanye elawula iklabhu yenkcubeko, uqala ukuqonda loo mfanekiso womntu othembekileyo nozimiseleyo. Ukusuka apho, ukugcina imikhwa yokugcina ixesha, ucwangciso, kunye nokuqonda impilo kuba yinto ebalulekileyo. Iyayeka ukuba yinto yokuzincama kwaye ihambelana nobuntu obutsha eyakhiweyo.
Olu tshintsho lubaluleke kakhulu kwiimeko zobunzima. Ukuziva ufanelekile kwindawo ethile, nokuba ngumsebenzi wokuzilibazisa, kunokusebenza njengento echasene neemeko zokungaphumeleli okanye ubunzima kwezinye iindawo. Umntu uyazi ukuba, nokuba izinto azihambi kakuhle kwindawo enye, Inezixhobo, izakhono, kunye neendawo apho ivakalelwa kukuba iyasebenza., nto leyo enciphisa impembelelo yeemvakalelo yokubetha.
Ngaphezu koko, izinto ozithandayo zihlala zikhuthaza uluntu: amaqela oqeqesho, imibutho yenkcubeko, iiklabhu zemidlalo, okanye amaqela obuchule. iziseko zentlalo zibonelela ngenkxasoukuqatshelwa kunye namathuba entsebenziswano, konke oku, ngokutsho kobungqina bengqondo, Ziyaqinisa ukuqina kwaye zisebenza njengomnatha wokhuseleko. ngamaxesha anzima.
Imiqobo yokudibanisa umdlalo kunye nendlela yokuyoyisa
Nangona kukho zonke ezi zibonelelo, akusoloko kulula ukufumana ixesha lokwenza into oyithandayo kubomi bemihla ngemihla. umthwalo womsebenzi, uxanduva losapho, kunye nokudinwa okuqokeleleneyo Ezi zihlala ziyimiqobo ephambili xa kufikwa ekuqaleni okanye ekugcineni umdlalo rhoqo.
Indlela esebenzayo iquka bhukisha ubuncinane usuku olunye okanye ixesha elithile ngeveki ukuzinikela kumsebenzi okhethiweyo, bewujonga njengesivumelwano esibalulekileyo. Oku kwahlulwa ngokucacileyo phakathi kwexesha lokuphumla kunye neembopheleleko kuqinisekisa ukuba lo msebenzi awuhlali uthatha indawo yangasemva.
Iingcali zikwacebisa ukuba zingaqali into entsha yokuzonwabisa ngamaxesha okudinwa kakhulu okanye ukuhlutha. Ukuqala inkqubo entsha kudla ngokufuna amandla angakumbi Kulula ukuyigcina xa sele izinzile, ngoko ke kulula ngakumbi ukuqala olo tshintsho xa umthwalo wengqondo nowomzimba ulawuleka.
Kukwaluncedo ukuzinika imvume yokuba Hlola imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo ngaphandle koxinzelelo. ude ufumane evuselela umdla ngokwenene. Ukuba into oyithandayo ayikuchukumisi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kunzima ukuyigcina kwaye iya kuba ngomnye umthombo wokukhungatheka. Kwelinye icala, xa umsebenzi uvuselela umdla, umdla, okanye ulwaneliseko, inkuthazo yangaphakathi yenza umgudu ofunekayo wokuwugcina unyamezeleke ngakumbi.
Okokugqibela, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuziqeqesha okunxulumene nezinto ozithandayo akuthethi ukuba ngqongqo. Ukulungisa umgangatho wemfuno ngokwesigaba sobomi—ukuba mnene ngamaxesha anzima, ukuba nebhongo ngakumbi xa unamandla angakumbi—kunceda ukuqinisekisa ukuba loo nto uyithandayo ihlala ingumthombo wolonwabo. impilo-ntle, ukuqina kunye nokukhula komntu okuzinzileyokwaye kungengomthwalo owongezelelweyo.
Xa zijongwa zizonke, kuyacaca ukuba izinto ozithandayo zingaba ngumhlobo ofihlakeleyo kodwa onamandla kakhulu ekujonganeni nobomi ngozinzo olukhulu: Ziyakha ixesha, ziqeqesha ukunyamezela, zomeleza ubuwena, kwaye zibonelela ngeendawo ezikhuselekileyo zokufunda ukumelana nomzamo kunye nokukhungathekaNgaphezu kobunewunewu obungenakuthelekiswa nanto, ukuzinikela kwixesha kwinto oyenzayo enenjongo kunokuba yenye yezona ndlela zilula neziqhelekileyo zokunyamekela impilo yengqondo nokuhlakulela ukuqina kwemihla ngemihla.
