Ngokuqinisekileyo sonke siye sakha sanamava esiye saziva sicinezelekile kwaye sikhungathekile, apho ukholo lwethu kuthi lubonakala lushukuma. Le mvakalelo inokubangela ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukuziva uphantsi, kwanokudandatheka. I ukuzijongela phantsi Yingxaki enzulu echaphazela izigidi zabantu, kodwa ikwayinto esinokusebenza kuyo kwaye siyiphucule.
Yintoni ukuzithemba?
Ukuzithemba lixabiso kunye nembono esinayo ngathi. Yindlela esizivavanya ngayo njengabantu ngabanye kwimiba efana nenkangeleko yethu, izakhono, iimvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane.
Xa sicinga kakuhle malunga nokuba singoobani kunye nobuchule bethu, siphuhlisa a ukuzithemba okusempilweni. Ngokuchaseneyo noko, ukuba iingcinga zethu ngokwethu ubukhulu becala ziphosakele, ukuzithemba kunokuchaphazeleka, okukhokelela ekungazithembini okunzulu.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ukuzithemba Ayilungiswanga; Inokuguqulwa ngokuhamba kwexesha ngamava esiphila kuwo kwaye, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kunye nezenzo zokuqonda esizenzayo ukuze siphucule.
I-Dalai Lama kunye nombono wokungabikho kokuzithemba
I-Dalai Lama, inkokeli yokomoya ye-Tibetan Buddhism, kwintlanganiso kunye neengcali zengqondo yaseNtshona, yaxelelwa ukuba eyona ngxaki ixhaphakileyo phakathi kwezigulane kukungabikho kokuzithemba. Kuye, esi sityhilelo sasimangalisa, ekubeni eTibet, abantwana bakhula bengqongwe uthando y inkxaso loluntu luphela, olubanceda bakhe ukhuseleko lobuqu olomeleleyo kwasebuntwaneni.
Nangona kunjalo, kwiinkcubeko zaseNtshona, apho iintsapho zenyukliya zilawula kwaye zinempembelelo enamandla yemiyalezo yemidiya, ukungazithembi Ixhaphake kakhulu. Ukuhlaselwa rhoqo kweengcamango ezingenakufikeleleka kwiintengiso kunye neendaba zoluntu zisikhokelela ekubeni sicinge ukuba asilungile okanye asixabisekanga ngokwaneleyo.
Uluntu lokungazithembi
La ukuzijongela phantsi Ayiveli kwivacuum. Izinto ezifana nenkcubeko yokuthelekisa, ulindelo olungekho ngqiqweni ekuhlaleni, namava obuqu anempembelelo enkulu kwindlela esizijonga ngayo. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, imiyalezo esingqongileyo ichaphazela ukuzithemba kwethu. “Awunelanga” iba yingcinga ephindaphindiweyo.
Ngaphezu koko, ukuthengisa kunye neendaba zoluntu zenza oku kungakhuselekanga, ukukhuthaza iimveliso ezifanelekileyo okanye iindlela zokuphila ezibonakala zingenakufikeleleka. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba sinokuyitshintsha le ngxelo yangaphakathi? Iindaba ezimnandi kukuba sinako, kwaye ukucamngca sisixhobo esisisiseko kule nkqubo.
Indlela ukucamngca kuguqula ngayo ukuzithemba
Ukucamngca asikokwenza nje ukuphumza ingqondo. Impembelelo yayo kwindlela esizibona ngayo kunye nokuzithemba kwethu inzulu:
- Unxibelelwano olunzulu kunye nawe: Ukucamngca kusivumela ukuba sizazi kwaye samkele amandla ethu kunye nobuthathaka bethu. Ngokuseka olu nxibelelwano, sifumanisa ukuba ukungakhuseleki kwethu kuphezulu kwaye kukho umthombo wokuzithemba kwangaphakathi Nzulu kakhulu.
- Ukucwangcisa ngokutsha iinkolelo ezingalunganga: Ngokuziqhelanisa nokucamngca, siyakwazi ukubona iingcinga ezizitshabalalisayo size sizithabathele indawo iziqinisekiso ezilungileyo kunye nokuzithanda. Iingqikelelo ezinje nge-neuroplasticity zibonisa ukuba ingqondo yethu inokudala unxibelelwano olutsha ukutshintsha imikhwa kunye neengcinga.
- UKwazisa ngoNxibelelwano: Ukucamngca kusikhumbuza ukuba siyinxalenye yento enkulu. Ngokusuka kwiingcamango zokuzingca, sinokomeleza ukuzithemba kwethu ngokuqonda ukuba ukusikelwa kwethu umda akuchazi ukubaluleka kwethu ehlabathini.
Ukuzivocavoca okusebenzayo ukucamngca kunye nokuphucula ukuzithemba
Ukuqala ukucamngca kunye nokomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho, landela la manyathelo alula:
- Fumana indawo ethuleyo: Fumana indawo apho unokuzola kwaye ngaphandle kweziphazamiso.
- Qhagamshelana nokuphefumla kwakho: Thatha imizuzu embalwa ukugxila kwi yakho ukuphefumla. Ukuphefumlela ngokunzulu kwaye ukhuphe kancinci kancinci.
- Yiba nomfanekiso ngqondweni wendawo yakho ekhuselekileyo: Khawucinge ngesithuba apho uziva useluxolweni ngokupheleleyo. Isenokuba yindawo yokwenyani okanye yentelekelelo. Gxila kwiinkcukacha: imibala, izandi kunye neemvakalelo.
- Phinda iziqinisekiso ezilungileyo: Ngexesha lokucamngca, cengceleza amabinzana anjengokuthi "Ndanele," "Ndiyayamkela ukuba ndingubani," kwaye "Ndifanelwe ukonwaba."
Lo msebenzi awugcini nje ukuthobisa ingqondo, kodwa uya kunceda ukuba ungene ngaphakathi imiyalezo elungileyo kwaye uqinise eyakho ukuzithemba.
Iinzuzo ezongezelelweyo zokucamngca ukuzithemba
Ukucamngca akupheleliselwanga ekuguquleni iingcinga zethu; nayo iye iinzuzo ezibonakalayo:
- Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo: Ngokucamngca, sinciphisa iihomoni ezinxulumene noxinzelelo, ukwenza lula ukuba nengqondo ecacileyo kwaye igxile ngakumbi.
- Impilo yeemvakalelo engcono: Ukuziqhelanisa rhoqo nokucamngca kukhulisa ukomelela ngokweemvakalelo okusinceda ukuba sijongane nemingeni ngokuzithemba okukhulu.
- Ukwanda kovelwano: Ukufunda ukuziphatha ngobubele nokuqonda ngundoqo ekoyiseni ukungazithembi.
Ukucamngca kungaphezulu kwesixhobo sokuphucula ukuzithemba; Yibhulorho eya kubudlelwane obunempilo nobothando ngakumbi nathi. Ngokuziqhelisela, sikhumbula ukuba sixabisekile, kungekhona ngenxa yoko sikwenzayo okanye oko sinako, kodwa ngenxa yendlela esiyiyo. Lixesha lokuba sizive siseluxolweni nathi kwaye siqale ukuphila ngokuzithemba kwaye ukuzamkela.