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Sitsho ukuba asonyusi ukuzithemba kwethu
Ndiya kuyivuma: Andithandi ukuthi hayi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, nanini na umntu endicela into ethile, ndiye ndithi ewe. Andikwazi ukuzibamba. Ndiye ndacinga ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka kum kwaye ndafikelela kwisigqibo sokuba kungenxa ye imfuneko yoqhagamshelwano loluntu Ndinayo, andifuni kuphoxa mntu. Ngelixa ukuthi u-Ewe kubonakala ngathi yimpendulo elula ngenxa yesi sizathu singasentla, oku akuthethi ukuba yiyo impendulo engcono mamaxesha amaninzi.
Masifunde ukuthi Hayi ngobubele, ngokucacileyo kwaye ukuhlonela imida yethu.
Ukungazi ukuba uthi hayi: kutheni kunzima kangaka kuthi
Ukukwazi ukuthi hayi akulula. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubunzima buvela kwi- ukoyika ukwaliwa okanye kungquzulwano, kophezulu idinga ukukholisa kunye ukuzijongela phantsi. Amava angaphambili apho ukwala kungafunyanwanga kakuhle kunye neemeko zenkcubeko ezivuza ukufumaneka rhoqo ukuzimela geqe. Konke oku kunokubangela ukuxhalaba, ukungazithembi kunye nomkhwa woku sincame izilangazelelo zethu kwabanye.
Ukufunda ukuthi hayi ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo kukuqonda oko unelungelo lokuthi hayi. Iimfuno zakho zibaluleke ngokufanayo nezabanye abantu. Ukwala kunokuba sisenzo ukunyaniseka nokucaca Kubudlelwane: Ngokubeka imida, unceda abanye baqonde ezona zinto zibalulekileyo kuwe. Ukuziqhelanisa ukuqinisekiswa Kubandakanya ukuvakalisa into oyicingayo novakalelwa ngayo ngendlela ecacileyo nenentlonelo, ukuzinyamekela ngaphandle kokuzenzakalisa.
Izicwangciso zokuthi hayi ngokuziqinisekisa
- Nxulumana neemvakalelo zakho: Chonga ukuba isicelo sikuchaphazela njani kwaye leliphi ixabiso ofuna ukulikhusela.
- Chaza imbono yakho: Enkosi ngesindululo kwaye uchaze ukwala kwakho ngokuthe ngqo nangokunyaniseka.
- Gqiba ngokukhawuleza: Xa unengcamango ecacileyo, yitsho ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuze uphephe ukungaqondani.
- Sukuzama ukukholisa wonke umntu: misela imida kwaye ugweme ukulungelelaniswa ukuze ukhangeleke kakuhle.
- Lawula ukufikelela kwakho: : Qaphela izinto eziphambili zakho kunye namandla akhoyo kuqala.
- Ziphephe izibophelelo ezingafunwayo: Musa ukwamkela ukuba awukwazi ukunikezela; khathalela ukuthembeka kwakho.
- Jonga ulwimi lwakho lomzimba: Ukuma okuqinileyo, ukudibana kwamehlo kunye nethoni ezolileyo yomeleza umyalezo wakho.
- Yixabise inkululeko yakho: Ukukhetha ngokunyanisekileyo kunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye komeleza ukuzithemba.
Masifunde ukuthi hayi:
1) Ukuthi hayi akufuneki kube yinto embi.
Guqula itshiphu ekwenza ukholelwe ukuba a Akukho msindo okanye uyala. Ukuba omnye umntu uvule, bhetyebhetye kunye ingqondo eqhelekileyo, uya kwamkela uHayi ngempendulo.
2) Phikisana ukuba kutheni usithi Hayi.
Ayikokuthi hayi uhambe. Cacisa, ngokunyaniseka, i isizathu sokuqala exhasa isigqibo sakho: kuya kukunceda ukuba uzibeke ngoku yandisa ukuzithemba kwakho.
3) Masingakhuthazi ukuzingca.
Yithi Hayi ngeli xesha, kodwa ndiyazi UkunyanisekaNikeza ngoncedo lwakho ngelinye ixesha okanye ubamangalise ngento abayidinga ngokwenene.
4) Funda ukuthi Hayi ngembeko.
Kuphephe ukudanisa Akukho yomile. Sebenzisa ububele kunye nethoni ezolileyo.
5) Cebisa enye indlela.
Ukhetho. Ukuba awungomntu ulungileyo, cebisa omnye umntu. Ukuba unomdla, kodwa hayi ngoku, Cebisa umzuzwana eyahlukileyo.
6) Sukungeneka lula.
Okokuqala eyakho phambili. Emva koko, ukuba uyafuna, unokufumaneka ngakumbi.
7) Ukuthi Hayi, uyonyusa ukuzithemba kwakho.
Yithi Hayi kwinto ongayithandiyo okanye into engenagalelo kuwe. Uyakhetha kwaye ukuzithemba kwakho kukomeleziwe.
8) Cothisa impendulo yakho.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uphendule kwangoko. Thatha a ixesha lokucinga.
9) Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ukholise wonke umntu.
Unomdla kunye nezinto eziphambili. Ukuba iyamkhathaza umntu, yingxaki yakhe leyo. Fuente
Iindlela zokuthi hayi (ngemizekelo)
Hayi ngqo
INombolo ethe ngqo Lula: uthi nje "hayi." Isenokubonakala ikhawuleza ngokuxhomekeke kwithoni yakho, ke lumka xa uhambisa intetho yakho.
- "Andiphumi namhlanje."
Akanavelwano
Ziqonde iimvakalelo ukusuka kwelinye kwaye ugcine umda wakho. Ungasebenzisa "isandwich": positive – negative – positive.
- "Ndiyakubona ukuba womelele, kodwa andikwazi ukukunceda ngoku; ndiyathemba ukuba uza kuyilungisa kungekudala."
Akuqiqi
Kubandakanya enye ingcaciso emfutshane oko kwenza kube lula ukuqonda.
- "Andikwazi, kufuneka ndilungiselele intetho."
Akukho khetho kwikamva
Ilungile xa ufuna, kodwa ayiloxesha lilungileyo.
- "Ndiyathanda, kodwa andikwazi ngomso. Sizobonana ngempelaveki ezayo?"
Akukho phando
Unikezela nge inxalenye elawulekayo endaweni yayo yonke into.
- "Andikwazi ukuphatha yonke intshukumo, kodwa ndiyakwazi ukuphatha iibhokisi ezincinci."
Ayimiswanga
UPita ixesha lokugqiba kwiimeko ezinzima.
- "Mandijonge ishedyuli yam kwaye ndizakuqinisekisa nawe kamva."
Iindlela zokuqinisekisa ezisebenzayo
Ubuchule beSandwich: enkosi - iyanqaba - ivala ngenqaku elilungileyo. "Enkosi ngokundicinga; andikwazi ngoku; ndiyathemba ukusebenzisana kungekudala."
Ingxelo eyaphukileyo: iphinda i umyalezo ofanayo ngokuzolileyo ebusweni bokunyanzelisa kwakhe. "Ndiyayixabisa, kodwa andinamdla."
Ibhanki yenkungu: iqinisekisa inxalenye kunye namathela kwisigqibo sakho"Ndiyaqonda ukuba sisicwangciso esihle, kodwa andiziva ngathi."
Imisebenzi yokuqeqesha iNombolo
- Ukudlala indima: Ziqhelanise neemeko zokwenyani zokunciphisa ixhala.
- Diario: Urekhoda xa usithi Ewe ethetha uHayi kunye nento oyivayo.
- Ukuphumla kunye nengqondo: ilawula ukusebenza phambi nasemva kokumisela imida.
Indlela yokuthi hayi kwiimeko zemihla ngemihla
Emsebenzini
Sebenzisa imida yobuchwephesha: "Andizukwazi ukucinga oku kongeziweyo ngaphandle kokuhlehlisa ezinye izibophelelo." Inika ezinye iindlela zokwenyani xa kunokwenzeka.
Kusapho
Idibanisa ukuqina kunye novelwano"Asinakuyithenga ngoku; sibeka phambili ukonga." Hlala uhambelana no "Nos."
Kwisicwangciso sentlalo
Gwema ukucaphuka ngokunyaniseka: "Ndifuna ikhefu, ngaba siya kuphinda sihlele?" Cebisa omnye umhla unakekele ibhondi.
Amabinzana ali-10 aqinisekisayo athi Hayi
- Uxabiso ukuba ubucinga ngam, kodwa andikwazi ukuzibophelela ngoku.
- Akukho phakathi kwam izinto eziphambili ngoku; Kufuneka ndigxile kwezinye iiprojekthi.
- Andina space kwi-ajenda yam ukuyinika ingqalelo eyifaneleyo.
- Ndingathanda uncedo, kodwa andikwazi ukuqhubeka nalo okwangoku.
- Umntu ofanelekileyo: Andiqondi ukuba ndingumntu ofanelekileyo; Ndicebisa ukuba uqhagamshelane…
- Iyafuneka ukuhla okwangoku; Ndinezinye izibophelelo.
- Oko akusebenzi kum, kodwa ndingacebisa…?
- Hayi kodwa I gracias ukuze uyinikele kum.
- Hayi enkosi; Ndinciphisa uxanduva gcina impilo-ntle yam.
- Ndiyayibulela ukuqonda kwakho, kodwa impendulo yam nguhayi.
Izitayile zokuziphatha: zisenziwa kwaye ziyazingqina
Passive: uloyiko lokuthi hayi, ukuxhalaba xa uvakalisa izimvo, ukuphepha iingxabano, ukungabikho kokujongana ngqo kwamehlo. Ukuba kubuhlungu ukuphila ngolu hlobo, lixesha lokuba qeqesha ukuzinza.
Ukuzithethelela: Thetha ngomntu wokuqala, mamela kwaye ujonge kakuhle, khulula umzimba wakho, ungangxoli, cacisa ngaphandle kokukhubekisa. Ukuba bayanyanzelisa, sebenzisa irekhodi eyaphukileyo okanye ucele ixesha lokucinga.
Iincwadi zokufunda ukuba uthi hayi
- Sukuthi ewe xa usithi hayi (Fensterheim kunye neBaer): iindlela ezicacileyo ze misela imida kwaye unakekele ubudlelwane.
- Funda ukuthi hayi ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala (David Sandua): amacebo asebenzayo agxile ukuzikhathalela kunye nokuzihlonela.
- Ukuqina: Ukubonakalisa ukuzithemba okusempilweni (Olga Castaner): iingcebiso zokunxibelelana izimvo neemfuno ngempumelelo.
- Ukufunda ukuthi hayi: ukuziqinisekisa (Mireia Canals): ifomathi yebali labantwana, kunye nemithambo kunye iimeko eziyinyani.
Ukuthi hayi ngembeko kukhusela ixesha lakho, kunciphisa uxinzelelo, kwaye komeleza ukuzithemba kwakho; Okukhona usenza ezi ndlela zobuchule, yendalo ngakumbi Kuya kufuneka ukhethe oko kongeza ixabiso kwaye ukwale okungahambelani nexabiso lakho kunye nezinto eziphambili.