Ukwenza ubomi bethu bube nentsingiselo akufuni utshintsho olukhulu kwindlela esiphila ngayo. Ubulula buzalwa kutshintsho lwangaphakathi.
Kwincwadi Iindlela ezingama-50 zokwenza lula ubomi bakho nguPatrick Fanning kunye noHeather Garnos Mitchener, sifumene isikhokelo esikhethekileyo esibonelela Ngama-50 amacebo asebenzayo nabambekayo ukuguqula ubomi bethu ngaphakathi, ukuxabisa eyona nto ibalulekileyo. Lo msebenzi ufanelekile kwabo bafuna ibhalansi kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla, ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane bomntu kunye nokufumana uxolo ekhaya nasemsebenzini.
Undoqo wobomi obulula
Kuqhelekile ukunxulumanisa ubomi obulula kunye nobomi obungqwabalala, obulinganiselweyo okanye obukruqulayo. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ababhali bechaza, ukuphila ubomi obulula akuthethi ukunciphisa amava ethu okanye ukuyeka ukonwaba, kodwa ukubeka phambili oko kongezayo. ixabiso lokwenene kubukho bethu. Njengoko begxininisa: "Ukulula okwenene kusekelwe kwinguqu yangaphakathi evumela ukuba silahle izinto ezingaphezulu kwaye sigxininise kwizinto ezibalulekileyo."
Ubomi obulula, ngokwahlukileyo koko abaninzi banokucinga ngako, buyasityebisa ngokunzulu. Oku kuguqulela kwi thatha ithuba langoku, babe nolwalamano olunentsingiselo nabantu yaye baphelise iziphazamiso ezingeyomfuneko. Le nkqubo inokuba lula kunokuba kubonakala kubulela kwi izibonelelo zengqondo yokuziphatha kwengqondo kunye nokuzivocavoca ebonisa incwadi.
Uza kufumana ntoni kwi Iindlela ezingama-50 zokwenza lula ubomi bakho?
Le ncwadi inika itotali ye Izicwangciso ezingama-50 ezisebenzayo kunye nenyathelo ngenyathelo Yenzelwe utshintsho olukhawulezayo noluhlala ixesha elide. Ezi zicwangciso zibandakanya iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi, ukusuka ekulawuleni ixesha ukuya ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane kunye nokuphuhlisa impilo yengqondo kunye nokomoya.
- Ukuchongwa kwezinto eziphambili: Funda ukugxila kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kwaye ushiye ngasemva iziphazamiso.
- Ulawulo lwexesha olusebenzayo: Fumana izixhobo zokucwangcisa inkqubo yakho, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokwandisa usuku lwakho.
- Impilo yeemvakalelo: Yamkela izenzo ezifana nokucamngca kunye nengqondo ukunciphisa ixhala.
- Relaciones personals: Hlakulela unxibelelwano oluyinyani, phucula izakhono zakho zokumamela, kwaye useke imida esempilweni.
Guqula ubomi bethu ngaphakathi
Enye yeengcamango eziphawulekayo kule ncwadi kukuba ukwenza lula akuthethi “ukwenza okuncinane” okanye “ukuncama.” Ngokutsho kwababhali, kunjalo siphinde sihlolisise ezona zinto zibalulekileyo kuthi uze ugqibe ukuba zeziphi iinkalo ezisizisela uxolo novuyo. Ngokufuthi, sizifumana sivaleleke kumjikelo wokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo nowokuthengisa izinto ezisahlukanisayo kwizinto ezibalulekileyo. Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha azichaphazeli nje kuphela ubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, kodwa kunye nobudlelwane bethu kunye noxolo lwengqondo.
Ngokomzekelo, ngaba ubusazi ukuba ukulwenza lula ulwalamano lwenu kunokuba yimfuneko? Ngamanye amaxesha singqongwe bubudlelwane obuyityhefu obuphelisa amandla ethu. Incwadi icebisa ukuchonga la mandla kwaye uwaguqule okanye umke kuwo, ukubeka phambili olo nxibelelwano lusondla ngokwenene.
Indlela yokujongana nokugxekwa ngokwenza lula ubomi bakho
Isicatshulwa sencwadi sichaza umba obalulekileyo wenkqubo yokwenza lula: ukujongana neempendulo zabo basingqongileyo. Njengoko uFanning noMitchener besitsho, “Xa uqala ukwala ukuthanda izinto eziphathekayo, abanye abantu baya kuba neempendulo ezingalunganga ukusuka ekuthetheni ngembeko ukuya kwintiyo.” Isitshixo, ngokutsho kwababhali, kukugcina umnqweno wakho kwaye uzingise endleleni yakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni ukugxekwa okanye amathandabuzo onokujamelana nawo.
Oku akusebenzi kuphela kubudlelwane obusondeleyo, kodwa nakwindlela uluntu luyalubona ukhetho lwethu. Ukukhetha indlela yokuphila elula kunokubonwa njengocelomngeni olukhoyo kwizithethe zentlalo nenkcubeko, kodwa kunamandla okukhuthaza abanye kunye nokudala utshintsho oluhle lwexesha elide.
Iinzuzo ezibonakalayo zobomi obulula
Izibonelelo zokwenza lula ubomi bakho zininzi kwaye zihlala ixesha elide:
- Uxolo lwengqondo: Ngokuyeka uxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko, unokucaca ngakumbi kwaye ugxininise kwizinto ezibalulekileyo.
- Ubudlelwane obuluqilima: Ubeka phambili unxibelelwano olunentsingiselo ngaphezu kwezinto ezingenamsebenzi.
- Impilo enkulu: Unciphisa amanqanaba okuxhalaba kwaye wonwabele impilo entle ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
- Ixesha elingakumbi kunye namandla: Ngokususa izinto ezingeyomfuneko kunye nokuzibophelela, unokuchitha izixhobo zakho kwizinto ezanelisa ngokwenene.
Le ncwadi ingaphezulu kunesikhokelo; Lubizo esenzweni ukuze siphinde silawule ubomi bethu, sizihlube izinto ezingafanelekanga. Ubulula ayikokulahla, kodwa lukhetho oluqondayo olubhekiselele kokungaphezulu enentsingiselo kunye nomntu.
Recuerda que uthando lwakho inokuba ngumhlobo wakho omkhulu kule nkqubo. Ngelixa abanye banokuchasa okanye babuze ukhetho lwakho, ukuzimisela kwakho kunye nokucaca kuya kuba sisitshixo sokuhlala usendleleni.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba uzive wonwabile ngesiqu sakho. Ngandlela zonke.