Yonke imihla silwa idabi elithe cwaka ngokuchasene neenkolelo ezithi, singaziqondi, zibeke izigqibo zethu, ubudlelwane bethu, kunye nentlalontle yethu. Ukuzichonga kunye nokuziguqula ngundoqo ekubuyiseleni kwakhona ukuzithemba, sivuleleke kumathuba kwaye sakhe imikhwa esempilweni. Apha uya kufumanisa ukuba ziphi na, apho zivela khona kwaye indlela yokuzitshintsha ngeendlela ezisebenzayo, ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa uludwe lweenkolelo eziyityhefu ekufuneka zigxothwe ngokukhawuleza.
Ziziphi iinkolelo ezithintelayo kwaye zikuchaphazela njani?
Inkolelo yiyo nayiphi na ingxelo esiyithatha njengenyani kwaye oko kukhokelela ekuziphatheni kwethu. Kukho abo baxhobisayo (bayasiqhuba): Ndiyakwazi, ndiyakwazi) kunye nokunciphisa (ziyasibuyisela umva: Ndililize, ndililize). Azichaphazeli ukuzithemba kuphela: zikwachaphazela ukwenza izigqibo, ubuchule kunye nendlela esinxulumana ngayo nomsebenzi, imali okanye iqabane lethu. Umntu ngamnye uqwalasela a inkqubo yenkolelo esihluza ubunyani kunye neemeko esikubonayo kangangoko sinako.
Apho bavela khona: ebuntwaneni, amava kunye nesoftware yengqondo
Iinkolelo zethu zakhiwe ebuntwaneni (imiyalezo evela kusapho, isikolo kunye nokusingqongileyo), zomelezwa ngamava kwaye zifakwe njenge indlela emfutshane yengqondo ukugcina amandla. Ingqondo yenza ngokubanzi: ukuba wenze kakubi ekuthetheni esidlangalaleni ngo-12, inokurekhoda "Andikwazi«. Ukongeza, sidla ngokujonga iimpawu ukuba qinisekisa into esiyikholelwayo. Kongezwa kule nto ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo (iindlela zokucinga ezicalu-calulo) eziphembelela iinkolelo ezinemida:
- Ukucinga kwePolarized: konke okanye akukho nto.
- Ukwenziwa ngokubanzi ngokubanzi: chaza imeko enye kuyo yonke into.
- Ukuthabatha okukhethiweyo: bona kuphela i-negative.
- Ukuzityhola: ukutyhola ngokugqithisileyo.
- ukuqiqa ngokweemvakalelo: ukukholelwa ukuba le nto ndiyivayo yinyani.
- Iitotali kunye neelebhile: «soloko», «soze», «Andinamsebenzi».
- Ukufunda ingqondo nokuvumisa: ukuthabatha lula oko abanye bakucingayo okanye okuza kwenzeka.
Bakwasebenzisa izikimu ezinzulu ezifana ne ukugqibelela ("Mandingasileli"), the Umngcipheko ("Andikwazi ukujamelana nobomi"), i ukulahlwa okanye ukuzithoba (ndicela ukuthandwa). Konke oku kufuna ukusikhusela kwiintlungu, kodwa ngokufuthi thina iibhlokhi.
Ukuqala njani ukuzitshintsha (ngobungqina kunye nokusebenza)
Ukuhlaziya isoftwe yengqondo kufuna ukunyanzelwa, hayi amandla akhohlakeleyo. Ezi zitshixo zengqondo zengqondo zisebenza:
- Nakana iipateni: Bhala phantsi xa ubuziva kakubi kunye nokuba ubucinga ntoni; uya kubona uphindaphindo.
- Yeka ukukhangela iziqinisekiso: Irada yakho iya kukholisa ukuqinisekisa okungalunganga; yibhale phantsi ukuze ingasebenzi.
- Zicel’ umngeni ngobungqinaBubuphi ubungqina bokwenene obuxhasa le ngcamango? Yintoni ephikisana nayo?
- Hlaziya ngokutsha ngokuchanekileyo: ukusuka ku "Andikwazi" ukuya ku "Ndiyafunda kwaye ndiyaphucula ngokuziqhelanisa. "
Imizekelo eluncedo yohlengahlengiso: ukusuka kwi «Andinaxesha"ukuya"Ndibeka phambili "into ebalulekileyo"; ye"Andilunganga"ukuya"Ndinezakhono kwaye ndinako ukuzomeleza." Liphephe igama elithi "zama«: buyisela «ndiza kuzama» nge «Ndiza namhlanje kangangemizuzu eli-15." Kwaye ukuba ubanjwe kubuzwilakhe "fanele«, zama lo msebenzi: dwelisa 20 «kufuneka» kwaye uzifunde zitshintshela ku- «Andifuni«; uya kufumana iminqweno yabanye abantu onokuthi uyiyeke ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala.
El ngqondweni kunye nokucamngca kukunceda ukuba ugcine iingcinga ngaphandle kokuzigweba, unciphise ukuphinda usebenze, kwaye wenze kube lula kuwe ukuba ukhethe iimpendulo ezihambelana kakhulu nemilinganiselo yakho. Xa kukho imithwalo enzima yeemvakalelo okanye ukwenzakala, kunokuba luncedo ukuba uhlengahlengiso kwengqondo ikhokelwa kunyango okanye iindlela ezifana ne-EMDR okanye i-EFT ukucubungula imvakalelo.
Impembelelo emsebenzini kunye nobudlelwane
Njengeqela, iinkolelo ezifana ne "Andinguye omnye wabangcono"Okanye"Andisoze ndibe yinkokeli ebalaseleyo»ukunciphisa ubuchule kunye nokusungula izinto ezintsha. Ukuzichonga kuwe nakwiqela kuphucula i ukuzithemba, ukuthatha inxaxheba kunye nomgangatho wezigqibo. Iithegi ezifana «Ndimncinci kakhulu"Okanye"Andinamava aneleyo» inokuguqulwa ibe yizicwangciso ezibambekayo ze kufunda kunye nokuqeqeshwa.
Amagama anetyhefu aphembelela iinkolelo
Ulwimi lubumba amava. Waphephe amagama awonakalisayo ukuzithemba okanye abethelele imida engeyomfuneko: "ukungakwazi", "iyamangalisa", "ndiyakufuna" (ukuxhomekeka), "Andikwazi", "Kufuneka/andifanele", "akunakwenzeka", "intiyo", "ukudika", "umsindo" njengeleyibhile yesazisi, "ityala" njengendawo yokusabela, "imbi", "ayinamsebenzi", "better"kufunda«), «imbi» xa ingachanekanga.
Imizekelo eqhelekileyo yokukhawulela iinkolelo
Ukuziqonda kukhawulezisa utshintsho. Ezinye eziqhelekileyo:Andilunganga«,«Andilufanelanga uthando«,«Ndinetyala kuyo yonke into«,«Andikwazi ukuthemba mntu«,«Ndibuthathaka«,«Andinayo italente«,«andisoze ndiphumelele«. Jonga indlela abazibonakalisa ngayo ngolwimi lwakho kwaye wenze isigqibo malunga nokuba yintoni na vavanyo Ndingadinga ingqondo yakho ukuze ubenze babhetyebhetye.
Iinkolelo ezili-11 ezinetyhefu ekufuneka uziyeke (kunye nendlela yokuzibona ngendlela eyahlukileyo)
1) Andonelanga ngokwaneleyo
Ekuphela kwento oya kuyiphumeza ngokukholelwa koku kukuba, awunjalo. Kubalulekile ukugxila iingcamango ezintle ezinokukunika ezo khuthazo okanye amandla afihliweyo ukuba kufuneka ufezekise iinjongo ozibekele yona. Iingcinga ezimbi ziya kukutyhalela kude kuzo.
2) Sele ndiphulukene nethuba lam
Usenokuba uphoswe lithuba elibaluleke kakhulu… kodwa akufanele uzisole. Ihlabathi lizele mathuba ukuba unokuthatha ithuba; ngoko vuka, ucoce ingqondo yakho, kwaye ucinge ngazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo ezisezayo. Ngeli xesha, uya kuba ukulungele.
Ividiyo: «Ungaphoswa lithuba»
[imephu]3) andinasizathu sokuncuma ngoku
Awuyidingi. Nje ndincumile Siqhatha ingqondo ukuba ifumane inxenye yaloo mvakalelo. Zibekele ecaleni iimvakalelo zosizi kwaye ufunde ukuncuma ngakumbi kwihlabathi. Uya kutsala amathamsanqa ebomini bakho.
4) Ubomi bam bube lula
Masingaziqhathi, phantse ubomi bomntu wonke bunobunzima. Owona mceli mngeni awukwenzi kube lula, kodwa kukwazi ukwenza yiphephe loo miqobo kwaye sikwazi ukufikelela esiphelweni senjongo yethu.
5) Ngoku ndidiniwe kakhulu ... kungcono ndiyenze kamva
Inyathelo lokuqala lokusilela kuku ziyeke izinto zenziwe. Zoba amandla owadingayo apho angekhoyo kwaye ufezekise oko ubuzimisele ukukwenza. Uya kuba nombulelo kwixesha elizayo ngokuba nzima kuwe.
6) andinaxesha
Le yinto esihlala sizixelele yona… nangona kunjalo, kukho enye, kufuneka sifunde ukuyenza lungiselela iiyure yosuku. Ngokulandela ishedyuli engqongqo kunye neepateni eziphindaphindayo, siya kuba nexesha layo nantoni na esiyifunayo.
7) Ndinezibophelelo ezininzi kakhulu
Liyinene elokuba iimbopheleleko zithatha ixesha ebesilikhankanyile ngaphambilana lokwenza oko sifuna ukukufeza. Noko ke, sinako fumana ixesha elaneleyo ukwenza yonke into ngaxeshanye. Zama ukufumana imizuzwana embalwa ngosuku ngalunye kwaye uya kubona ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani ngokupheleleyo.
8) Ndidinga isiqinisekiso ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale
Awuyi kufumana naluphi na uhlobo lwesiqinisekiso ... ngoko ke kuya kufuneka ingozi Ukuba ngokwenene ufuna ukuphumelela. Ukuba ibilula ngolo hlobo, besiya kuphumelela sonke kwaye bekungayi kufuneka sisebenze nzima kakhulu ukuyiphumeza. Indlela ayisoloko ilula, kodwa ukuba usebenza ngokungaguqukiyo, iziphumo ziya kufika kungekudala.
9) Abantu abakholelwa kum kuba ndihlukile
Sonke sahlukile ngendlela yethu, ngoko ayisosizathu sibambekayo. Thatha inzuzo eyahlukileyo kuwe ukuze ugqame kwabanye.
10) Andifanelanga ukuphathwa ngcono
bonke sifanelwe yimpatho efanayo Ke ukuba umntu ukuthobile nangayiphi na indlela, lixesha lokuba uphakame uthethe into ekufuneka uyithethile ebusweni bakhe.
11) ubomi bam buyadika
Kusenokuba njalo, kodwa kusezandleni zakho ukukwazi ukuyitshintshaNgaba ukruqukile yindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla? Zama ukufumana into eyahlukileyo.
Ziphephe ezi isimilo kwaye uya kukwazi ukugqibezela indlela yakho ngempumelelo.
Ukuguqula iinkolelo asingomcimbi wamabona-ndenzile: kuyafuneka jonga, umbuzo y mkhuba Iimpendulo ezintsha. Ngolwimi oluchanekileyo, imikhwa yokujonga ingqalelo, kwaye, ukuba uyayifuna, inkxaso yobuchwephesha, inkqubo yakho yenkolelo ingaba ngumhlobo owandisa amandla akho, ubudlelwane bakho kunye neziphumo zakho.